to think it’s rude to change nappies in front of guests?

[ChloeAdams120]

Hi all,

Went to a friends house today and my daughter needed her nappy changed. I asked her where should I go change her expecting her to say bathroom or her daughters room. She said just change her on the floor. I was a bit taken back and thought it was unfair on everyone else in the room. Thoughts?

Was it just you and her or were there other guests too?

If it was just you and her and she’s fine with it then it’s fine.

But if there were other people too then I agree you should go somewhere else rather than subject everyone to sitting in a room that will then smell of poo for a while.

I don’t know if I would lay a baby on the bathroom floor to change them tbh not very hygienic.
I’ve seen it done on a table in a cafe before now. That is gross.

@RedRed9
There was 4 parents and 3 toddlers.

I don't see a problem with it if she didn't think it was a problem.

Everyone is different though. My husband always uses our changing mat no matter where we are, and we have never changed him on furniture. On the other hand my SIL is quite happy to change her babies on furniture with no mat.

Her house - she gets to decide where you change your baby. I personally don’t like guests changing their babies out of my view because then you can’t remind them to pick up the nappy or clean up smears of shit.

It wouldn’t bother me

Nooooo this is so gross! I don’t want to smell baby poo from someone else’s baby, and I doubt someone wants to smell it from my baby! Yikes!

Yanbu.

I love babies, but would rather not be subject to their poo stench, thank very much!

@crispysausagerolls do you think a baby could crap it’s nappy in the same room as you, or even get changed somewhere in your house, without you smelling it?

Wouldn't bother me at all.

It's a long time since I had to change a nappy, but when my DC were at the nappy stage, I wouldn't have thought twice about changing them while talking. My friends likewise.

It seems a bit Hyacinth Bouquet for anyone to be worrying about this.

Sometimes people don’t want to say so just say what they think will be acceptable. Friend may have preferred bathroom but would have preferred you to say/direct the conversation

Wouldn't bother me at all.

Fine to change a happy in front of others. Regardless of the content.

Would adults wee or poo in front of guests?
Might have been normal several centuries ago, but I think we're more civilised now.
I've done a fair bit of nappy changing, & I don't want to see or smell it again.

Yanbu. I would always take them off somewhere, for my child's dignity as much as anything.

um... babies fill their nappies in front of guests all the time!
And belch & sick up & have double barrelled runny noses.
Free flowing vomitters too.

Never in front of guests,it's not polite.

That's really weird. What do you think will happen if you change your baby in your friend's living room? Just get the job done and carry on your chat

It depends, my sister and best friends babies then I’m not fussed. Others then yeah I’d expect them to go upstairs to the bathroom or nursery

I can't understand people who can't seem to smell poo. Then carry on drinking tea in a room that now stinks of poo.

If all of the guests were parents of the toddlers then wet yes, dirty I'd still use the bathroom.. however if I have guests over that don't have children then I will go elsewhere regardless

Wouldn’t/ doesn’t bother me at all.

I'm not really bothered by it, if we were all sat around eating a meal I would take myself off to another room, but otherwise changing them on the sofa (with appropriate changing mat underneath) is totally ok.

If my friends with babies/toddlers asked me, I'd offer DC2's changing table but I wouldn't actively discourage them from using the sofa/floor, so long as they have said changing mat and happy to risk putting their back out bending on the floor!

You asked and she was happy with it so I wouldn't worry. I'm not really fussed on stuff like that as long as mum is happy.