to think it’s rude to change nappies in front of guests?

[ChloeAdams120]

Hi all,

Went to a friends house today and my daughter needed her nappy changed. I asked her where should I go change her expecting her to say bathroom or her daughters room. She said just change her on the floor. I was a bit taken back and thought it was unfair on everyone else in the room. Thoughts?

What about if you had guests in your own home?
I will always go to a bathroom or hallway to change my children in someone else's home. In my own home with guests however, I will change on the changing table which is in the living room for ease.

When there were 3 other toddlers there? So clearly every parent in the room is already regularly exposed to nappies?
Wouldn’t bother me at all. And I probably wouldn’t even notice if my friend was changing their baby.

I hate this. It's revolting. Shit is shit and toddler shit stinks.

And I don't care if everyone else in the room is going through it - my own toddler's crap was bad enough; I didn't need to be exposed to everyone else's.

Plus changing a shitty nappy when you are not in close proximity to soap and water is desperately unhygienic.

If I'd been you, I would have asked where the bathroom was and said you'd prefer to use that.

I have definitely changed nappies in the same room as other parents. I usually ask where to change them, and the host usually produces their changing mat that's kept in the living room to change them there. The other guests also change their toddlers too.

If I was with friends that didn't have children/had children out of nappies, I would probably move elsewhere but wouldn't be changing them on a bathroom floor.

Not bothered. Usually changed DS in the living room if we were at home, family members have changed their DC in their living rooms when I've been there. As long as it's fine as cleanly as possible I don't care and would be happy for a visitor to change their babies nappy in my living room, hall or bathroom, whichever they preferred.

You are being unreasonable I don't see why it's a problem at all. I'd say it was perfectly normal.

They are all other baby/toddler parents? No problem, carry on.

If it's mixed company and some people aren't in the baby stage I'd probably excuse myself.

It's a nappy, don't be so daft. There were only parents and toddlers there. You weren't having tea with the queen.

It's awkward coz if OP says
"Sorry, I only like to change nappies in places away from living spaces! Is there somewhere else I can go to change it?" it will make the next parent feel odd, who decides they would just as well take up host's offer.

Why is it awkward to ask to use a room where there is soap and running water when there's a possibility you might get shit on your hands? Good grief

YABU. I doubt any of the parents batted an eyelid. Whenever I go to a friends house I just change wherever and they do the same here. They've all got toddlers, with under 3s it either wouldn't of been that long ago they were in nappies or in nappies themselves full-time or overnight. If host and other guests don't mind, what's the issue?

Awkward if OP is implying she has a dim view of other people who would choose to change the nappy in the room that host designated that's all.

-Wondering why I bothered with this thread.

Big difference between
a) a wet nappy - seriously inoffensive so who cares.
b) a breast fed baby under 6m with pretty inoffensive poo - if the host doesn't mind, roll with it
c) a big weaned baby with grim adult type poo - leave the room/use bathroom.

Personally I wouldn't like it

Herpesfreesince03

The smell is much more aggressive once unleashed!!!

Can't see what the issue is.

I wouldn’t have asked and just gone to the loo with the baby.

I wouldn't change my baby in front of anyone other than her dad and GPs out of respect for her. Is that weird? I just think it's a bit much in front of others tbh

It wouldn't bother me. I normally tell people they can go into the nursery as there's a changing 'station' plus wipes, cream, etc, but would hate them to think I was asking them to leave the room. I wouldn't generally do it in the kitchen mind you, so if we were sitting in there when visiting someone else I'd probably take them somewhere else.

Ugh. Someone did theirs on my new settee once. I was speechless.

@Fishcakey

That’s just so antisocial and rude! 🤢

It's her house, she is not bothered why would it be rude?

Rude is changing without asking for the bathroom! But I have seen young mother starting to change without asking, then realising mid-way what they were doing and being mortified. Your brain gets foggy sometimes.

When you are surrounded with parents of kids the same age, no one minds. Then they grow up and the guest nappies can be changed in bathrooms again

If the host wasn't bothered, I wouldn't be. I personally don't mind it either.

I’ve never really come across baby or toddler poo that smells much.

Doesn’t bother me at all.

Where were you expected to wash your hands afterwards? I’m always aghast at parents who think it’s ok to change a dirty nappy in close confines to other people and then don’t bother to wash their hands. It seems a massive disconnect to me, especially in the current climate of COVID-19 and shopping locusts sweeping the supermarket shelves of soaps and hand gels.