SIL's husband edited photo of my baby

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SIL got married 3 months ago. Her husband ( my BIL) got added to family whatsapp group where we frequently share our 4 month old baby's photos with PIL. We have an understanding with PIL to not share our baby's photos on any other means of social media, as we value our privacy.

Today BIL photoshopped an old photo of our baby for Holi celebrations - her whole face is painted blue and Happy Holi is written on the photo. When I saw the photo I got quite pissed off someone edited my sweet baby's face. Before I wanted to address it, FIL already wrote he loves the photo and put it as his profile pic on whatsapp (that's another thing I'm not too happy about, but I let it slide for now).
DH saw this and asked his sister to tell her husband to not edit the photos as we are not comfortable with that. SIL sees no harm in this and now is not replying to DH's messages.
So the whole question is AIBU to address this and ask bluntly on the family group to stop editing the pics?
Just to add - I have met BIL once, it's an arranged marriage, so want to go about this in a sensitive way as I don't know him well and don't want to offend him because he must have meant well.
DH thinks I should let this go and we should just stop sharing any photos of our baby. I think I should address this, but unsure how not to cause a family argument

Leave the WhatsApp group. Stop sharing photos.

Let it go

As above.

I don’t know. I edited my sisters baby so the stick he was holding shot a lightening bolt like a wand

But she’s my sis, known her a while and we don’t post others children on social.

Sorry but you seem uptight... This wouldn't bother me.

It's not like him editing it. Means the original no longer exists..

Ultimately you can't stop someone else amending a photo they've copied. Leave the group and stop sharing photos. If you must share them with grandparents, do it via email with strict rules on where they should save them.

Good practice for when DC goes to school and you can't include images of other kids.

eventually it gets to a point that your kids pictures appear on sm....they will attend a party or something - its inevitable.
As for the editing I think its odd but harmless. Id probably let it go.

You have no control over what people do with photos you've shared. They can do anything. You can ask them not to, but they can. They can just stop you from seeing them.

Stop sharing photos if that bothers you. It's the only way.

I thought you were going to say that he had retouched it to remove some perceived flaw.

Do you and your family celebrate Holi? Surely it’s no different to using one of those filters which put an elf hat or Easter bunny ears on? Unless there’s a massive back story I think you’re being precious.

Let it go.
It's not as if every photo you send is sent back to you edited. He's obviously done it for Holi & not for any other reason.
When I read your title I expected a picture to be edited to make a nose smaller, false smile, different hair colour etc. It's hardly altered your child's appearance & is more a filter of colour.
Ask for no more pictures to be edited as you feel uncomfortable or just stop sharing. You sound a bit uptight.

I thought this was going to be about him photoshopping the baby to make her look thinner or something mad like that

Actually doesn't sound like a big deal at all !!!

Edited your "sweet babies face" fgs, lighten up

Let it go. He hasn’t edited her face in the sense of thinking she looks like a toad and Facetuning her or using a filter. Just send a message to everyone in the family that you’d appreciate it if they didn’t share or post photos of your DC on social media or WhatsApp without asking you first for privacy reasons.

From what you have posted there dont seem to be any bad intentions.
Just say that you would prefer them not to do that in the future. And dont make a big deal out of it.

😂😂 If you get anymore uptight your start squeaking when you walk

Mountain out of a molehill, OP. Choose your battles because this isn't one

Why make a big deal over it? You seem highly strung tbh. You'll just cause offence and quite rightly, you'll be the bad person.

What do you hope to accomplish other than to make him feel shit? Stop sharing photos of your child, if your this over the top about them, problem solved.

Sorry but YABU and you sound like hard work......

Is this hill you want to die on? I really wouldn’t make a big deal about it

I thought it was going to say he had edited to to remove a birth mark or something.

Don't share photos anymore. Simple. No need to be so uptight. Is it your pfb

Let it go. I wouldn't stop sharing either, as long as the pictures remain on the private whatsapp group. Honestly, the editing doesn't sound mean or disrespectful and it just comes from a place of wanting to involve your baby in family celebrations. I think that love and affection for children from family members is a good thing and that it's not sensible to put family members off from expressing this (as long as it's not done in a way that could be damaging to the child).

I thought you was going to say that he'd edited it on something like FaceTune. You know, made her nose smaller or eyes bigger or changed her skin tone or added longer lashes etc.
That would be 'changing your sweet babies face'

Putting a novelty filter over a picture? You need to lighten up a bit. No one is going to think your child is blue and comes attached with 'Holi' (or whatever the words are) floating above her head.

Please relax a bit.

I can't have pictures of my DD shared anywhere because we're under a protection order for our safety, so I don't send pictures to anyone I don't know, or trust to abide by the order.
If you really don't want anyone to share/edit your child's pictures then just don't share them; once they're out in the public domain you can't control what happens to them.

Of course he shouldn't have done that. Not his baby.

As long as it was strictly kept on the family WhatsApp group I don’t think it would bother me much. However you say you’ve only met your BIL once which puts a bit of a different spin on it - it seems a bit over-familiar. Maybe he thought you’d find it funny but you don’t share the same sense of humour.
My family know I HATE social media and wouldn’t forward photos of me or my dc’s to anyone else.

Tbh when I opened your thread I assumed your BIL had edited a birth mark your baby had out of a photo, or eczema or something of that nature (I once read a wedding thread were the photographer edited out a guest's wheelchair and upset the bride).

It doesn't sound like the editing has been done in an offensive way, I expect they thought it was cute. I would let it go.