SIL's husband edited photo of my baby

[Rotorua]

SIL got married 3 months ago. Her husband ( my BIL) got added to family whatsapp group where we frequently share our 4 month old baby's photos with PIL. We have an understanding with PIL to not share our baby's photos on any other means of social media, as we value our privacy.

Today BIL photoshopped an old photo of our baby for Holi celebrations - her whole face is painted blue and Happy Holi is written on the photo. When I saw the photo I got quite pissed off someone edited my sweet baby's face. Before I wanted to address it, FIL already wrote he loves the photo and put it as his profile pic on whatsapp (that's another thing I'm not too happy about, but I let it slide for now).
DH saw this and asked his sister to tell her husband to not edit the photos as we are not comfortable with that. SIL sees no harm in this and now is not replying to DH's messages.
So the whole question is AIBU to address this and ask bluntly on the family group to stop editing the pics?
Just to add - I have met BIL once, it's an arranged marriage, so want to go about this in a sensitive way as I don't know him well and don't want to offend him because he must have meant well.
DH thinks I should let this go and we should just stop sharing any photos of our baby. I think I should address this, but unsure how not to cause a family argument

You sound bat shit tbh. He hasn't removed a perceived flaw, which is something you could legitimately feel upset about. He's just done something cute and funny. I'm not surprised your Dil has stopped answering your messages - she probably doesn't know what to say to you without telling you that you are bananas.

I can't see the problem tbh. If I was the type to have a problem with it I wouldn't put the photo's out there

"Your sweet baby's face".

What?

I thought he had photoshopped the picture to remove "flaws". Not sure this is particularly big deal.

Holi is all about colour, isn't it?

I would be with you if he had painted your baby blue. But to edit a copy of a picture? Meh. I think you will look back on this is years to come and wonder why you cared.

You’re being petty. So petty I actually sort of cringed reading this imagining how mortified I’d be if I was your poor SIL. You made it sound like he photoshopped the baby to make it look cuter or something! Not just added one of the holiday celebration things to the photo for a bit of fun! He probably thought you’d all just saw ‘aww how cute’ and move on. Seriously get over it!

Sorry but if you want ultimate control over photos of your baby, you need to stop sharing them.

Once you've hit 'send'; it's gone, it's out here and beyond your WhatsApp group. Hackers and who knows else can do what they like with them.

But seriously? It's not like he gave him devil horns or anything. He probably thought he was being cute. Choose your battles. This really isn't one of them.

I think he was probably just trying to have some fun and include your baby in the celebrations. I could see you being annoyed if it was put on social media (but even then just a quick message to say please remove and don’t do again would suffice), but I really don’t think this is something to get upset and cause a fuss about.

Ok, got the message loud and clear
DH would definitely agree with the uptight comments
It is PFB as someone had guessed it...
To PP who asked if we celebrate Holi - no we don't. It is baby's first Holi and he must have meant well, although she does look more like a smurf than being part of any celebration
Maybe it would have looked nicer if he had used a filter.
I will let it go and stop sharing the pics.

No big deal. Sounds like he was trying to be nice. You are being a bit pfb. The only issue for me would be social media.

It's not really offensive editing so I'd let it go.

My BIL photoshops his DDs, 5 and 2, in pics to "improve" their complexion and nose ☹️ poor kids.

Oops, cross posted.

Smurfs are cute.

@DontGoIntoTheLongGrass Ohh wow 😕

What if he had edited it to our Christmas Bauble hat or Easter bunny ears on it?

@Rotorua why would you stop sharing pics in the WhatsApp group that's meant for sharing pictures? This really isn't that big of a deal. I don't think there's a need to punish your parents because your BIL added some colour to your baby's face.

I don’t get why others think you’re being precious.

Your husband told his sister

Someone should ask FIL to remove the photo

Stop sharing. Job done

If there is drama, let it be on them

I think your husband is right about how to deal with this!

So our family whatsapp group quite often has photos of babies and dogs with daft comments, face-swaps & general editing.

We have a sense of humour though.

I love freaking out my husband by sending him weird filtered photos of baby DD! The creepy old filter on FB is a favourite. I think he's still scarred from that.

You are taking the comments very well @Rotorua

I ask family not to share photos of my PFB too 😉. I wouldn't like the editing but if it disguises your baby's features a little then I would be less bothered than if they had posted a straight photo.

I'd let this one go too and not share any more photos for now. You can address it at some point in the future when it is less touchy.

Wow. Get a grip.

You are taking the comments very well @Rotorua**

I concur, it's refreshing

@Thoughtlessinengland I get where you are coming from. If the editing was done well maybe I would have just let it without a second thought in my mind. But it's not done well - it's just a blotch of blue paint on her face

Thanks to those who share my opinion- we are definitely in the minority here

I think I will stop sharing the photos for now and will just mention this casually to PIL when they ask us why we don't share pictures anymore.