I swear mn costs me a fortune in getting me to buy foods discussed on here
From your thread title I was expecting their was some wilful deception involved but clearly there wasn’t and no food allergies/intolerances either so she is clearly being unreasonable.
No it’s NOT the same as if she tricked you into eating meat as she KNOWS you are vegan and that would require wilful deception.
Op tvp IS soya
Totally agree with pps saying it’s very often omnivores that make our (vegetarians and vegans) dietary choices into an “issue”.
I’ve been veggie over 30 years now and when people realise (purely from how I order in a restaurant or they spot veggie products in my home I’m not especially militant about it, though happy to discuss in a sensible way) it STILL seems to elicit one of 2 responses:
1 “ohh I don’t actually eat much meat” and further apologetic explanations even though I haven’t shamed them for being meat eaters
2 “ohhh I love my meat couldn’t live without bacon/steak/burgers” - these are the ones that try and make vegetarians/vegans eat meat, wave meat under our noses and other obnoxious behaviour.
Generally I’ve found 1’s tend to be women and 2’s men though not always.
I’ve had idiots trick me into eating meat/meat products which in my case actually IS unhealthy because I discovered after turning veggie (at a time when labelling was woeful especially in restaurants and regulation was dreadful) that red meat and meat products give me an incredibly upset stomach bad enough to land me in hospital. I’m ok with poultry and fish apparently and indeed before becoming veggie I much preferred those to red meat (subconscious recognition of an intolerance?) and when I went veggie stomach problems that had plagued me my whole life all but vanished! My dad has the same stomach problems as me and stayed omni but quit red meat and discovered he was the same we were not at all surprised when they discovered red meat and processed meat was so bad for bowels.
One friend of my ex’s (many issues with him which eventually came to a big row) was like this, total twat! He gave me food that had been cooked in the same pan as crappy cheap beef mince and I had diarrhoea and cramps for the rest of that weekend.
Re vegetarianism and health, I well remember a taxi ride years ago where the taxi rider commented on my slight stature at that time (size 6) saying I must hardly eat! My boyfriend of the time said no she eats more than me! (He was a rugby player and trained hard including high carb high protein diet) it was down to me being veggie which I even looked askance at him for! The taxi driver said not at all, his sister in law was veggie and she was massive! I agreed and said an healthy diet of veggie foods perfectly possible but I didn’t eat like that, i ate healthily but certainly enough and enjoyed my food but also enjoyed a very active lifestyle (ran and swam loads at this point plus walked everywhere/public transport as too young to drive). I’m now 47 and overweight and still veggie but don’t eat as healthily to be honest and several other health issues mean I have a pretty inactive lifestyle now too.
“I wouldn't expect someone who is veggie or vegan to have meat in the fridge on the off chance I'd drop in for food. Equally I wouldn't expect my Jewish and Muslim friends to have pork in, my Hindu friends beef or coeliac friends wheat products.” Exactly!
My friends and family have dietary restrictions for a wide variety of reasons, it’s kind and courteous to acknowledge and accept that. I now live alone so no meat in my house since dd moves out. Dd has a few anaphylactic food allergies so those foods I am now able to have here again but they certainly won’t be in her place obviously, several friends & family who are Jewish and Muslim and observe the associated restrictions and one friend who’s badly allergic to onions, garlic and other alliums which is pretty rare so she very rarely eats out only at known and trusted places and of course none of those foods are in her home.