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To ask at what age you bought your "forever" home?

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Daisypop89 · 09/03/2020 09:56

Myself and DP bought our first home last Spring (at 29 years old). We had DD1 already when we bought it and DD2 arrived at the end of last year. The house is a new build in a nice estate, about 30 minutes from my hometown. I just don't know if it's our "forever" home. It's in a nice quiet area, schools etc. all around are lovely.

I'd like to know what age you were when you bought your forever home? Perhaps I just feel we are still so young to be tied to the same property for the rest of our lives, and maybe one day we will want something bigger/better.

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Hingeandbracket · 09/03/2020 09:58

57 been in this place 14 years. Still waiting for my forever home will probably never have one

OakleyStreetisnotinChelsea · 09/03/2020 10:00

What is a forever home? Life changes, needs change. You do what suits you at the time.

Bought our first home age 25 I think. It was small but in the village we wanted. Could have stayed longer but current house came available around 3 years ago. Not really planning to move any time soon but you never know. This place has the space and the garden to see us through though without being excessive when kids get older and start to move out.

Bombaybunty · 09/03/2020 10:00

I'm 57 and I still haven't found it.

Not sure where I want to live. The house we're in at the moment is ok, it fulfils all our requirements but I don't love it and find the area really dull.

Our last child is about to take her A levels so we will reconsider our options once she is settled in the next stage of her life.

Oysterbabe · 09/03/2020 10:02

We bought our long term home at 35. We'll stay here until the kids are grown and moved out. We might fancy somewhere else after that.

Knocksomesense · 09/03/2020 10:03

I'm not convinced there is a forever home. We plan on moving in about 6 years - upsizing. Maybe then one more upsize about 5 years after that.Then when we retire we will downsize. Weve been in this place around 10 years and are in our thirties.

Rhubarbcrumblerules · 09/03/2020 10:03

well i thought i had bought it at 36 with 1 young child and another in not too distant future planned, however now getting divorced so forever home has to be sold 18 years later. Hopefully my next purchase will be my forever home until my children put me in a final home Grin

Biker47 · 09/03/2020 10:04

29, bought a 4 bed house, more than we needed so that we don't need to move if we have kids.

TheGreatWave · 09/03/2020 10:04

I don't get this 'forever home' business. You live in a house until it no longer meets your needs, whatever that may be. I think this is quite a modern way of thinking and probably that one has to continually strive for bigger and better. Many of the older generation have lived in the one house, or certainly the one they are in for many years.

I was 39 when we bought our current home, it meets our needs, chances are it will meet our needs for a long time. I am happy here, much more than I was in our previous property and that is all that matters for now.

If the house is all you need and want then there is no need to move.

StartingGrid · 09/03/2020 10:04

This month, both of us early 30's. House will do us fine until we can't cope with stairs any longer!

RefuseTheLies · 09/03/2020 10:06
  1. Have no intention of moving unless forced to by change in circumstances.
WhateverHappenedToBathPearls · 09/03/2020 10:07

I'm mid thirties and looking to move in the next year or two as DC2 is currently on the way. I'm not convinced that I'll ever have a 'forever home' though - both DP and I have fairly specialist jobs and would have to move (probably at a national level) to where there's work available if either of our current jobs fell through. I think job security is not what it used to be.

HildaSnibbs · 09/03/2020 10:09

Never, and I never will Grin I hate that phrase! I'm 38 and we've bought 3 times, each one was the right place at the right time and we've moved when our needs, plans or lifestyle changes. I'm hoping to be in the current place for ten years which for us is a long time..! By then kids will be late teens and I'll be looking forward to a change.

MamaFlintstone · 09/03/2020 10:10

If we can ever scrape the cash together to convert the loft, put an en-suite in and do the kitchen and bathroom, then I was 30.

ValedictoryMessage · 09/03/2020 10:10

51 - just moved. Hope to be here for at least another 15 years. Going to do a lot of work and spend a lot of money so want to enjoy it!

Zenithbear · 09/03/2020 10:11

No such thing. I had a beautiful 5 bedroom home that I thought I would be in for years. Then I split up with exh, dc got their own places and I met dp. I didn't want to be there anymore and it was far too big. We now have a lovely home of our own but we may or may not move again.
This forever home nonsense is so that people get bigger and bigger mortgages and never feel content with they have.

crustycrab · 09/03/2020 10:12
  1. I always felt I'd live in this house. Used to go out for walks just to go past it. Amazed when it came up for sale and we could afford it. I'll never ever move
MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 09/03/2020 10:13

I don't like the term forever home,why tie yourself to a house forever?Confused like a pp said,needs change so you move.

EmrysAtticus · 09/03/2020 10:14

Our next home won't be a forever home as we want to go quite rural so in old age I expect we will move back to a town. However we will hopefully be in it for a few decades. Planning to make the move around 35.

Herocomplex · 09/03/2020 10:14

I’ve always had a daydream of the sort of home I’d live in but it’s never going to happen. I live in a nice place in an ok home.

I know you’ve got to have ambitions and plans to get what you’d like, but I think it’s also useful to be realistic.

ihaveaquestionplease · 09/03/2020 10:16

I'm 32, DH is 34. We bought our first (and last) home 5 years ago. We've no need to move again.

NemophilistRebel · 09/03/2020 10:17

We have a house that would last us in all circumstances

But we ideally want to do a self build one day.
So although this house will work for us forever if we needed it to, we don’t see it as forever house as should the money and time allow we will be wanting to self build one day

Hellodotdotdot · 09/03/2020 10:19

Been here for nearly 2 years

NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace · 09/03/2020 10:19

I was 25. I'm 53 next week. I get things right first time …… sometimes Grin

Hellodotdotdot · 09/03/2020 10:20

So far it's a forever home as it's in the capital and close to excellent schools ans lots to do. Plus I've known the neighbours around here for years, so we are very well connected.

Helmetbymidnight · 09/03/2020 10:20

'Forever home' is just estate agents marketing speak.

Who knows when or why they might move house?