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To ask at what age you bought your "forever" home?

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Daisypop89 · 09/03/2020 09:56

Myself and DP bought our first home last Spring (at 29 years old). We had DD1 already when we bought it and DD2 arrived at the end of last year. The house is a new build in a nice estate, about 30 minutes from my hometown. I just don't know if it's our "forever" home. It's in a nice quiet area, schools etc. all around are lovely.

I'd like to know what age you were when you bought your forever home? Perhaps I just feel we are still so young to be tied to the same property for the rest of our lives, and maybe one day we will want something bigger/better.

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Geoffreythecat · 09/03/2020 18:08

There's no such thing as a forever home. No home is forever surely. A home that suits a young couple probably won't suit a family and we are about to move from a family home into something that is perfect for the two of us. Which of those is a forever home?

HollyBollyBooBoo · 09/03/2020 18:12

33 but it won't truly be my forever home as it's 3 storeys so I'm assuming when old age hits I'll need a 2 storey/bungalow/flat.

Thewomeninthemirror · 09/03/2020 18:34

The longest I’ve ever live in one house is 4 years. Moving is exciting!
We brought our first home at 28.

CrisisCrunchie · 09/03/2020 18:35

We bought our last ever house last year.. I was 47 & DH was 44

Concestor · 09/03/2020 21:16

35, ten years ago. It wasn't perfect when we bought it but we've since extended and renovated it and it's absolutely perfect and I will never move again. I love it here.

Zombiemum1946 · 09/03/2020 21:25

My brother has moved house more times than I have fingers. There's no pressure when it's right it's right. Who says there has to be a forever home.

IceColdCat · 09/03/2020 21:29

I was 34, that was 12 years ago. Who knows if we'll be here forever but that's the plan.

Secondsop · 09/03/2020 21:37

I was 41 (DH was nearly 37 and it was strictly speaking his first buy because the previous place was bought in just my name). London. I bought my first flat age 28 as a single woman, kept that flat and remortgaged it to buy a house after we got married (moved in age 35 nearly 36).

Had 2 children in that house and this is the bit that’s prob most relevant to your question as I was happy enough there, it was a good house, solid if unspectacular, had enough rooms for us, area was not particularly special but it was easy to get to work, there was a good school round the corner BUT... I never quite stopped rightmoving and I hit an inspiration block with working out how to decorate the house so just stopped bothering (after having been interiors-mad for years), and one day when the kids were 2 and 3 I saw a house in a nicer area that looked surprisingly affordable. Went to a broker and found out that actually my husband’s sporadic-ish freelance work had got to a point where it could bump us into a much better borrowing bracket. Got pipped for that house as they went for a cash buyer but once we were down that road there was no looking back.

Now in the big rambling Victorian house of my dreams that every day I feel amazingly lucky is mine, I love decorating it, better location, feel like I’m living in a piece of London history, kids settled in nearby schools, and am v unexpectedly pregnant with no.3 - I never thought I’d be bringing a baby back to this house. Honestly don’t think I’d have got my arse into moving if it hadn’t been for that other house that first tempted me.

TakemedowntoPotatoCity · 09/03/2020 22:04

Forever home is such a wanky and smug term!

BackforGood · 09/03/2020 22:25

Another who doesn't get the concept of a 'forever home'.
Your needs change as you move through life.
We've been in our current house 17years - it is the only house the dc remember (although all lived in our previous home). It is spacious and have been great - if I had my time again I would certainly have bought this house - but I don't want to be rattling round a big house like this once my dc have all left home, and I certainly don't want to be living over 4 floors, and maintaining a large garden when I'm in my 80s.

Speminalium · 09/03/2020 22:28

38, needs lots of work but then it will be our dream house and paradise for the kids to grow up in. Until then, we suffer with dodgy wiring, leaky everything, awful decor etc etc etc but the potential, oh the potential!!

Ellapaella · 09/03/2020 22:42

33

Exochord · 09/03/2020 22:46

I’d happily buy my forever home now but can’t afford it. I live in hope that one day we’ll be able to afford a better house than our current one. I think it’s the same for most people.

Lazypuppy · 09/03/2020 22:54

Our 3rd property at 28yo.

I bought a flat on my own, then we bought a 2 bed together now we've got our 4 bed which we'll only move out of when we downsize in retirement hopefully.

Hate moving so definitely done!

silencebeforethebleeps · 09/03/2020 22:59

I wouldn't want a forever home, I get itchy feet after about 5 years.

blueshoes · 09/03/2020 23:03

By 'forever' I mean the biggest house I want to have whilst the children are growing up under my roof. Once they have left, dh and I can continue to stay in there or downsize. It is forever because we never need to move again if we did not want to. The house is fit to die in.

TKAAHUARTG · 09/03/2020 23:06

How will you ever know it is a “forever” house? Surely only really boring people think like that.

Nogoodusername · 09/03/2020 23:28

Bought this one at 32, will upsize in a couple of years, and then downsize again once the kids have their own homes

TolpuddleFarter · 09/03/2020 23:32
  1. It's my forever home in the sense that it suits us as a family, and we won't be moving unless something bad happens.

I suppose if I am lucky enough to live to be a pensioner I may swap it for a bungalow

Theukisgreatt · 09/03/2020 23:33

I live in a tiny little house. Would happily stay here. Don't need spare bedrooms.

mrscatmad31 · 09/03/2020 23:35

Bought our house last year, I'm 35 and this is our 3rd property and the last! I love it

EmmaGrundyForPM · 10/03/2020 07:11

There is no such thing imo. We bought our current house 14 years ago and it's great. But even when we were buying it we knew we wouldnt be here forever. The plan was always to downsize after our DC left home.

Our DC are now adults. We are looking at moving 60 miles away in about 3 years time.

readingismycardio · 10/03/2020 07:21

27! We're moving in at the end of the year. I'll be 28 when we move in and DH 31.

speakout · 10/03/2020 07:25

readingismycardio

How do you know that will be your " forever home" ?

Daffodil101 · 10/03/2020 07:29
  1. Big house but I’m not crazy about it. It’s not my dream house. As many have said, we will rethink once the kids have left.