Would this upset you?

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It you found a message on OH phone to an ex fling from when you two had a rough patch and he's sending her screenshots of your conversation and she's calling you selfish?

Errrrr YES

Er, well yeah...

Are you thinking of asking him about it? How come you saw it?

I would be furious. A deal breaker for me. Having a rough patch is not an excuse to betray you.

What will you do?

Don't you mean your ex oh?

Oh wait are the screenshots from the rough patch fling or new ones?

Either way I’d be upset but less upset if I’d forgiven him for the rough patch fling.

Not on.

I'd find it unforgivable.

Yes I would be really upset by that

Wouldn’t forgive or forget that level of disloyalty

He is looking for action with his ex. Setting her up for an affair. ‘Look how awful my wife is. I stay because I'm a good father. The love has gone. Wanna meet up and you can rescue me? And then Fuck me.’

Fling was from way before we were together, I know they're still social media friends not really bothered me.

Just saw the message, our rough patch was last month

I'd go ballistic!

Well actually that's a lie I guess it did bother me a bit because I read the messages between them

I just told him to go home, I couldn't even tell him why I was so upset I was crying so much, this is it then?

There will be other rough patches, and you’ll know that everything you say is being related to a third party.

Of course it would upset anyone.
Thats competely out of order.
I hope you can talk it through, don't let him make you think you're overreacting because you've every right to be upset

I’d be furious, fighting or not it’s a huge breach of trust. I’d be upset if my OH was sending our sensitive private messages to his mates, let alone to someone he’d had a fling with.

What caused your 'rough patch'?

And damn straight I'd be upset - I'd be fucking livid.

Wow my eyes widened...😳

I’d be done with him. What pp said...looking to fuck.

If you’ve any sense it’s over, he was trying to get back with her when you were on your rough patch and showing her just how bad you were.

I’d be out. Fast.

That’s an unforgivable act of betrayal, it’s be it for me

I’m so sorry OP

He was setting it, so he could jump into bed with her, if you didnt recover from you bad patch. Or maybe even if you did.

How long have you been together?

”I just told him to go home, I couldn't even tell him why I was so upset I was crying so much, this is it then?”

I would tell him to go home for good. Most people wouldn’t do something so shitty to their partner.

Unforgivable.