How much of these things do you consider a treat?

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Person A has done/given/bought her DC the following this weekend. Person B thinks this is excessive and that they're all treats which should be given rarely and sporadically.

1. McDonald's
2. Soft play
3. Swimming
4. A new book
5. A small bag of jelly sweets
6. A magazine

This is in between an afternoon in the park, a walk up a hill and some down time playing at home.

How often do your DCs do/have the above?

Yeah it sounds like an average weekend in our house tbh.This weekend we had
swimming
McDonald’s
sweets.
A concert
A visit to the toy shop and a purchase
Movie night at home
And that was just Friday and Saturday, today we have been at home all day 🙈

I would say they are all treats, yes. But not excessively so in that it is not too much to have them all in a weekend. They are weekend treats basically.

Sounds like a pretty normal weekend to me and if I wanted to buy my DC those things it would be none of person B’s business

@Darlingsleepthief me neither. Pearl clutchers believing everything they hear and not actually looking at nutritional values of food for themselves.

Or failing to say no to little Julian

1. Mcdonalds. Very rare in the last 12 months three times. More likely to go to a cafe.

1. Soft play. When we go to kids adventure park for which we have annual membership abt once every three weeks. However I cant remember the last time I paid to go to a soft play centre. Dc are getting a bit old for soft play now although still like it. Along similar lines I would take them to trampoline park max twice a year.

1. I hate going swimming. But kids like it. To local pool perhaps 3-4 times a year.

1. New book. They hate books. When they were little might treat then to some from the works a couple of times a year.

1. Sweets. Every weekend

1. Magazines. Used to buy if going on train or long car journey.

I'm guessing you are person A, and person B is your DM or MIL.

It seems like a lot for one weekend but unless Person B is the second parent then it is not their place to make judgement.

A friend of mine used to constantly treat her DDs to experiences and her brother called them spoiled. But it was her time and her money so....

But its a good job she did really, as they massively benefited and she is no longer in a position to

1. McDonald's - maybe during half term hols but not always
2. Soft play - never it's vile
3. Swimming - once a week
4. A new book - when ever they want one or I see some they would like. Books aren't treats.
5. A small bag of jelly sweets - a few times a week e.g. mini bag of haribo
6. A magazine - both kids get an educational one monthly. Other ones are reserved for when they are off school sick.

We don't do the McDonald's or jelly sweets so they would be a treat I guess, others would all be usual

MacDonald’s, sweets and a magazine are a treat but soft play and swimming are activities we do every week and are more to keep DD entertained and healthy.

We don’t really have food treats as we want DS to think all food is great. But we have told him too much sweets are bad for him and lots of veg will make him big an strong.

Books are to be encouraged: DS sees it as a good thing when he gets a new book, but it’s not really a treat as such.

Swimming and soft play are exercise, but soft play is a treat for me if I get to sit with a cuppa

McDonalds once every couple of months
Soft play mine are too old but used to be about once a week in the winter and less in the summer.
Swimming try to go once a fortnight but they also have lessons once a week.
A new book very rate as we usually use the library but they did get one with this week with their book token.
Magazine rarely as waste of money
Sweets usually once a week from grandparents
There is no way any child needs all of that in one weekend

All normal here. The only one we really limit is Mac Donald's.

I'm not sure why it matters really. I looked after my GC yesterday and did 4 of those things with them.

Nothing outrageous there, personally more parent treats & bribes.

1. MacDonalds - weekend parent luxury tbh lazy no cooking.
2. Soft play -exercise indoors vs enjoying the outdoors. Parent (re)treat.
3. Swimming - life skill. Essential.
4. A new book - literacy
5. A small bag of jelly sweets - treat.
6. A magazine - treat, depending on subject matter.

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Can’t understand the angst over McDonald’s on here at all

It's laughable isn't it. It's just food, normal food. Really amusing to see people saying they don't go to McDonalds for "health reasons" 🤣

I wouldn't call swimming a treat, it's exercise, and also teaching them an essential skill. If you ate out after, that would be a treat.
I wouldn't call a book a treat either. I think that's because my mum never made me buy them with my pocket money, she'd always let me have books. Though I suppose you could always get them for free at the library!
That is a seriously busy weekend.

My dcs would think McDonald’s and soft play as a huge treat because I hardly ever took them there.
I hardly ever bought magazines either so dcs would consider them a treat.
Sweets, book and swimming wouldn’t be treats in my family.

All treats in my house

1. McDonald's - 3 times a year ish when travelling
2. Soft play - not been for 3 years, only really birthday parties
3. Swimming - lessons weekly, but play swim only on holiday
4. A new book - birthday presents
5. A small bag of jelly sweets - never from me, they get enough from school/parties
6. A magazine - I've never bought them. They got given one once.

All of these things are too expensive for us to be weekly treats.

But this weekend instead we had family meals, went scooting to the park, watched a film, built a den. It's not all without fun!

Sweets, books and softplay wouldn't be treats. McDonalds, yes and DS doesn't read magazines yet.

Unless money is tight op.... then person a is being UR

McDonald - dh buys them mcd’s on the way home from school maybe once every month when he picks them up. I wouldn’t class it as a treat though and I do get annoyed when he takes them!
Soft play - did this every couple of weeks or so when kids were younger. Probably a treat for them but not for me and dh!
Swimming - mine all had lessons but yes it would be considered a fun outing if I had taken them and got in the pool (only really happens on summer holidays!)
Book - the more books they read the better
Jelly sweets - no, not a treat really (mine probably eat far too many so wouldn’t consider a small packet a treat!)
Magazine - don’t buy them too often as they’re usually rubbish but they would probably consider it a treat.

All sounds like a pretty normal weekend to me (although I think either swimming or soft play would suffice in one weekend, I doubt I’d have done both but I’m more likely to take them for a walk/pub lunch)

Which are you? A or B?

*if money is tight

I'd consider Macdonalds as a rare treat.
Everything else sounds like a nice, reasonable weekend but if you did less on some weekends that's no hardship. Assuming no money worries, why is B so miserly?