To think my friend was incredibly unfair?

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I look after a friend's 2 primary school DC's when they've finished school, every Monday. They often have swimming lessons so I take them to that, whilst I have a short swim with my DS and then get ready to get them.

They are on a small break from it so we did a fun swim instead. Their mum asked me to take them to Pizza Express for dinner. The one she was thinking of is no longer there so I took them to Pizza Hut style place instead.

My own DS was asleep and wasn't having anything. We got a huge pizza with bottomless drinks for all of us. The kids had an ice cream each. This all came to £16 so a fairly good deal. Loads of pizza was left over so I packed it up for the kids.

When we got to their house I handed over the change (the mum had given me £40 for their food). The receipt for it all was coincidentally in there to.

I've just received a text from friend saying ''Hi, was your drink at the pizza place paid for by you? Just wondered as the money was for [NAME REMOVED] and [NAME REMOVED]. The pizza was obviously huge so not bothered at that being shared! "

In truth I didn't pay for my own drunk, no. It was £2.70. Yet I don't charge if I've ever picked something up for the boys quickly. I don't charge for petrol going to and from their school or swimming.

Was I really being that cheeky or is she rude?

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Oh my days. I'm shocked that she doesnt want to have paid for your soft drink! You've been doing her a favour and this is how she treats you. Trust me, she is not your friend. I'm glad you've text to end the Monday arrangement. Never again will she take advantage of your good nature, and berate you for a drink. Please update us when she replies.

Ask for her bank details, send over the £2.60 and tell her that you’ll not be available for childcare from now on

She is about the cheekiest bitch ever!

Wow!

She’s probably read the message on the locked screen and panicking on how to reply and regain her cheap childcare.

Stand your ground.

This would absolutely be the end of the friendship for me. It’s one of those moments where the scales fall from your eyes isn’t it?

I would put the money in an envelope through the door with a note saying

Here’s the money I owe you for one Coke. You need to make other arrangements for Mondays as I won’t be providing you with practically free childcare again. I have just seen you for who you really are and I don’t think this friendship will work for me from now on, so goodbye and have a nice life.

Bet she regrets sending that message.

10 quid a month for 4-5 afternoons of childcare+ school pickup is a pittance. You’re basically doing her a massive favour and she can’t even be bothered to buy you a drink?

Give her the £2.70 in 1p and 2p coins, through her letterbox

But superglue them together first

Wow! She's one hell of a piece of work isn't she?

I think a useful word here is "friend". I'm not sure a friendship follows the same black and white business arrangements that Cohie wants to apply (although I'm very much like Cohie in believing that money matters are very significant, friendship or otherwise). I think I'd end this friendship - I couldn't be bothered with the emotional hassle.

Unbelievable
I don’t relate to this on any level

Her for questioning you
You to not offering

She's really shot herself in the foot now.. Serves her right!

She sounds horrible. Well done for sticking up for yourself op.
Your time/ petrol and effort isn’t free and you’ll be certainly spending more than £10 a month she’s giving you to help her.
She really is a CF.

What an outrageous thing for her to have asked. I genuinely can't imagine the reason why someone would say this.

I mean, who wouldn't want to treat a friend doing an enormous favor at base subsidization? Ugh, this is worse than people who want to split drinks at dinner parsimoniously amongst friends who have known each other for a decade.

Why would you (by which I mean her) fuck this up for under £3? It's so fucking dumb.

I am reeling at this. Was it definitely her who wrote the message? That's the only thing I can possibly think of as to how that message came to be!

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Who the actual fuck has voted YABU?
Has to be Cohle

She’s not your friend
You need to stop collecting the boys immediately
I’m angry on your behalf ,
You have been treated awfully

Just wondered if this thread actually is OP's response to the friend? The children's names were (unusually) on the original post...

I sometimes help out my elderly neighbour by doing a shop for her. It would never occur to me to assume I could buy items for myself with her money, not tell her I'd done so and leave her to work it out by going through the receipt, and then get arsey when she queried it.

The difference is that OP is expected to take the friend's children to a restaurant and sit there and supervise them. Would anyone seriously expect the adult in that situation to sit there looking after the children without so much as a drink, or require them to pay for their drink?

The children's names were (unusually) on the original post

OP did say that those weren't their names.

YANBU OP and well done for standing your ground.

Right come on, what is her answer to your message then?

OP, CF really cut off her nose to spite her face. I hope she is kicking herslef now. Please tell us if she replies.

Wow what a CF! Glad you told her where to go!