To get irritated by none payers that say they will pay?

[Franklymydearidontgiveadam]

Long story short--friends and family members that have offered payment if I help them but never actually pay even though I helped out!

I got made redundant at Xmas too so money has been so tight.

Examples-

Close friend - "if you can take me to the airport (20 miles away) I'll cover you for petrol and a coffee". never paid, zero hot beverage.

Dsd, "can you add 2gb mobile data I'll transfer you the extra" - never transfered.

Sister "will you bake a cake for dd and ill give you the cash for the ingredients" - never happened despite the cost to make a 2tier cake.

Sick to absolute CF's knowing things are tighter etc. Yes I should say no but it's something I struggle with but why offer to pay if you genuinely don't want to?

Does anyone else experience this?

Thanks for letting me rant xx

No not yet

This put them into 'trying it on' CF territory. They can't claim again that they had forgotten as yet, still no payment. Follow up again, calmly, asking them when they will have transferred the money they owe you?

Check when that time comes, and remind them immediately.

I too hate having to follow up like this, it's an argument in favour of payment in advance. Simples.

I'd start telling them payment first or it isn't happening.

Dsd "ok, can you send it today."
Sis "no not yet, can you send it today"

Ok, now they’ve responded send them your bank or Paypal details and tell them it needs paying now as you’re struggling financially due to not working.

Then next time they ask you for something tell them ‘no, I’m not working and I’m struggling financially’, or say ‘you need to pat me up front, as I’m not working and can’t afford it to come out of my own pocket’.

Pat me! Lol! 😂😂 I mean pay me!

And CF friend, just send her your bank details and do her no more favours.