Aibu weddings abroad?

[PumpkinP]

Was talking to my sister earlier and she said that when she gets married she wants to get married abroad. She isn't actually engaged so just hypothetical. I mentioned that I wouldn't be able to come in that case and she was disappointed and seemed to think it was a bit out of order. But I would never be able to afford it (Caribbean) I don't mind not going. Aibu to think that if you choose to get married abroad then you just have to accept that some people might not be able to come?

Could you start saving now OP? Obviously YANBU but if you are close to your sister, wouldn't it be nice to go?

Why aren’t you suggesting that the OPs sister saves to pay for the OP if it’s so important to her? The OP has said she can’t work and is a carer for her eldest plus she has 3 other kids. If it’s so important to the sister she can save

she isn't actually engaged so just hypothetical

@spongejack if what you said was true than I would agree but there is no planning going on etc etc, I am unsure where you have got this but its not the facts that have been laid out.
As such why don't we just assume its just a fantasy DS is having and whilst the Op doesn't have to commit herself, why destroy the idea

@Ginfordinner

Expecting a single parent of 4 children to be able to afford a trip to the Caribbean?
Clearly not on planet reality.

Apologies Gin, I didn't realise you knew every single parent with 4 children ( including the Op) and what their future holds.
Lets assume you are correct though, and the OP can't afford, should she not tell her DS when she actually does get engaged.
Like I said you dont have to commit to going you could also mention it would be difficult for you to attend but to totally put the boot in on a fantasy of someone else seems a horrible thing to do.

I was referring to the OP who said she would never be able to afford it, not all single parents of 4 children.

There is no need to be so defensive.
And perhaps you should read all of the OP's posts.