To not cook meat for partner

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I know it may seem silly but friends are having such a debate about this 'issue' at the minute I've started to feel bad...

I've been vegetarian for 14 years both my children have been brought up vegetarian too, the texture of meat cooked or uncooked makes me feel sick, I can't stand the smell etc.
My partner eats meat and its not an issue for me that he does, if we order take out or go out to eat he has meat, I'd never expect him to stop...But I don't want to cook it, am I being unreasonable/unfair?

YANBU! I'm vegan and I won't cook meat or dairy. I do nearly all the cooking (because I really enjoy cooking, DP finds it a bit boring). If he wasn't to add cheese to something that's his business but I'm not cooking it. Does your DP mind? Mind doesn't, in fact he's grateful because his diets so much better now!

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Lifelong vegetarian here. No meat in the house so no chance of anyone cooking it! Somehow my meat-eating partner has survived It wasn't a debate because it's just not something I could do.

YANBU. I'm veggie and have been since childhood. I wouldn't have a clue how to cook meat. Never tried. Had a similar debate with an ex I was dating who said as he had cooked a meal for me that had broccoli in it that I should cook a meal for him with meat in it. I said I didn't want to buy, prep or cook meat and I'd probably give him food poisoning as I would have no idea if it was cooked properly as I have no frame of reference for what it is suppo8to lol like when done. Also pointed out that meals were supposed to have veg in them and it was ridiculous that someone in their 30s thought broccoli was a novelty!

Unless there’s some massive back story about how he lost the use of his hands in a freak yachting accident I don’t see any reason why he can’t just cook his own food if he wants meat.

My partner's a vegetarian and I eat meat and I'd never expect him to cook meat for me.

I guess it depends on whether you are the main cook and whether or not you have always been vegetarian since you have been with him. If you were a meat eater and the main cook did you sit down and discuss it together or just say tough I am not doing it any more?
I am vegetarian as is my daughter but I do cook meat for the meat eaters. I don't expect them to follow my choices although the vast majority of our meals are vegetarian.

What @LellyMcKelly said. The cook decides the menu. If he doesn't like it, he can cook.

YANBU, if he wants meat he can cook it himself.

I wouldn't stay married to a vegan. The differences would be too deep seated.

Of course YANBU. It's the same as having any other boundary. If he wants meat he can cook it.

What did his last slave die of?! Unless he has some physical health issues you haven’t mentioned then no

Of course yanbu. We’re all vegetarians, but if for some reason I was on the dating scene again, I wouldn’t be considering meat-eaters. I don’t cook meat or have it in the house for anyone, and the idea of kissing a meat-eater is gross to me. So your position is very mild in comparison.

@GiveHerHellFromUs alright, is that was she asked? And also a mad over reaction.

Same here, the only time I cook meat is at Christmas and we pick up a cook in the bag style meat dish for meat eaters that I just have to follow instructions for and don’t have to touch the meat. We cook a lot though for Xmas so it’s very much a two person job and he takes a lead on the meat. It’s a meal where I feel everyone should get the food they truly want. I don’t stop him having meat in the house but he tends to eat it more out if the house so we can share meals at home.

Yanbu. I do eat meat rarely, once a week if even. I hate cooking mince it makes me feel ill. DC are very limited in foods they eat woth pasta. I tried to trick them with Korn but they knew.

I’m with @LellyMcKelly why isn’t he just cooking meat when it’s his turn to cook?

YANBU I don't cook meat, anyone visiting gets a vegetarian meal or we get a takeaway or something. When my DH used to eat meat he would mostly eat veggie food with me, or he would cook for himself.

Yanbu. I'm a vegan, my partner is omni, and our children, as a compromise, are pescatarian (in practise mostly vegetarian). I won't cook meat and I won't have raw meat in the house. There is a small amount of eggs and dairy in the fridge, and occasionally (twice a month?) my partner will buy a packet of ham or something for sandwiches. But he eats plant bases most of the time. Once a week he'll cook fish for himself and the kids but that's about as much as I can tolerate. Honestly the sight of people eating meat makes me feel sick.

Not sure how it's anyone's business what you cook at home but yeah it's not like you're banning him from having meat in the house, you just don't want to cook it which seems perfectly reasonable to me.

Yanbu. I'm a veggie, I don't mind cooking meat and had to for work so I'm used to it, but I don't see the point in cooking two meals! DH doesn't either. When we have something like burgers or Meatballs he would usually sling in meat ones too but this is probably once or twice a month. We mostly eat vegan food that is heavy on the veg though, I think if we had fake meat more often it would be different.

YANBU. He can cook his own meat if he wants it.

I think insisting on no raw meat in the house (as some posters have) is a step too far though, it’s their home too.

YNBA however, how old are your children? Is it their choice to be vegetarian? I'm only asking out of curiosity

Why should you cook it for him? You aren't going to eat it, the children aren't going to eat it, and you're providing a (alternative) meal. If he wants something different he should do it himself.

My husband is vegetarian. I’d never expect him to cook meat for me (or anything he’s not going to eat as well for that matter). Are your friends seriously expecting you to cook a steak, serve or to you DH and then watch while he eats it? Do they think your his mother? Or maybe his maid?