To not go out for lunch tomorrow in case we miss DD’s first steps.

[MrsWolf2]

She’ll be 16 months on the 11th.

She rolled pretty early, both ways, and was commando crawling like a pro before she was 6 months old. When she started pulling up and cruising at 8 months I thought she’d be walking soon. But no. Almost double her lifetime later and still not walking. Or talking either, but that’s a whole other thread.

Anyway, in the last couple of days she’s seemed way more adventurous than normal, is doing a weird downward dog type thing, trying to climb over impossible obstacles that and never has before, shifting her weight from side to side, other little signs that Mr Google tells me are all common before a baby’s first steps.

I really don’t want to miss her first steps! But DH and I are supposed to be going out for lunch together tomorrow just us, it’s a rare opportunity that we haven’t had for ages and won’t get for another few months at least.

Also it’s my mum and dad who are going to look after her while we go out. If she does take her first steps while we’re gone I will never ever hear the end of it. And not in a fun, teasing way. An irritating, ‘she did it with us because she prefers us’ will you please shut the fuck up and let me forget about it way.

On the other hand, one of the reasons I think she’s close is that she’s been in a right grump for a few days and I wouldn’t hate to get away from that for a few hours.

AIBU to not go?

YABU - don’t be ridiculous, go and have lunch
YANBU - no stay home don’t miss those first steps

You're bonkers.

Your parents sound like knobs.

Tell your parents she took her first steps today. Go and enjoy your child free lunch.

This is so sweet but yes, YABU. Go out for lunch, but tell your parents they are not to tell you if she does it with them.

Yes I did think I might be bonkers

YABU. But you need to rethink your childcare choices.

Also: lie. Don’t let them know. If she does her first steps with then, mention that she’d done a few this morning. Lie. They don’t need to know.

Do people actually think like this?!!

Your orients sound absolutely awful.

Definitely go for a lovely lunch and if she walks for your parents tell them she did it the day before and forgot to tell them.

And have a talk about distancing yourselves, if they’re as bad as they sound.

She may well take her first steps when you aren’t looking 😂

YABU. My DS is 6 and I don't even remember when he took his first steps.

Definitely tell them she’s walked already. Then when she doesn’t walk for them they can be sad, not you. Enjoy the lunch. Your child really doesn’t need that kind of pressure at 16 months!

Just don't mention anything to them, go for lunch and if they mention anything when you get back, just say oh yeah she did it a few days ago too!

You all sound ridiculous

The odds are she won't take her first steps in that window.
I agree your parents sound like knobs. I think minne would just pretend that nothing had happened and then let me enjoy it.

Jeez, my 15mo DS has been on the verge of walking for about 3 months now and still hasn’t done it. I’d never have left the house if I did that!

By this point I don’t care if he has his first steps with me, his dad, my parents, nursery, or next door’s dog. I just want him to bloody walk.

Yabu, but also your parents sound horrible.

YABU. What if she doesn't? I think I missed all three of my dc first steps. They were at nursery!! The first time I saw them was the first time as far as I'm concerned!!

Just go out.

If she does walk then when your parents tell you, say 'oh yes, she did that last night too...'

But if your parents are the knobs you say they are then do what FlinstoneFred suggested!

DS took his first steps out on the lawn. DH and I had been out there with him. Then I went in to the loo. DS chose that moment to make his debut

Now I see it’s lunch just with DH, i’d def miss it!

OP you are not bonkers.

Cancel your lunch, see your daughter take her first steps. Clap her loads.

And enjoy!

The chances of her walking in that tiny window are so slim. Go and enjoy the lunch.

I agree with PP your parents sound like knobs.

Would your parents be understanding if you explained how distressed you would be to miss her first steps, so if she took them while you were out, to please not tell you?

I do understand the fear of missing out on these milestones, especially when you have waited a while for it to happen, and if the first ‘viewer’ is likely to crow over it. Honestly, I do. But with that said I honestly think one of the best things we can give our children is a healthy parental relationship and if the opportunity to have a child free lunch out together doesn’t occur often then I would grab it with both hands and try to be philosophical about it in the unlikely event she walks for the first time in the few hours you are out of the house

I went away for a night last week, first time I’ve been away since DS was born. Of course he chose that day to take his first steps 🙄. I was equally as excited by the video I was sent!
Go for lunch!

What does your DH think?

One of my family is a nursery nurse, she says she keeps schtum all the time about toddlers starting to walk at nursery until the parents mention it. If your parents were in any way empathetic people they’d do the same (IF it were to happen anyway).

Are both your parents like this or is one less, um, nasty (can’t think of a better word sorry!)? Could you have a chat with the more reasonable one and ask them this? Or get an sibling to mention it as if you hadn’t asked them (IYSWIM).

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