to think my partner is a massive man child?

[cherryontop94]

just as the title says really...some recent examples:

throws controller when looses on fifa

leaves food wrappers out all over the side even though the bin is right next to it

never knows where any of his clothes are. always has to ask me. scurfs all my wardrobe up looking for specific socks and doesnt rearrange after.

sulks when in a bad mood. dd had a bad night of sleeping last night so this morning hes all I hate life, not going to your brothers later hes a prick etc you're going to need to let me sleep this afternoon because I'm getting up with her now (bare in mind I am the one who gets up with her during the night so was exhausted this morning

these are just a few examples.

aibu to find this behaviour really of putting and to be debating if I want to stay or are they petty things that can be overlooked?

I think it's especially since I've had dd just feels like another person to look after

Its so unattractive, you must have gone off him because of it surely?

Does he work? Who's on the tenancy?

Look up what benefits you'd be entitled to.

Grow a backbone and learn to ignore blackmail

@Chinks123 you absolutely do not have to lie in it! Start talking to people and making a plan, like Nanny0gg advised the OP, check out what your entitlements would be etc

Sounds like you have a teenage son aswell as a DD and his mother is well aware of that fact. She does not want her teenager back.
As for the guilt tripping it's a ploy used to get you to ignore your own feelings and only focus on the teenage man boy who you no longer want to be with!!
Guilt over not letting him throw himself onto sofa over his socks? Guilt over his inability to pick up his own shit??
Him and his parents are the guilty ones here!

@chinks123 you do not need to stay with anyone for 50 years this is not a bed you need to put up with just because you made it.
You can make a new and better one elsewhere

youarecrap oh the painful irony...

Otherwise you become a single mum and thats not good for anyone.

Actually it can be. A great deal better. Particularly for the woman, but also for the children, ultimately, if their Dad is not prepared to adult and parent.

@youarecrap "female emotional issues" ffs. I think you're being quite insulting to men actually, implying that this guys behaviour is normal male behaviour.....it isn't

youarecrap
Talking about men acting like children and making their partners lives harder plus borderline emotional abuse or actual overt emotional abuse is not man hating.

You need to read more and start critical thinking and stop spouting such crap on the Internet as you are crap.

youarecrap what the fuck did I just read

OP my ex used to throw controllers. He was 32. I said it was wrong and he said all his friends did it so it was fine next thing I knew he had a tantrum in the kitchen banging things and screaming, because his omelette was sticking to the pan, stomped into the bedroom where I was, screamed THIS FUCKING OMELETTE IS STICKING and then flung the pan as hard has he could across the room, narrowly missing my head. His rage was so huge he didn't care what or who he hit. I got up and left shaking and to this day, years later, he shrugs it off as 'normal'.

These people think they're always right, or above reproach. There's no 'communicating' with them, it just doesn't get through.

What is the current financial situation?

Does he work?

Is it his house?

His mum doesn't want him back in her home, hence her guilt tripping you.

Get rid. ASAP.

@vhs95. I totally agree with you.

I was married to one of these. was

Chinks123 I'm sorry to hear. it really does suck. same here, could of written that if things go missing.

sorry for going awol dd is starting to teeth (quite early!) so has been pretty grizzly and have gone to my brothers without him.

@LagunaBubbles no I dont have something wrong with me lol...its just when you get told it's normal over again or get told your overreacting it makes you question yourself

He won't change, and you and your dc deserve better.

He sounds more like a man baby than a man child. Wheel him back home to mummy's and don't look back.

At best he's a selfish man child.

At worst he's manipulative and an emotionally abusive twat.

I couldn't be with someone like this. It sounds totally exhausting.

It may take a while for you to feel ready or able to leave but please son't have any more kids with this sad act.

His mother calls and panics, she's worried you will send him home and she'll have to deal with him.

@AryaStarkWolf @Rosevideo thank you, I’m great at giving advice to LTB on here but keep dithering in my own life.

@cherryontop94 I get told I’m overreacting a lot too. I cried today (ds not sleeping has made me over emotional also) but he shouted at me and I got upset. He’s very rude if I get upset even though he’s the one being nasty.
He’s just texted to “sorry, are we friends yet.”
When I find my get up and go I’ll do just that, I haven’t even the energy to ask him to leave at the minute.
Hope you can find the right solution for you.

Your dd will grow up expecting this sort of relationship with the man in her life. It is not healthy.
What is he for? Not much except gaslighting you and making you question your feelings.
You need to go. Can your mum and brother help you escape?

Send him back to mummy.

My OH is the same, luckily he doesn't play video games anymore thank god but if his "team" loses or something ridiculous like that he goes mad and sulks like a child.
We are not married though, that's probably why I've never married him

You have my sympathy OP, it's embarrassing sharing it with other people I find.

Oh dear, MIL, if you think your precious boy is in danger of threatening suicide, you'd best look after him really well because I'm done with the emotionally incontinent prick.