AIBU or is she?

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Friend has asked me to be a bridesmaid at her wedding this year.... First of all she asked me to go from a size 18 to 16 so she can find dresses to suit her other bridesmaids and then she's messaged asking if I mind her not inviting my son (he'll have just turned 2) so she can give his seat to someone else's +1

Sorry she's asked you to lose weight?

Yeah cause the dresses she wanted only go up to a 16

Definitely unreasonable and cruel to ask you to lose weight.

About your son, had she told you he was invited first and are other people's children going or not?

Yeah she's said all along he was invited and now whilst doing plans and things changed her mind

She's a twat. You pick people as bridesmaids because you love them and want them part of your day, not because you want them in a specific dress. Asking someone to lose weight is horrendously rude.

My thoughts exactly!

Think you need to ditch this bridezilla! She's not a friend

Eh no!

Tell her she's being an ass and you will happily step out so she can find someone else.
Rude cow

A good friend wouldn't care what you wore, they'd just want you (and your ds) to be there on their special day.
Obviously the dresses and someone's partner come first.

Absolute CF. Tell her to f off that she is being a massive asshole! Very hurtful and unfair. Tell her that she can buy the dresses and have two seats back as you will not be attending with your son.

Fuck off. I think that should cover your response quite eloquently.

Yeah she's said all along he was invited and now whilst doing plans and things changed her mind

Well she's being unreasonable on both counts in that case and very hurtful too

I’d tell her not happening so she can have my seat as well.

Son not coming is one thing - some people don't want children at their wedding for whatever reason and I think that's fair enough.

If someone told me I had to lose weight to be their bridesmaid I would tell them to fuck off and never speak to them again. Seriously OP. This is not someone you need in your life.

No and no, seriously

"Drop a dress size to be my bridesmaid."

As bloody if. Tell her to do one.

NO and NO.. so it's a FOOK off from me 🌺

I'd have preferred my best friend to have been there in a jeans and t shirt than not at all. I hate this whole 'everything has to be perfect, not a thread of fabric the wrong colour' shit with weddings.

No one cares what your bridesmaids wear.

YANBU OP I'd tell her to stuff it.

you reply:

'no problem, you can have my seat too, enjoy your wedding'

then block and move on

Absolutely unreasonable and so rude to ask you to drop a size!!

Not unreasonable to not invite your son, i had a no kids rule at my wedding :)

Not unreasonable to not invite your son, i had a no kids rule at my wedding

This is why I asked the OP to clarify that and apparently she had originally invited him but then disinvited him because she wanted to invite someone else's +1 instead

If it’s a proper bridesmaid dress then a 16 is probably more like a 12 at least. Wedding and bridesmaid dresses are horribly sized.

Wow that is so rude!

Even if she’d said “the dress goes up to a 16, would that suit you?” That wouldn’t be as bad as telling you to lose weight! How dare she?!

I’d be less mad about your son if she’s decided that it’s going to be child free.

I repeat what @whiskeylullaby2 said! she's not your friend. She isn't worth your time, tell her to sling it!