AIBU or is she?

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Friend has asked me to be a bridesmaid at her wedding this year.... First of all she asked me to go from a size 18 to 16 so she can find dresses to suit her other bridesmaids and then she's messaged asking if I mind her not inviting my son (he'll have just turned 2) so she can give his seat to someone else's +1

Agree with PP. A reply of “no problem at all. You can have my seat too. Enjoy your wedding” is all that’s required.

She’s no friend

Hasn't it occurred to your impertinent friend that the someone else's +1 may not be entirely comfortable in your 2 year old's high chair?

If this is how she's started it can only get worse. Save yourself a shedload of stress and tell her she's now got two spare seats as you won't be attending.

have you considered that your friend may be exhibiting signs of being a Bridezilla?
I'd back out now, before she suggests you drop to a 12, because the others are.

I'd be backing out completely, the unreasonable demands wont stop there.

Have you seen the dress? As @Cacaca says, if it's designed as a bridesmaid's dress then the sizes are likely to come up small anyway - I was a bridesmaid for a friend when I was a size 12 and had to wear the size 16 dress, and when I got married I was a size 14 and I needed the size 18 wedding dress, so it's quite likely not any good even if you were to drop a size (and as everyone else has said, why the bloody hell should you?!).

Agree with the advice to let her know she can have your place too, and move on.

She's already firmly in bridezilla territory with the weight loss request. Best to drop out of being a bridesmaid now before she ramps up the behaviour and you have to get a new haircut or matching pyjamas or goodness knows what.

I’d be telling her that she can use your seat as well as you won’t be going to the wedding. How rude is she?!

@AryaStarkWolf ah sorry i missed this completely!!

OP she sounds a bit nuts to be honest. Which will only get worse as the wedding draws closer so i would get out now.

She asked you to lose weight then uninvited your son? Wow that's so rude. You do realise that bridal dresses are so much smaller than high street sizes. When I got married I was an 8 but needed a 12. I honestly would say, Im sorry but I dont actually want to lose weight. So I think it's best if I'm not a bridesmaid.

She sounds horrible, don't go.

Can you imagine the pandemonium on the day if you couldn't fit into it?

She doesn’t sound like a true friend to me.

Bloody hell, what a cow!

Who voted that she's BU?? Show yourself and explain yourself!!!

Sorry your friend is an arsehole.

Do something nice with your son on that day instead!

Can’t believe she’s telling you to lose weight! What the hell?! Rude.
And also not nice at all to uninvite your child.
Personally I think I’d step back from it - she’ll no doubt get worse.

Your friend's a fucking shit. HTH.

just reply, thats ok friend, it looks like i dont have a hope in hell of losing the weight you have demanded, so i wont fit the dress you envision so maybe just give son and my seats away and ill come to your next one :) best wishes...

What @whiskeylullaby2 said. This person is not your friend.

I would be politely declining the invitation to be bridesmaid, and would not attend the wedding. She sounds like the bride from hell!

If she's like this now, what do you think she's going to be like on the run up to the wedding? A tad demanding, I reckon.

Run, OP! Run, while you still can!