To forgive?

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I was seeing a guy and he didn't treat me well but we were friends before.
We hung around in a group together (5 girls and 3 boys )
He didn't treat me nice at the end and brought up the fact I only worked part time.
Told me he didn't want to speak to me anymore (after I found out he was texting other women ,confronted him and he got mad at me)
He turned the whole group against me and none of them speak with me now.
3 weeks ago he rang me to tell me he had unblocked me and now we are texting daily.
My friends say I am crazy
Am I ?

Yep! He sounds like a knob. Your friends do too!

Of course you are.
It’s fine to forgive when someone messes up and apologises. That’s not the case here.

Yup. You're crazy. He's a right nasty bugger, and you're dancing to his tune.

Of coutse you are. He doesn't likr you but it's cheaper than buying a dog to kick and is much more fun.

You're also telling everyone that he was right about you.

Carry on but he's going to do the same thing and as you get older it's more difficult to bounce back from abusive behaviour. You need to learn to avoid toxic people.

How long ago did this all happen?

Yep! He treated you like shit and turned your friends against you but yet he throws you a bone and you lap it up!
In fairness YANBU to forgive as holding bitterness and grudges often only damages you but YABU to let him think that it's ok to treat people however he pleases.
Forgive him fare enough but move on and don't message.
Sorry for being blunt, I've a nearly one year old and don't go out much but I've been out this afternoon and hammered the wine.

Not crazy, just incredibly stupid.

Crazy , desperate or stupid take your pick .

It happened end of December and he rang me three weeks ago.
He never actually said the words "I'm sorry"
He said ..ive been awful to people lately
Which I think was him saying sorry

Are you very young? He will only do it again.

Did you enjoy his cruelty so very much the first time round?

Good grief. Is this for real? He phoned you to tell you he'd unblocked you? Like you'd been sitting about all the while just waiting for him to decide to unblock you? He sounds like a complete arse. Nothing good will ever come from any kind of relationship with this idiot.

It wasn’t. He hasn’t apologised.
He treated you badly.
Block him or expect worse next time.

Just ignore him, he's a waste of your time and energy

Which I think was him saying sorry

If you are OK having a relationship with someone who

• doesn't treat you well
• texts / shows interest in other women
• gets cross when confronted
• turns your friends against you
• ignores you for weeks

Then at some point turns up again, no significant apology or realisation of what he has done wrong

and just expects to continue as you were before all that happened, then crack on.

He is training to to accept this bad behaviour and so far, it looks as if it's working well for you. What will you do next time he shows interest in another woman ? Will you call him out or keep quiet to keep the peace ?

Please don't do this to your self.

You deserve so much more.

What did he say to turn your friends against you? They sound pretty shit too to be honest.

Yes.

Find better friends.

Yes you are crazy. Block him and get better friends.

Block him and move on and hopefully you can make better friends

For christ sake don't give him sex.

"Awful to people lately"... ... he turned a whole group against you! He's revolting. Ghost the fucker. He's what ghosting was built for.

Block him. Set your standards higher.

Block him and move on.

How old are you?

He is after a shag.
Then likely will go back to being a twat.