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To forgive?

81 replies

sintysalt · 01/03/2020 20:26

I was seeing a guy and he didn't treat me well but we were friends before.
We hung around in a group together (5 girls and 3 boys )
He didn't treat me nice at the end and brought up the fact I only worked part time.
Told me he didn't want to speak to me anymore (after I found out he was texting other women ,confronted him and he got mad at me)
He turned the whole group against me and none of them speak with me now.
3 weeks ago he rang me to tell me he had unblocked me and now we are texting daily.
My friends say I am crazy
Am I ?

OP posts:
WhiteBadger · 02/03/2020 00:20

30's!!!!

I thought you were a young naive teenager!!!

Block the wanker and move on.

Why are you going to go back for more shit!??

This won't end well! There's no fairytale romance at the end of this relationship. Please, please, please block!!!

Paperdolly · 02/03/2020 00:27

Google Gaslighting and don’t be his gas!!!!

Leeds2 · 02/03/2020 00:56

Block him, and move on with your life. Without him in it.

h3av3n · 02/03/2020 04:41

Focus on building your self esteem, please. You deserve A LOT better than this and you're worth so much more. He will get worse & worse & worse.

h3av3n · 02/03/2020 04:43

Please don't imply or say she's stupid, women who get involved with these DO NOT do it because they're just silly, it's a lot more complex.

KC225 · 02/03/2020 06:41

If he phoned you to tell you he had unblocked you and you are texting daily - how has the way he treated you not come up in conversation?

Stop contacting him.

Your lack of self respect in your 30s in concerning OP.

Nanny0gg · 02/03/2020 07:06

You shouldn't know he unblocked you because you should already have blocked him.

Why do you want to be picked up and dropped then picked up again?

Block him now

LellyMcKelly · 02/03/2020 07:10

Life is too short to let yourself be treated like a fool. Ditch his sorry ass.

ThanosSavedMe · 02/03/2020 07:15

Has he contacted your former friends and told them the truth? If not he’s not really that sorry is he. Agree with others, absolutely fine to forgive, more for you than him but I wouldn’t be texting him all the time and let him back into your life. Can you really trust him?

TheSerenDipitY · 02/03/2020 08:37

oh, you are a doormat huh?

To forgive?
thepeopleversuswork · 02/03/2020 08:47

You’re not forgiving him... you’re just saying it’s ok for him to treat you like shite.

He is looking for a shag and when you have fulfilled that requirement he will just rinse and repeat.

What has happened to you to make you think you should tolerate this behaviour?

Don’t respond, block and run a mile.

Shoxfordian · 02/03/2020 08:48

Block and delete op

crustycrab · 02/03/2020 08:51

Wow. Block him with no explanation whatsoever and move on.

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sintysalt · 02/03/2020 08:52

I loved him before and thought he was a different person to what he showed.
Then it happened and I couldn't believe it.
I just wanted him back and even now when I'm texting him I'm thinking "what the hell are you playing it"
I think of the nasty things he said and it still hurts.
If he cared about me I don't think he would have treated me so shit would he?

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OhCaptain · 02/03/2020 09:05

You’re not a victim of his behaviour, @sintysalt. You’re a volunteer.

PrincessSarene · 02/03/2020 09:15

OP, your head is telling you the truth, please listen to it. He never loved you, you deserve to be treated better, please walk away and don’t look back. As with any break up, it will hurt but that doesn’t mean it’s not the right thing to do.

1FootInTheRave · 02/03/2020 09:17

You're a mug.

Aweebawbee · 02/03/2020 09:22

You're inviting trouble, but you know that. Everybody on this thread is going to tell you to block, ignore and get on with the life you deserve, but you won't do that. You will go back to him, get treated like shit all over again, then wonder why you are a victim.

Wolfiefan · 02/03/2020 09:31

He’s a shit. He treats people like shit.
Have some self respect and don’t text him. Block and move on.

WhiteBadger · 02/03/2020 09:39

Why are you texting him!!!!'

Why? Why? Why?

Do you think so little of yourself??

Please next time he texts you and you want to reply. Read all these comments!!!!!!

Don't text him!!!!

redcarbluecar · 02/03/2020 09:42

Do you have strong feelings for him still? I think you are allowing him to have too much power over you if so. I suggest blocking him again, as he did to you - based on what you have written, everyone will suggest this, I think. Hope you're OK though; sounds like you've been hurt by quite a few people.

pooopypants · 02/03/2020 09:54

He's a twat. Block him and move on.

Nanny0gg · 02/03/2020 10:17

It's pretty unanimous,

What are you going to do?

AlanRickmanFanClub · 02/03/2020 10:59

Why would you even contemplate doing that?

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sintysalt · 02/03/2020 11:12

Wow not one person has said I'm not crazy.
That's how you know your being ridiculous.
I'm guilty of building a person up in my head and that not being the real them.
So then I spend forever thinking of the person I thought they were not the reality.
Does that make sense ?

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