To forgive?

[sintysalt]

I was seeing a guy and he didn't treat me well but we were friends before.
We hung around in a group together (5 girls and 3 boys )
He didn't treat me nice at the end and brought up the fact I only worked part time.
Told me he didn't want to speak to me anymore (after I found out he was texting other women ,confronted him and he got mad at me)
He turned the whole group against me and none of them speak with me now.
3 weeks ago he rang me to tell me he had unblocked me and now we are texting daily.
My friends say I am crazy
Am I ?

Why would you spend forever thinking anything?

Forget him. Ffs, the world is a very big place with a lot of people in it

You're not 'forgiving him'.

You're being a pushover, with low boundaries.

You'll learn, in time.

building a person up in my head and that not being the real them.

I know this feeling. You are attracted by the fantasy figure you have build up in your head not really to the reality that is him.

Block him. Practise laughing at him in your head. He is so.far.away from your lovely fantasy.

No don’t forgive him. He is a user, a sponge, a taker, don’t be his door mat. If you can’t handle a break up, just slowly but surely be too busy, distance yourself.

I know what you mean about having a fantasy version in your head. Trouble is we have confirmation bias so our brains pay more attention to things that fit with the way we want things to be and try to ignore things that go against it. You have a lot of objective people telling you this guy is not worth your time or energy. The tone of your posts seems to show you becoming receptive to this so I hope you continue to consider what you’ve read here and come to the conclusion that you’re better off without him.

I would not say you're crazy. I would think you low self esteem and insecurities to accept his friendship again, do you usually self sabotage. Take control you deserve better.