Breakfast guests

[LadySlipper11]

DH has just told me, at 10 to 8 at night, that we are having some old friends of his over tomorrow for breakfast! At 8am! This from the man who NEVER gets up to do our DS breakfast feed at 6.30/7am. But he can get up for people he hasnt seen for 8 years, that I have never met! I am full of rage. But perhaps IABU as I'm knackered and hormonal!

I'm just surprised so many people profess to not have any food in their houses over the weekend to actually feed 2 more people than usual.

I so wish i'd taken the attitude that everyone is advising you to do now.
His friends, his event, he cooks, cleans, entertains, you get your sleep, come out when you're ready. You aren't his female human shield - he can do it all by himself xx Have a lie-in!

ingsMahBucket Sun 01-Mar-20 00:39:59
I'm just surprised so many people profess to not have any food in their houses over the weekend to actually feed 2 more people than usual.
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That's nothing! There was someone on here a couple of days ago who didn't have enough tea bags for visitors nor pancake mix until she did weekly shop (no corner shops presumably).

Seriously, nothing wrong in inviting people for breakfast but he did the inviting so should host and cook.

I think you're feeling a bit under the weather tomorrow aren't you OP? And you wouldn't want to make anyone ill. So you'll have to stay up in bed for everyone's sake won't you? Nightmare

Is op going to gives us an update on the breakfast?

Who even are these long lost friends? Where do they come from? How does he know them? Why are they happy to accept an 8am Sunday breakfast invite?

So many questions. He obviously only invited them because he assumed you’d step in and sort it all. Fuck that. Leave him to it.

Leave him to it in the morning.
Do not get out of bed to host.
I would point blank refuse to be dragged into this.

I'm just surprised so many people profess to not have any food in their houses over the weekend to actually feed 2 more people than usual.

Well, I've never had anyone over for breakfast (who has? 🤔) but I think that normally when you invite people over, you offer them something a bit nicer than what you might have on an everyday basis.

Exactly PapayaCoconut! Some people just aren't that breezy about hosting others no matter the time. They wouldn't feel comfortable about offering a slice of toast in a messy house having not had a shower in their jimjams. I would be in that category and I think the DH is too. I can also understand that other people are much more relaxed but it's clear which category OP is in and it's nearer the former than the latter.

The annoying part is his expectations that OP will sort it all and provide an Instagram-ready house and catering. OP is also probably too nice to ride it out in bed and the DH knows that, which is why he hasn't ever bothered to get up with the children.

Maybe this is your line in the sand OP. Don't be resentful in the future, sort it now! If he thinks it's actually okay to get up on others' behalf on a Sunday, he can start doing it for you!

I would take DC swimming at 07.30, then for breakfast, then to the cinema & be home after lunch out.

He should have cleared up by then.

I’m Not going to toss a guest a frozen bran muffin that I’ve thawed in the microwave.

I'm going to go against the grain here and say this wouldn't really bother me, assuming that he wasn't expecting me to cook/clean.

To be honest, this is quite a common thing in our friendship circle as we all have kids around the same age who are all up at stupid o'clock.

We normally do something like crumpets/pancakes, bacon, chopped fruit, coffee and bucks fizz. It's really not that hard?

The only disclaimer is that we live in a hot country, so would all just sit in the garden whilst the kids play so no real need to tidy inside, apart from making sure the downstairs bathroom was presentable.

Don’t you do a damn thing! His friends, his invite, he does all the bloody work!

Shamelessly place marking for an update.

I'd be inviting him to take himself and his friends off to the nearest breakfast bar/café, as you won't be held hostage to this situation.

How VERY fucking rude of him!!

@PrimeraVez

But OPs husband has assumed that OP will be cooking, it was obvious by his reaction to her asking what was he making.

Also, I assume OP lives in the UK which at the moment is very wet and windy. So yes, the house probably needs a clean too, it's probably safe to say that OPs DH has done none.

OP YANBU. I would of refused to have the visitors full stop and if DH complained, he could go and meet them elsewhere taking the kids with him.

Let him assume! He's the one that will look like a dick when his friends turn up and he has nothing to offer them!

Please don’t get up and cook, OP.

Who the hell has friends over for breakfast? Are they busy with more important people for the rest of the day?

Has he started prepping yet? I’m praying your still in bed snoozing!!

Dying to know what he actually makes for these people!

with a bit of luck OP has ear plugs in so she cant hear him crashing about the kitchen in that annoying man 'I need help/ you to take over' thing I hear so much about

I'm just surprised so many people profess to not have any food in their houses over the weekend to actually feed 2 more people than usual.

If I was inviting people for breakfast, I'd buy in things like bacon, ciabatta rolls, sausages, white bread etc. Anyone turning up without notice today would get wholemeal toast with eggs and some cheeses and there might be some bacon in the freezer if they are lucky. I don't eat porridge or cereal so none of that here to give them.

It's just me so there is no 'spare' food in the fridge.

Throw plates & pans in the dishwasher.

Not everyone has a dishwasher you know.

I am assuming unescorted is now on her way to the OPs with kettle, mushrooms and champagne.

Or sleeping her hangover off 😉

Another one to add to the list of why being single is great - not having to cater for random people at 8am.