Breakfast guests

[LadySlipper11]

DH has just told me, at 10 to 8 at night, that we are having some old friends of his over tomorrow for breakfast! At 8am! This from the man who NEVER gets up to do our DS breakfast feed at 6.30/7am. But he can get up for people he hasnt seen for 8 years, that I have never met! I am full of rage. But perhaps IABU as I'm knackered and hormonal!

There's so many things wrong with his suggestion:
Not enough notice
You don't know them
He doesn't even do breakfast for his own kids
It's 8am on Sunday !
He's expecting OP to do it all

He is being a dick.

I think if my dh had pulled a stunt like this that I would be the one stressing about whether we had bacon and eggs or whatever, hence my reason for asking if he has stocked up for tomorrow.

And unescorted, I do think that you have changed your story like @angelikapickles says above.

Can't wait to find out what your DH rustles up tomorrow OP

Enjoy your lie in!

He'll entertain at 8an people he hasn't seen in 8 years but wouldn't dream.of getting up to look after his children and give you a lie in.....OP, you have bigger problems than visitors at 8am.......selfish prat.

Have a good hard think about the twat you are married to and roll over tomorrow morning......somehow I doubt you'll do this

Stay in bed - and shout down for a cup of tea to be brought to you. Don't run around cleaning. His guests, his standards - and as you won't be showing your face, you can't be embarrassed by last night's washing-up!

Exactly billy-i think its more than breakfast for his friends

His problem. Not yours. Tell him you're looking forward to whatever he's cooking!

Thank god its not just me thats enraged! Fuck it, I'll stay in bed and get him to bring my breakfast up to me! Stupid bugger.

You took the words out of my mouth.

I think it's time for an impromptu visit of you and DC to some nice friend or relative who lives about 2hrs away. you will need to leave at 7:30 and will arrive there around 9:30 - grab some croissants from a service station Costa en route so that you aren't expecting them to cater for you.

meanwhile leave DH at home dealing with his guests in whatever manner he sees fit.

I don't even get up for my kids at that time !!!! I take the kids at night, he takes over at any 5:30. I'm not to be woken or spoken to till I come down stairs. It works the same for him at night unless there's an emergency. Dh Wasn't allowed early morning exercise because it was stretching out to 9:00. Now exercise is afternoons and only because the kids are self caring.

@TalaxuArmiuna Bugger that! That means actually getting up!

I wouldn't even come down to say hello, let alone get roped into cooking.

I think the point unescorted is spectacularly missing is that this man never bothers with his own children of a weekend morning but can willingly get up and deal with people he hasn't seen for years. I dont know how anybody can find that reasonable. His children as they get older will sadly realise where they come in their dad's list of priorities, ie at the bottom of the list

Go away over night and leave the bugger to it. A 12pm return should be fine. Breakfast guests, my arse.

Who the hell comes round for breakfast at 8am on a Sunday, when you haven’t seen them for 8yrs? Strange!

Let this be your time to stop martyring with doing all the early rises with the kids and use this anger to enjoy a lie in once week.

Starting to tomorrow cause he's gonna be up already...

Nope - not missed, just not commented on. I was responding to the assertion by several posters before me that it was a lot of work to make breakfast for people (whoever is doing that, not necessarily the OP - just for clarity). I stand by that

I think the issue surrounding the work was that the DH clearly expected that having extended the invite, his work was done. The actual catering he expected OP to do.

Then the maybe the AIBU should have been Is my DH a dick for abrogating all parental duties. In that case yes he is a dick. However that is very different to all the replies about how much hard work it is to make breakfast for guests or the how he has invited people into a house he shares on an equal basis with the OP - which I disagreed with and was challenged on. I stand by - breakfast is not difficult, and he is entitled to invite who he likes and when he like, but it is responsibility.

'Who the hell comes round for breakfast at 8am on a Sunday, when you haven’t seen them for 8yrs? Strange!'

Quite

I would be livid. What a selfish git.

I really really hope the OP doesn't get up in the morning to entertain this nonsense. But I've got an awful feeling she will.

I'd be telling him to sleep in the spare room or on the sofa and on no account to wake me up unless the house was on fire, then to bring breakfast in bed at a time of my choice. Lightly roasted testicles perhaps.

Do not lift a finger!!! Even if he gives you his best puppy dog eyes. His responsibility. Update us in morning!

If anyone turned up unexpectedly for breakfast, I'd be able to give them toast

That's an interesting thread branch off. I could do bacon and eggs if all but one of them were vegan. I've 8 crumpets in the freezer. I've got some maple syrup which might zhuzh the crumpets up a bit. And tinned apricots and some alpro yogurt (which I suppose would do for the vegans) I've got a shedload of porridge but not much milk so it would have to be done with mostly water.

I'd be a bit pissed off though because the 2 rashers of bacon and the egg was meant for me. In a sandwich. I don't eat till about 11am (not hungry when I wake up) so it would be brunch. I wonder how many people really have the makings of a decent breakfast for what sounds like 4 or more people.