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Breakfast guests

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LadySlipper11 · 29/02/2020 19:53

DH has just told me, at 10 to 8 at night, that we are having some old friends of his over tomorrow for breakfast! At 8am! This from the man who NEVER gets up to do our DS breakfast feed at 6.30/7am. But he can get up for people he hasnt seen for 8 years, that I have never met! I am full of rage. But perhaps IABU as I'm knackered and hormonal!

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Electrical · 29/02/2020 22:35

Obviously the random people he invited to be invading your home at 8am and isn’t fucking ridiculous, but that’s irrelevant to you since you will not be catering them or cleaning up. Why do you tolerate a deadbeat man? He doesn’t bother with his kid in mornings? If ‘he works though’, so what, he chose to have a kid, he’s currently failing hard as a father and husband.

Electrical · 29/02/2020 22:36

*at 8am is fucking ridiculous

AutumnRose1 · 29/02/2020 22:37

Across why should OP do that or anything at all? If he wants to take them to McD he can.

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 29/02/2020 22:37

Fuck that. 10/11am, I could deal with but 8am! What's wrong with him?

speakout · 29/02/2020 22:38

How will it effect you? that we are having some old friends of his over tomorrow for breakfast!

No- he is having friends over. Grab a coffee at 7.45 and go back to bed.

Don't get involved.

speakout · 29/02/2020 22:39

I'd hand him a tenner and point him to the nearest Mc D's drive thru.

Why hand him a tenner?

No need for the OP to be involved at all.

angelikacpickles · 29/02/2020 22:40

@Unescorted

So when you say to someone "put on the kettle", you don't actually mean that they should put on the kettle?

Or when you say "do something on toast", you aren't telling them to make toast with something on it?

There is no other way to interpret your first post other than a list of instructions to the OP. Saying now that you meant for her DH to do it is completely disingenuous.

LaurieSchafferIsAllBitterNow · 29/02/2020 22:49

8 fucking AM on a SUNDAY.....didn't someone abolish that??

I am all for ad hoc catering....but that is the giddy limit 8 am, strangers and a lazy husband

Please tell me you have put down your line in the sand and demanded a fulsome explanation covering all his thought processes as to why this was ever an option when the lazy arse won't get out of bed for his own children of a weekend.

Rage and complete disbelief are your only options here.

TheHumansAreDefinitelyDead · 29/02/2020 22:51

Are you all off to church after?

Unescorted · 29/02/2020 22:52

No it is a list of instructions with no assumption to the person - If I had intended her to do it I would have said OP get up and put the kettle on, or is it was me (surrended wife scenario) I would get up and.. As I intended it it was a list of what needed doing. With no person attached to the actions. You are reading more into the post than is there.

thenightsky · 29/02/2020 22:53

I'm with unescorted here. Stay in bed or swan about in a dressing gown whilst your OH does an impression of Host with the Most, toasting stuff and waggling eggs around in pans etc.

cstaff · 29/02/2020 22:57

OP ignore all the b.s. that inescorted is going on with.

Regarding you and your dh, I presume he now realises that this is all for him to organise tomorrow morning. Has he gone shopping yet, made sure that you have everything in stock. Once he realises that you are not on board with feeding and entertaining his mates hopefully he will think before making such ridiculous thoughtless arrangements on your behalf again. Enjoy your lie in tomorrow.

boydoggies · 29/02/2020 22:58

Let him know it's 1st March tomorrow, not 1st April.......

19lottie82 · 29/02/2020 22:59

Looking forward to an update tomorrow....... but please OP don’t cave and assist him with this!

Umberta · 29/02/2020 23:00

Please come back in the morning and tell us how it went, OP!
FWIW @unescorted I did get what you meant in your original comment. You meant that guests at 8am can technically be done without much fuss. I agree with you although that doesn't stop me from simultaneously being completely outraged on OP's behalf - it's the way her DH gave her such short notice and seems to be slightly hapless about how he's planning to host that is the atrocity!! If my DH and I had agreed together to have guests that early on a sunday, I'd do exactly as you suggest: cafetiere, avocado on toast, prosecco. Agree it would only take a few mins in itself (not including tidying etc if applicable), and we could do it with the guests already there. But in my case my dearest H would just go ahead and sort all that himself and the tidying too if they were his mates Halo haha I'd just swan down with my bedhead probably

georgialondon · 29/02/2020 23:01

I would stay in bed

Unescorted · 29/02/2020 23:01

OP ignore all the b.s. that inescorted is going on with.

Ouch...

Has he gone shopping yet, made sure that you have everything in stock why is it her problem? She just need to tuck up in bed and not really care.

Umberta · 29/02/2020 23:04

Ps @Unescorted is actually being quite helpful I think. Be furious at your DH, yes. Hand-wring about how impossible the hosting would be (whoever's doing it), no.

madcatladyforever · 29/02/2020 23:06

Ff's I wouldn't invite God over for breakfast on Sunday at 8am. Stay in bed and to hell with them all.

Goostacean · 29/02/2020 23:08

I’m still not clear on what sort of people accept an 8am invitation?! Baffling. Are they landing at 6am or something? Night shift colleagues? Bizarre.

mrsBtheparker · 29/02/2020 23:08

Isn't this why God gave us Spoonies?

Unescorted · 29/02/2020 23:11

@umberta thank you. That is where I am coming from. Not furious at the DH, because I don't really care if he does invite people over and nor is he if I do because it is a shared space.

angelikacpickles · 29/02/2020 23:11

@Unescorted

No it is a list of instructions with no assumption to the person - If I had intended her to do it I would have said OP get up and put the kettle on, or is it was me (surrended wife scenario) I would get up and.. As I intended it it was a list of what needed doing. With no person attached to the actions. You are reading more into the post than is there.

You were replying to the OP on a forum - of course you were talking to her! You are not talking to her DH.

BruceAndNosh · 29/02/2020 23:14

If anyone turned up unexpectedly for breakfast, I'd be able to give them toast, hopefully with butter but definitely no jam.
Tea and coffee ok but as long as only some of them want milk.

Unescorted · 29/02/2020 23:18

Please look at what was written. It was a list after several posts about how difficult it was for a person to get out of bed and make breakfast. It was not a list of things specifically for the OP to do. As I said if I had intended it to be an instruction for the OP I would have put "You just need to.." or had an @ moment. You are reading more into the original post than I intended. I am sorry for that,

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