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AIBU?

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People using lifts

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Aquarius1619 · 29/02/2020 18:59

I’m actually a bit annoyed at myself for being petty enough to post this.
But this really got under my skin today!! I have an 11 month old who isn’t keen on the pram, will sit in there for 15 minutes or so but as soon as I stop moving she has a meltdown.
So we were waiting for the lift as we were parked on floor 5 in the local shopping mall today and I was stood behind a queue of people waiting to use the lift. People with no shopping, no kids, just didn’t want to use the stairs. And it took 20 minutes for me to get in the lift because each time it would come to my floor it was full of people with no kids, no wheelchairs, no walking sticks so then we’d wait for the next one then one of the people in front of me with nothing to carry would get in it. I know every disability isn’t visible either but FFS I’m talking a load of people here. By the time some of them had eventually got in the lift it would’ve been quicker for them to have walked up and down the whole place! Meanwhile DD is having a meltdown because we’d been stood around for ages. Is it unreasonable to expect people to just use the stairs and free up the lifts for people who actually need them? If I have no pram with me I always use the stairs

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mnthrowaway202020 · 29/02/2020 19:41

YABU

There’s no prerequisite to using a lift. It’s not like a blue badge space.

How do you know that someone didn’t have a foot injury? Whilst out today I managed to get a bleeding cut on the side of my toe as the nail on the adjacent toe has somehow dug in. Minor, but I certainly wasn’t going to force myself up/down stairs at the time as each step was pushing the nail further in. My reasoning to take a lift is just as “valid” as yours although you wouldn’t be able to tell.

Frankly your inconveniences are your own fault for being silly enough to go shopping within a shopping centre on a payday weekend and expecting it to be smooth sailing - of course it’s going to be ridiculously busy. It’s the highest turnover weekend of the month.

InfiniteSheldon · 29/02/2020 19:41

When my dh had ankle surgery and was on crutches I was truly shocked at the fit able bodied people who queue jumped us it was a massive eye opener

myrtleWilson · 29/02/2020 19:41

I'm fine with most staircases... but there is one place where the staircase is outside, with open window spaces and I have an odd fear of edges (not heights). Climbing those outside steps really freaks me out. Whilst I usually try to park in the carpark to enable me to get the lift from bottom to top (to access shops) on occasion I've had to park near to the top but I still prefer to get the lift as gah those steps....

Vellichor · 29/02/2020 19:42

Further to my last post (saying anyone should be able to use a lift without judgment..), I would however try to let a parent with a baby having a melt down go before me if I was able to.

winniethekid · 29/02/2020 19:42

Lifts are for anybody. YABU, you could use a sling or baby carrier instead of a pram.

SistersOfPercy · 29/02/2020 19:43

Hypermobility Syndrome here. I can come down stairs, but up can be very difficult depend on how much pain I'm in that day.

Gwenhwyfar · 29/02/2020 19:44

Lifts are not just for disabled people. YAB totally U.
Next time, just ask if you can jump the queue. Say the child is desperate for the loo or something.

MilkTrayLimeBarrel · 29/02/2020 19:45

Why oh why is it always about the damn kids? People have equal right to use lifts - if they are there first, they get the lift. Suggest you teach your kid to realise it has to wait in line!

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Aquarius1619 · 29/02/2020 19:45

I completely get the points
However, I have mentioned about the disability thing/ people needing to use lifts for health reasons so of course I’m not saying you shouldn’t use them. I do feel like people have selective reading on here? There were a ton of people queueing today, I’m talking about people who DON’T need to use them for health reasons/extra luggage/peaks/mobility issues it can sometimes get annoying

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PurpleDaisies · 29/02/2020 19:46

Perhaps I need to get a grip!

Yep!

BootShakin · 29/02/2020 19:46

I think people are too harsh on the OP here. I'm sure many of the people who did use the lift with her some of them were completely healthy and looking at the state of the UK some probably needed the exercise. Yes they can use the lift as much as the OP but would be nice to let her use it first given she had her young child with her in a pram.

JustInCaseCakeHappens · 29/02/2020 19:46

Why oh why is it always about the damn kids?

to be fair, on a parenting forum, you are likely to have a lot of children-centered views

megletthesecond · 29/02/2020 19:46

I don't understand why healthy people don't take the stairs. My colleagues mostly take the lift 4 floors. I've always hauled myself, the shopping and the dc's up the stairs. It's horrible but it's bonus exercise .

Gwenhwyfar · 29/02/2020 19:47

"Yes they can use the lift as much as the OP but would be nice to let her use it first given she had her young child with her in a pram."

Sounds like she didn't even ask though.

woodhill · 29/02/2020 19:48

Could you go early or in the week OP to make life easier.

Saturday's are usually busy particularly when rainy

Daffodil101 · 29/02/2020 19:48

I was in a tall building recently, needing to get to the seventh floor. Before I could go up, I had to go down two floors into the basement to the cloakroom. I had my kids with me.

Having visited the cloakroom, we decided to take the lift up what was nine storeys. However, because we were in the basement, it took a long time for the lift to arrive. It frequently came down but would stop on the ground floor and go back up.

It did eventually arrive and we got in. At the ground floor it filled up with a large group of women, then it carried on up. On the first floor, the lift opened to reveal a woman waiting with a man in a wheelchair. There was no room in the lift and nobody got out. To be fair, we were at the back and would have to push past with the kids. The woman proceeded to give us all a mouthful of abuse for not giving up our places in the lift.

I still don’t know if I was being unreasonable not getting out. We waited a long time for the lift and we had a right to use it?

SuntanC · 29/02/2020 19:48

I am in a lot of pain, a lot of the time. Just because you think I don't deserve to use the lift due to lack of child or shopping, means I shouldn't? You're a blinkered fool.

BigSandyBalls2015 · 29/02/2020 19:49

I find this with tube ... people standing there in rush hour, 5 people deep to get on it ... then they get off at the next stop ... such a short walk!

Devlesko · 29/02/2020 19:49

YANBU, I prefer to use the lift, but would always ask if someone with a pram, or a stick, or wheelchair would like to go next.
I pissed a load of people off not long ago as I was next and let a wheelchair user and pram in front of me, who were at the back. Then, I waited for the next one.

Gwenhwyfar · 29/02/2020 19:49

"I don't understand why healthy people don't take the stairs."

5 floors?

It's like asking why don't people walk 5 miles to town. Yes, they could, but it's a pain.

Anything over 2 or 3 floors and it's normal to take the lift. That tiny bit of exercise is not going to turn you into a top athlete anyway.
I take the lift at work some of the time. I'm up and down the stairs a lot and sometimes I'm just too tired and in any case, it's not really anybody's business if I want to take the lift.

WhatHappenedThen · 29/02/2020 19:50

It be different if the building were just a couple of stories or if there were escalators but as it was I think YABU to want priority.

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Aquarius1619 · 29/02/2020 19:50

@MilkTrayLimeBarrel
I’ll sit my 11 month old down for a conversation about lift etiquette tomorrow, I’m sure she will understand! Too bad I didn’t think of that before, and you’re right of course my baby should already be aware she should wait her turn, I assume your kids would’ve probably held the door open for others at that age as well?

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Aquarius1619 · 29/02/2020 19:51

@Gwenhwyfar
I was parked five floors up.
There’s also a parking floor 1, 2, 3, 4 before that. They clearly weren’t all parked on floor 5

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Sn0tnose · 29/02/2020 19:52

So bloody annoying when you have a screaming baby in a pram and people who don't need the lift are blocking it!

Even more annoying when someone with a screaming baby in a pram feels qualified to judge who is or isn’t worthy of using the lift based on the 20 seconds it takes for the doors to open and close.

Gwenhwyfar · 29/02/2020 19:53

So what Aquarius, the lift is for anyone who wants it?
It's like saying able bodied shouldn't be allowed to use the bus if there are parents wanting to get on. It's first come, first served and you haven't answered why you didn't just ask to jump the queue if it was so important?

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