Background: I am a hobby photographer specialising in shooting live music gigs. I "work" for a couple of online magazines/websites. DH has some friends who are in a band. I know them too, but not as well as him. They've been together about a year, and play rock covers in local pubs etc. DH has been to see them a few times. I have seen them once - I was on my way back from a "proper" gig and picked DH up from the pub they were playing in. They were on late, I had the camera with me, so I took some photos for them which they absolutely love. Several of them are now using my pictures as social media profile pics etc. All good.
Fast forward to this week, they have a gig tonight. They've asked DH if he wants to go, and specifically asked for me to come too and bring my camera. I'd provisionally agreed, til I found out that this "gig" is actually them playing at someone's wedding. It's a professional paid job for them, they are not friends of the B&G. Neither me nor DH know the B&G.
I now feel really uncomfortable about this. The band are saying it's OK, they can take who they like along, but effectively gatecrashing a stranger's wedding just doesn't sit right with me. If it was just a birthday party or something then yeah but a wedding? I can't imagine that the B&G will want some stranger with a camera that they don't know wandering about the place. Also when "working" I like to dress comfortably as I often have to be on the floor, or twisting into odd positions to get the shots I want. So stretchy jeans, trainers, tshirt. If it's a formal wedding I am going to stick out like a sore thumb aren't I!
DH says it would be rude to the band to pull out now, I think it would be ruder to the B&G to turn up and I would feel like a proper CF.
Should I go?