Posters being horrible on Mumsnet

[glitteryboots]

Why can't I or anyone else ask a genuine question on Mumsnet without being called horrible names. If you think the original post is insensitive or just wrong why can't you say this without tearing into the OP? I am the first to admit when I am wrong and my beliefs have sometimes been changed by (reasonable) responses.

And for the record I never once mentioned my previous post.

Oh the hypocrisy! You lot are horrible but I'm nice! 🙄

So she is a stranger, or a vague acquaintance?

I'm assuming you wouldn't have thought or posted the same thread had she been a friend/family member?

I don't think someone saying "you sound like a horrible person" as constructive.

Why not?

On your thread, you did sound like a horrible person. You started a thread on a public forum, criticizing the way your FB friend was grieving for her father who only died a month ago.

After saying you disliked public grief, you then went on to admit you post every year on the anniversary of your brother's death. When it was pointed out the was hypocritical, you then tried to wriggle out by saying it was to remind family to contact your mum - totally ignoring the fact you could easily send a group FB message.

You absolutely did sound like a horrible person.

If you're not a horrible person in real life, then hopefully you'll take on board the constructive criticism with regards to how you came across.

And I really am glad you're not my FB friend if you think it's ok to criticize on a public forum like Mumsnet, how they grieve for loved ones.

Welcome to the internet @glitteryboots

If you can't stand the heat.......

You do have to have a thick skin as a lot of people are judgemental and openly show it.

Mind you I am on other forums and my posts, however disclosed they are, get nothing but kind and considerate replies that stick to the original question or issue asked. Not make digs and comments over the rest of my life! You can be honest and direct without being nasty, unfortunately that doesn’t seem to be the case here

Are you asking in AIBU, aka MN "fight club"?

This made me seriously lol

People on here can be ruthless. Some threads just expose the horror shows. Just try not to bite.

I read some of the baby name threads and posters can be vile to people's suggestions.

Don't take it personally, it's their issue. People who spout hate tend not to be in a good place.

I know for a fact that the people who are really nasty, catty, spiteful, and sarcastic on here, would NEVER say what they say on here, in real life How could you possibly know that for a fact? There are so many Mumsnet users and it's anonymous. There are also many people in real life who behave as you have described. So how could you know they aren't in fact the sane person/people?

I know for a fact that the people who are really nasty, catty, spiteful, and sarcastic on here, would NEVER say what they say on here, in real life

Yeah of course you do!

One person's difference of opinion is another persons being mean or rude or bullying. You sound like a horrible person isnt the same as you are a horrible person.

People are unnecessarily nasty on here.

Go out of their way to say really hurtful and spiteful things that aren’t even related to the OP.

If I am the OP I normally just leave the thread.

I don’t mind people disagreeing with me but don’t go out of your way to insult me.

I never say things here that I wouldn’t say in RL and I would hate to think anything I said here genuinely hurt someone.

I'm very curious about what exactly you are talking about.