to not want to be woken up....

[Letsallcountsheep]

Bit of back ground, I have sleep apnoea and use a CPAP machine

So last night as usual I took myself off to bed and left OH playing on his PS4, this happens most nights as he can't sleep before 1am and I like to go to bed around 11. Anyway at midnight he comes upstairs, has a shower, watches a bit of YouTube then will get in bed around 1.

I don't have an issue with his routine he can do what he likes, he's a 40 year old man. My issue is he will turn the big bedroom light on (his bedside lamp is no further then the light switch) which will 9/10 wake me as it's bright then will potter around the room/play a game on his phone while his shower "gets warm" then after his shower he will sit on the end of the bed, wake me to move my feet!! as they are in his way for sitting at the end of the bed while he air dries!! he will sit there watching his videos (with headphones but it's still load enough I can hear) then at 1am he switches everything off and goes to sleeps. Now I'm wide awake!!

We also have a DC(2) who sometimes wakes in the night as well

AIBU to ask him to do his little shower routine before I go to bed so he doesn't wake me up?

I mentioned the CPAP(which I have a love/hate relationship with) as sometimes I fall asleep watching TV so don't have my mask on so he will wake me to tell me to put it on, but he will wake me as soon as he comes in the room to put it on then sometimes I can drop back off while he's in the shower but then am woken AGAIN while he dries off.

There’s not a person on the planet who doesn’t know that you don’t switch on the big light if your partner is asleep unless you want to wake them up.
He knows exactly what he is doing and his behavior is abusive. I’d be shocked if he wasn’t abusive in other ways too.
I feel so sorry for you, OP.

That's SO unacceptable

Did you have sleep apnoea before he started this (selfish and unacceptable) routine?

Only, I never used to snore until my husband constantly woke me up with his snoring and sleep noises and refused to do anything about it, consequently I'm always exhausted and have put on weight around my neck. Just wondering if that was a factor in yours?

I’m staggered you’ve put up with this. He’s a selfish inconsiderate arsehole.

Why do you need to move your feet for him to sit at the end of the bed? Can he not sit on the end of his side? (I'm on your side BTW, in case it sounds otherwise)

His whole routine sounds selfish and ridiculous!!!

Do you even need the cpap

What a stupid question? Of course she does
CPAP machines are expensive they are only given out to people who really need them. DH was having 50 episodes an hour before he got his. He has also had a stroke. Without a CPAP he might not be here now.