To fantasise about going missing.

[Lilyamna]

I’m not going anywhere.

But I think about it a lot. Where I would go. How I would get there without leaving a trace. How long it would take people to notice I had gone and how long before they actually got worried.
I’d go to The Highlands, and I reckon it’s take 4 days for people to start looking.
Anyone else ever think about this or am I just odd?

I use this fantasy to help me sleep sometimes lol

A friend and I were discussing this the other day. You’re not alone. We’d both thought about it, especially on those days when adulting just seems too much! Is v tempting but would never do it ( I understand why people do, though).

When it's late I always turn all the lights off and put the TV on quiet and pretend I'm in a zombie apocalypse hiding out 😂 I've never been eaten yet!
Hope you find a nice relaxing cabin to go missing in OP

Yup, particularly as it would take probably 30minutes for people to wonder where I was and probably an hour for people to start worrying.

Not sure if that's a good thing

I think about this a lot. Leaving everything and just going. Phone off, forever. I'd go to Spain and work in a bar with no responsibilities. But travelling abroad would be traceable.

But i couldn't leave my young children.

Now and again I get in the car and dream an out driving off somewhere and not contacting anyone and seeing wheee the road takes me

Most people I know couldn’t go missing as they can’t go 5 minutes without posting a picture or update on social media.

Yeah I do.

Then the fuckers might appreciate me

Yeh, I was only watching something the other day about how to disappear. I don't plan to but for some reason it's comforting to believe I could do it.

No. But I'm thinking about it now

When my DD was tiny, and I was barely sleeping, I used to fantasise about this all the time.

I sometimes dream about getting in my car and driving as far as I can away from everything.

Ok, give me tips. How do I not get traced?

Sometimes when I’m driving home from somewhere at night I think I could just keep driving and never come back.

This is a bit close to home as someone HAS gone missing in our locality. Nobody I know, but I find myself thinking about her when I'm out walking the dog. Where is she? What happened to her? Is she - here- somewhere? I should imagine her friends and family are totally in bits at the moment.

Personally I don't fantasise about going missing, but I do wonder sometimes about telling the family, "Right. I'm off. Sort yourselves out." And wonder how long it'll be before they realise how much work I do do to keep the house and home going.

There’s a book where the main character does this. I’ll find it and link, hang on

www.sophiekinsella.co.uk/book/the-undomestic-goddess/

There's a podcast about exactly this! Can't remember what it's called off the top of my head, but one of the co conclusions they came to was hiding in plain sight was actually better than being covert e.g posing as a tramp. It's so difficult to do without help I think.

Thanks for the book recommendation @Bathbedandbeyond!

Different but similar, I sometimes fantasise about being marooned on a desert island for a while. I do get back to DD and DH eventually but only after a few glorious months of eating coconuts, getting a tan, and having no one else but me to worry about

The Undomestic Goddess is quite funny, I enjoyed it despite not being a Kinsella fan, good recommendation @Bathbedandbeyond !

Yes. Sometimes I wonder.

When I get quite ill with my bipolar. I make these grand plans

In reality. I'm warm comfy and loved. I'll stay put