WIBU to shout at neighbour rummaging through my skip?

[Bobthebobbin]

Moved to a new area and managed to fall out with a neighbor already.

I came home the other day to find an old man rummaging through my skip and a pile of "treasures" on the floor that he was helping himself to.

I asked him why he was on my property and what he was doing, he said he needed a few bits! He then proceeded to turn his back on me and carried on sorting through the skip. DP was at home but the man did not knock or ask to remove anything.

I said he can't just come on to my property and help himself to whatever he likes without asking. He said it's in the skip so fair game.

Things got a bit heated and I shouted at him to get off my driveway.

I am furious but also shaken up by an attempted burglary when we first moved in so perhaps that experience is colouring my view.

Genuinely cannot tell if IABU.

*For the record, I now deliberately smash items I take to the tip
Reason - a few years ago I was cutting my hedge and went through the cable. I decided rather than repair it - I’d take the cable off one at the tip
Went, emptied the cuttings I had then walked over and pulled a garden strummer out of a cage, grabbed my pliers and cut the cable off. Straight away I was shouted at. Told No, I couldn’t have it.
The chap in the car behind had a bike and patio set, the same man who shouted at me told the guy not to throw them and duly walked over and carried them over to the office where there was a huge array of “good” stuff.

So, now I think fuck you. And smash every item. I had to buy a cable from Homebase cost more than the damn hedge cutters.
I will never again take stuff that they can sell. Fuck them...it works both ways.*

What an awful attitude! Those items are sold for charity at our tip.

The thought of you deliberately smashing stuff up is just awful and leads to further landfill.

I would not be happy either.

We actually use a skip company that pay you to remove certain items eg scrap metal/old boiler etc and they also dispose of certain items responsibly so you can't get into trouble.

If a neighbour knocked and asked if they could have something specific of course I'd say yet but it is theft just to take.

The charity claim is nonsenses
I know for a fact that they are sold either on eBay or carboots.
They are lining their own pockets if you think differently then more fool you. They will get fuck all from me.
I’ve since heard the staff shout at others. If you go to ours on a weekday evening chances are you see the Luton van being loaded by the staff.

The charity claim is nonsenses
I know for a fact that they are sold either on eBay or carboots.
They are lining their own pockets if you think differently then more fool you. They will get fuck all from me.
I’ve since heard the staff shout at others. If you go to ours on a weekday evening chances are you see the Luton van being loaded by the staff.

And I know for a fact you're talking absolute bullshit!

*The charity claim is nonsenses
I know for a fact that they are sold either on eBay or car boots
They are lining their own pockets if you think differently then more fool you. They will get fuck all from me

Your skip may be a dodgy AF abut I work with teens and network with charities when they are due to leave our care or leave foster careers. A lot of stuffthat is donated and reused comes from the tip.

Even if it didn't and people are putting it to one side so bloody what? It's being reused. If people have the ' well I don't want but non else can' mentality they are petty and verging on being unstable by the sounds of it.
Attitudes like this contribute to our planet being trashed.
Small minded petty behaviour at its finest!

I know for a fact that they are sold either on eBay or carboots

Not at our tip. The stuff’s sold to ordinary punters. Our Dil bought her son a brilliant, virtually unused, tricycle at the tip for £4. He’s having lots of pleasure he wouldn’t if everyone took your, frankly disgusting, attitude. Who’d begrudge the guys who run the tip £4?

@contentedsoul so you take perfectly good items that you feel could be sold at car boots or eBay and smash them and then take them to the too? Why not take to a charity shop?

Unbelievable behaviour!

Maybe he didn’t ask because hecwas concerned about the response. ISn't that a bit like a rapist's excuse. "I would have asked but she would have said no! Hey! She did say no but..." You know... that thing about consent!

I'm calling Godwin's Law early.

Eye opening how selfish and miserable people are. Smashing up stuff so it can’t be used my anyone else. Astounding

Agree that if the skip is on private land then it’s polite to knock and ask first, but why would you object to anyone taking anything if they think they can make use of it? It just makes more space in the skip for you, so surely that’s a good thing? I’d want to make sure he cleared up properly after he has dragged stuff out though.

I give away tons of stuff to friends and take loads to charity shops too
But the tip chaps (well ours) are as bent as a nine Bob note. I refuse to line their pockets. It’s just not going to happen

@contentedsoul but why smash good stuff up? Why not give it to charity? You can't give too much to charity surely?

I give away tons of stuff to friends and take loads to charity shops too
But the tip chaps (well ours) are as bent as a nine Bob note. I refuse to line their pockets. It’s just not going to happen
I really hope you are trolling us and having a laugh at people being indignant at your post and not really a petty minded fucker.
So tip guys are bent because they can make a bit of brass on chucked out stuff? Good for them. You could make a free quid in your own stuff if you wanted.
I honestly don't get the problem. If you don't want someng anymore either sell it or give it away are the best options. To smash something that could be reused out of spite is beyond stupidity.

Bikerider2020

Nice of you to glaze over what I was responding to!

Can't believe this debate is still going but conclude that everyone, who thinks the OP was unreasonable, clearly helps themselves or would do so without asking for any permission, to a skip in their neighbours' drives. If anything got chucked there accidentally by either the said neighbours' or their builders/others doing any work on their property, the said neighbours wouldn't have been able to go back and find the accidentally chucked items after those, who decided to help themselves but that's just tough.

You definitely live and learn something new every day, and I now learnt how many people there are, who think it's ok to take things from someone else's property without a courtesy of asking for permission and would do so without a second thought! Absolutely amazing!

It is no wonder women allow themselves to be treated like shit when a poster is being vilified for expecting someonewho wants something from her, for free, to have some manners.

I came home from work to find the builders had chucked lots of really good sized pieces of wooden worktop in the skip. I managed to get them back out to be used in the utility room but would have been massively pissed off if someone had just come and helped themselves. If it's on the property, you ask.

Yeah, you're being a bit of a loon.

Howyiz Wed 26-Feb-20 15:19:33
It is no wonder women allow themselves to be treated like shit when a poster is being vilified for expecting someone who wants something from her, for free, to have some manners.
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Maybe but shouting at the old man was not on for such a minor offence. That is ruder than what the man was doing, albeit not illegal. Also shows lack of self control. I wonder what her partner thought of her shouting, embarrassed I expect.

The stuff the workers take at my local tip aren't pinched by them but donated to Sue Ryder. Smashing them up is disgustingly wasteful.

At the point I have decided to get rid of something, and not sell it, I couldn’t care less what happens to it. If it can be saved from landfill either for charity or sold on by the tip people, then good luck to them. I am astonished that people would purposely smash something rather than allow it to be reused. What an appallingly petty approach to life.

Lol I’m the bad person because I don’t want to contribute to someone else’s lifestyle...yep, whatever.

I give to charity both unwanted items plus direct debits set up.
Give to friends

What I won’t do is line peoples pockets when they’ve been petty towards me.

No sorry, my conscious is clean.
By all means carry on with the bitchin’

...water off a ducks back. ;)

@Lynda07 firstly he took something without asking, an offence I would pull my small child up in, then he dismissed her on her own property. She was fully justified in raising her voice when he refused to leave HER property!

Isn’t it a Health And Safety issue to allow someone to remove a cable from an electrical appliance and reuse it? If it was faulty and someone got an electric shock then the refuse centre could be liable?

@Saucey - that is probably right

But a blind eye is turned when they sell the washing machines to used domestic appliance dealers, who then wipe down and either sell or lease weekly to the poor buggers who can’t afford to buy new. Yes, that is true as the person in question was a friend of a relative.
Also a close friend of the same relative worked at a refuse centre (the one nearest to me) for about 6mths. He often commented “you wouldn’t believe the amount of fiddle that goes off there”
It wasn’t so much I’d cut the cable, but that I’d made that item unsellable

You all need to open your eyes and stop being so naive.