WIBU to shout at neighbour rummaging through my skip?

[Bobthebobbin]

Moved to a new area and managed to fall out with a neighbor already.

I came home the other day to find an old man rummaging through my skip and a pile of "treasures" on the floor that he was helping himself to.

I asked him why he was on my property and what he was doing, he said he needed a few bits! He then proceeded to turn his back on me and carried on sorting through the skip. DP was at home but the man did not knock or ask to remove anything.

I said he can't just come on to my property and help himself to whatever he likes without asking. He said it's in the skip so fair game.

Things got a bit heated and I shouted at him to get off my driveway.

I am furious but also shaken up by an attempted burglary when we first moved in so perhaps that experience is colouring my view.

Genuinely cannot tell if IABU.

Ifyoudontlaughyouwillcry

On another matter it’s not and never was a burglary.

I never said this was a burglary

The attempted burglary was someone breaking into my house in the middle of the night shortly after we moved in.

He could have knocked the door and asked but I think you were being a bit precious.

Slightly missing the point but skip companies send as little as 5-10% to landfill. They recycle a lot!! Annoys me the way people just assume landfill is the only option in this country. However it legally belongs to you until it is taken away by the skip company so yes i’d be a bit peeved at him.

You threw it out into an oversized bin. You didn’t want it. Yabu. Unless he climbed over a gate and to a skip in your locked back garden.
Personally I would asked if he wanted a bag.

We currently have a skip. There are loads of useful things in there that we just don’t need. We’ve said to all the neighbours to help themselves if they fancy a rummage. I would not be happy if random people just came onto the property without prior invitation or arrangement though. YANBU

He should have asked but you shouldn't have shouted at him.

If the skip is in the street, it’s fair game. If the skip was on your driveway, on your property, he’s trespassing and should’ve asked permission.

We have a skip.

Around 1/3 of the contents have gone missing over the last 48 hours.

I don't really care, if someone can make use of the stuff I've cleared out so be it.

To all those saying you are bei g unreasonable, fuck you! No seriously......

The first rule of skip salvaging, is asking permission. THE FIRST RULE. Especially when it's on someone's drive/garden etc. It's you drive past and no one is around, and the skip is in the road, and it's not.obvs turn that's different.

I have never, and would never dream of going through someone's skip, without knocking first, and asking permission.

Plus, TECHNICALLY, once anything enters the skip, it is the PROPERTY of the skip owner.

So you saying, if I put something outside my home it's ok to.come and.grab it without asking if its ok first? That item may be.iut while I rearrange stuff, or for collection for a friend. Unless there is a note sayiNg.... Help yourself, then it's THEFT.

THIS IS THEFT, plain and simple. Without asking permission he is stealing, plus it's rude not to ask.

Ive skip salvaged a few times over the years, but.you always have to ask first. How do they know you haven't just out something in there while you sort stuff, just to keep it out the way‽

I'm still shocked at how many on here are so willing to.commit theft, and then have a go if questioned.

You can be arrested for stealing from a.skip.

I think it's really bizarre to be so bothered about someone taking stuff that you've thrown away as presumably you don't want or need it.

I would be happy that someone is taking the stuff out! Means I have more space for the rest of the crap I own to go in the skip. I do agree though that the attitude was not needed and if a neighbour was on my property and spoke to me rudely while helping themselves it would get my back up... and I would have probably reacted the same as you and had a heated discussion. Mine would have been more along the lines of you can take what you like from the skip but there is no need to talk to me like rubbish...because of that I want you off my drive...next time have the courtesy to knock and ask me and you might then get a better response!

@Bobthebobbin
Did you actually call it an attempted break-in? 😂
He was taking things you were throwing away not picking the locks!

I'd have set the hose on him

Wtaf? Are people really this bonkers?

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No. Rtft.

Yes he should have knocked. But as they say one man's junk is another's treasure.. It went to good use rather than landfill?

@MacBlank are you OP's evil, excessively aggressive, twin sister? Why are you so angry?

People saying it's no big deal, would you be ok with someone walking up your driveway and going through your household rubbish?

absolutely! I would see if there was anything else they wanted while they were there for a couple of reasons. 1' to try to have good neighbour relationships and 2 to try no empty the skip as much s possible to reduce the number I my need, they can get expensive. 3 to reduce landfill waste.

He hasnt gone into your freezer and nicked your food, he's took stuff that you have wizzed out!

YABU

I'm sorry but I can't understand why anyone would be angry at someone taking something I had thrown out.

It would have been polite to ask and to thank you for the stuff but it's not like you were doing them a favour, quite the opposite really.

FFS - Stuff you don’t want and have chucked out but you don’t want anyone else to have it?
You started shouting at an old man for trying to make use of your rubbish

• but you’d rather just Bon it because it’s YOURS. Poor old boy. I would genuinely have been happy for him to recycle my junk. Enjoy your junk precious.

Learn to reign in your temper, op, reserve it for deserving cases which this was not.

So many people ignoring that he refused to get off her drive/stop and turned his back on her. I think that’s more the issue than skip diving. If I challenged someone on my property, I’d be bloody cross if he ignored me and carried on! (Did it one time, DH tackled him, turns out he’d just nicked a Merc and the police had lost him as he fence jumped through back gardens, he was escaping next door’s extremely grumpy GSD when he jumped into our garden)

I see cries of ageism all the time on here. I don’t think him being old is relevant. He needs to know the OP has boundaries, so fair play to her shouting at him.

He was rude not asking first and a bit cheeky coming onto your property. But at the end of the day, he's reusing stuff rather than it going to landfill and if he's that desperate you've got to feel sorry for him. Not worth falling out with neighbours over. It happens all the time around here. And some lovely person has dumped a fridge and a freezer in the garden of an empty, just sold, house over the road. Now that really pisses me off

Did you also shout “get orf my laaaaaand’ and wave your pitchfork at him?

Yabu in that someone's trash is another person treasure

Yanbu he could have at least asked you