What is something socially acceptable for one gender to do but not the other?

[FunkyTime]

Anything you can think off?

I will start
Going topless - men it's totally fine but women get heckled and slagged off for it

Sit with spread legs.

1forsorrow I spend far more time with tweezers than I'd like! I wonder sometimes what would happen if I just let it grow - I suspect people would interpret it as some kind of statement about my gender identity.

It’s not socially acceptable for men to not work and live off their partner’s earnings.

It’s not socially acceptable for women to only see their children every other weekend.

I can cultivate a moustache - I”m middle aged and menopausal

Growing older. One sex have to dye hair, slap on creams and spend a fortune on treatments/make-up/cosmetic procedures etc. to pretend it isn’t happening, whilst the other carry on as normal and simply become “more distinguished”.

According to my dp's family:

Money, finances, paying bills, earning a good wage - all things which lie in the realm of man, not unacceptable for women but completely beyond their capability.

Me breastfeeding my dd was met with horror. Dp's dad and brothers and brother in law all remove their tops off at the first hint of the sun and that's absolutely fine.

Single mothers = bad, probably cheating the tax payers. Working anything more than part time mothers = bad and selfish. Sahm = lazy and greedy.

None of the above are true in my family, so really it depends on your circle I think.

Stopping at a pub after day’s work- i would feel very uncomfortable doing that alone.

Drink beer in public in sensible quantities, ie pints. Fine for men, but women can get negative attention for doing so.

Being very knowledgeable about sport. Fine for men, less so for women. I’m a cricket geek. Some men don’t like to be told that they don’t actually understand the LBW law as well as they think they do...

Wearing appropriate clothing at work in hot weather. Women can get away with wearing sleeveless tops, short skirts and sandals, men generally can’t get away with shorts & t-shirts.

Smile Each DAy I think both can stick, actually.

Let's face it men have it so much easier. No periods , no childbirth woes, no facing the scary make up counter woman for some advice on foundation colours to hide the blemishes , no waxing the top lip or other areas , hardly any hang ups about getting older or what to wear on a night out.
I'm being glib here , but they do not have the niggles that women do and can seem to get away with stuff we just can't.
Women are judged more if they behave like a man : seen as a ' bitch' if they are hard or lack empathy , but if it's a man it's expected or not judged quite as badly.
Women judge other women much more than men do.
No idea how to change any this of course.

I don't think that is socially acceptable

CMS do. They use none of the powers available to them to make not paying less favourable.

Do people actually stop at the pub worry night after work? Apart from in coronation street,I wouldn't have thought this was a socially acceptable thing to do for either gender these days ?

Hairy legs and armpits.
Which is ridiculous.

Wear dresses

If fathers work long hours they are just doing their best to provide for their family, if mothers work long hours they are neglecting their family for their career.

It's much more socially acceptable for women to ask for part time/flexible working, time off for school events etc.

I disagree with a few of these tbh. I don't think men walking around topless (except on the beach) is acceptable. And strippers for women are just as tacky and awful for women as for men imo.

I totally disagree about the beer thing too. I'm nearly 50 and have always drunk pints. Never once had 'negative attention' for doing so. Lots of the others are true, but many are gradually changing.

@x2boys yes they do! Mainly men in my experience. I’ve worked in a local pub for years and so does my friend and it happens EVERY day!

Pppppickupapenguin

Strippers.

Ladies nights are 'cool and fun' mens version is 'tacky and sleazy'.

Yeah but in reality which one happens more?

Same with DV.

On TV a man hitting a woman would never be played for laughs in the way that a woman slapping a man round the chops would be. But in reality which happens more?

Men have much less control over the fate of their unborn children than women. Ultimately it is usually the woman's choice whether to bring the baby into the world or not.

People do often remark on a woman choosing to drink a pint. Annoying.

Not be the main carer for your kids

Alcohol. Women still get blamed for being raped, if drunk.

It should ALWAYS be solely the woman’s choice. That’s the law (in the UK at least), thank goodness.

Use the opposite sex changing rooms in m&s a man does it even brags about leaving a special surprise in it and his Hope's that terfs try on said dress after him no real response from m&s except a stock letter stating people can use whichever changing room they feel comfortable with.loads of threads in mumsnet and other places discussing it. a born female uses the mens changing rooms gets challenged by the staff sobs at them that "she" identifies as a "he" and nothing really not even a thread on here as far as I can see (disclaimer the app is playing up so I might have missed it)

Agree with pps who say only see kids alternate weekends. Also not taking responsibility for any of the mental load- arrangements, planning, present buying etc. I've lost count of the conversations I've had with fathers of my kids friends who say 'oh I don't know you'll have to ask their mum about that'.
Its just learned helplessness and it drives me crazy.