Not sure if IABU or not, opinions please??

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Basically no idea if I am BU in thinking that this strange.

PILs gave us their old sofas about 6 years ago when they got new ones.

We just bought a new sofa and therefore put the old ones on Gumtree. Got collected the other night and buyer paid £100. Fast forward to today and MIL went looking through our drawers for the money and took it.

I think this is a bit weird considering they gave us the sofas, it's basically saying no I actually let you borrow them until they were sold.

Do you think this is a bit of weird behaviour or would you have taken the money like they did?

Hahaha what 👀

Report her for theft. Inform at least every family member not to leave their purse /wallet lying around.

That's theft, surely. When someone gives something away it's not theirs anymore

Maybe I am being stupid but it's a bit weird and they are pretty well off not like they are skint or anything

Asking for the money would be one thing but to go digging through your draws for it!!

What?

Where were you while she was rooting through the drawers?

Seems strange to just take it and very rude to be rifling through your drawers looking for the money.

I would have probably used the money to pay for lunch for everyone as a treat or go out somewhere for the day. That way everyone benefits and it's a little thanks to them for letting you have them originally.

You seem more worried about it being weird than the fact your mil has just stolen from you.

I'm curious what she'd have done if the buyer had done a bank transfer of the £100? YADNBU, it's extremely odd behaviour. And, as PP have said, theft.

She said "oh is the money in the drawers" went looking for it and DH said "oh, are you taking they money?" She was like "yes" as if it was a given. Neither of us said anything it was all just so cringe to be honest

She's very rude! When my stepdad gave us anything he always said give me a pound (which we did) and then it's ours to do with what we liked in the future. Obviously he wasn't bothered about the money but it just made it a nice neat transaction. But then he was an extremely nice person and not grabby like your MIL!

That's theft report her

I think it's odd she went looking for the money, but tbh probably wouldn't have sold them myself, rather given them to someone. Or if they were worth a bit, split the money or just not told them?

You give a friend a dress. A while later she says "you know that dress you gave me? Flogged it for £100!" I think anyone would feel a bit miffed at that.

A simple, "we got rid of the sofa you gave us and have a new one arriving on XYZ date" might have been better.

I always feel funny about selling on stuff that's been gifted to me, so first offer it back to the original owner or try and find a new home for it myself.

To be honest we didn't really say anything as I would never fall out with anyone over money but by her taking the money it kind of like saying they never gifted the sofas to us and it was just a loan

I'd go to hers, find it and take it back

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So weird that she took the money out of your drawer, but I would have given her the money of my own volition anyway.

I think you both came out of this badly. You should have told her you were selling them and offered half (or all) of the money - she shouldn’t have gone rifling through your things for the money either.

She did know they were being sold as discussed it before hand etc. But didn't realise she wanted the money until she took it so was a bit taken a back although would never have said anything

Report her theft

Where was the drawer? And why would you keep money in there? How would she know theat you keep money in a drawer?
So many questions!

That's mental - can't believe she went through your drawers for the money. What a strange woman.
Plus - she gave it to you so the money was legally yours.

That's gobsmacking!
Would she have sold them herself, or paid council to come and take them away? If she would just have chucked them then she has an absolute cheek. You made the effort to have them clean and saleable, and had people round to view, she didn't do any of that!
Little Red Hen springs to mind! - not prepared to do any of the work, but happy to have the result.
She's your very own CF!

Of course, you could always charge her £100 for storing them for her for the last xx years.....
Go on, I dare you!

Bizarre