I know I am but GRRR at deleted threads in Relationships

[AnnDaloozier]

You get all invested and OMG .and then boom it’s gone.

Yeah yeah other people’s lives etc, but it’s interesting even if it’s a load of old bollocks

The thing with relationship ones is that there is often very sound advice, links and phone numbers - I wish that would just delete the original post rather than kill the thread...

@jillandhersprite that would be better. I am also tired of giving advice and then finding the whole thread poooof!

Which thread?

Genuine q: why do they get deleted?

Yes!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'd invested so much in a thread last week.. and them poof. It's gone. I understand why.. but I NEED TO KNOW ;)

Most of the threads there are probably bollocks. And when they aren't there are too many people who can't move past their own experiences and are utterly incapable of being impartial.

Some are made up. I don’t get invested in any threads anymore.

I agree with the PP, some deleted threads have fantastic advice that it's sad to see deleted.

Loads are. I do like a ‘is her cheating ?’ one though - specially if they are made up

Love the initial start. Then the drip feed of suspicious behaviour . Then the frantic tech chapter. Then the chapter where she tries to hold it together. This is punctuated by more outrageous deeds by the panto baddie H who DOESNT KNOW SHE KNOWS. the giveaway that theyre made up is at this point- way too long not blurting something out.

I was reading one yesterday, wanted to post on it, got sidetracked and never went back to it. I've been looking for it for the last half an hour. Gone.

Yy. Two for me

I think at least 70% of threads are made up.

YABU for getting invested

Sometimes it’s because the OP has had the thread taken out of their hands by some newspaper trying to get content through lazy means and is terrified of being identified.

Sometimes it is because the thread was started by a PBU.

Which thread?

There was one by a user who put in a lot of personal details. Her username was a FirstnameLastnameNumber, it had ages and names of children. Apparently a PBU.

Oh but they’re fun.
Panto HACK HIS PHONE HACK HIS PHONE

I had one I'd opened deleted. I was in a bad way, and my OP late on a Saturday evening mentioned drink and gave me a torrent of unpleasant, unhelpful posts.

It may have been fun for some but I was a sad, lonely, terrified person who needed some sort of shoulder to cry on.

Some of the posts were kind, but some were hideous.

70 percent of threads are made up?! I must be v naive, I honestly didn't think it was that high

What is a PBU?

Previously banned user

People really need to stop over investing on the internet. The Relationships forum is probably worse than AIBU for drawing in liars, beggars and storytellers. Heck, one on there is such a blatant begging thread, yet its going on and on and on.

Use more common sense, then there's less sense of loss over these things.

I had to get mine deleted because the woman in question who was causing the issues in my marriage stalked me to mumsnet and then gave me hell over irl

Mine was deleted because my (now) STBXH got on the thread pretending to be a poster offering advice.
It was very stressful for me once I realised he knew everything I'd been saying. All the advice gone and no concern from mumsnet that I could potentially be in a very unsafe situation.