To think 3 kids in a 3 bed house is perfectly fine

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Having this discussion with DH atm. We currently have 2yo and 6 week old DSs. We both know God willing we want a third, and would like a similar age gap.
We planned to extend our house in the next few years but after having some smaller projects go on I am massively put off, the chaos was frustrating and difficult with little ones, and realistically the extension would be 100x worse. DH said its best we start looking for a four bed, although in our area they're hard to come by and it's very competitive. I don't think we have the money or strength to move right now tbh. We love our house very much, it's so perfectly located for our lives but it's only 3 bed, with the third room being quite tiny, about 6ft x 8ft tops (of the top of my head) which we use as a nursery. I have absolutely no problem having the two boys in the same room (approx 8ft x 10ft) until they are older and we are hopefully more financially and mentally prepared to move/extend, but DH having always had separate rooms to his siblings, doesn't think its doable.

I get the rooms aren't big, but I find we spend 90% of our time in the living room anyway. Am I going mad to think there's absolutely nothing wrong with what I'm thinking?!!

It’s absolutely fine when they are little. I do personally think as they get older it’s preferable for each child to have their own space. Before I get flamed, preferable doesn’t mean has to be.

Of course it's fine. It will get tighter as they get older and need more space. If you have the means to extend I would do it now while you have fewer children and less disruption.

We have 3 kids in a 3 bed house, one being a tiny box room like you described & have no issue with it. The kids get used to sharing if they know no different 🤷‍♀️

I was brought up sharing a bedroom with my sister and two other siblings shared as well it was considered normal. My two kids had their own rooms. I also would never go through having an extension with two young kids. We did and it was horrendous.

Depends a bit on the sexes and ages involved but with 2 boys and a 2 year age gap, yes completely fine.

I would think hard about the "similar age gap" though. I've seen it bring totally competent, energetic women to their knees (for a few years at least).

I have four kids (aged 5-11) in a three bedroomed house.

The kids all have a cabin bed style with their own desk.

We have a MASSIVE garden and a playroom in the cellar.

Sometimes they get cross with each other but they have places to go and they are all excellent at sharing. Bluetooth headphones have solved a lot of issues as well.

Whenever we ask them if they want to move, it's a resounding NO!

Fine when they are little with small age gaps.

My mum had 4 with big age gaps in a 3 bed house. I was 15 when my youngest sibling was born. It sucked.

I had my own room but my youngest siblings were in my mums room until they were around 5/6 and my brother the box room.

Is the bedroom that's going to be shared big enough to play in as well? We have three in a 3 bed and will extend soon hopefully. It is living space we need as much as anything.

yes its fine as you have 2 DC same sex - my BF 2 are only wanting their own space now at 11/13 and the younger is not keen as has never known any different - if you end up with 3 DS then I would use the biggest room for all 3!

The way I envisage it would be the boys would share until the eldest really needs his own space, maybe 8-10? Besides, it's another 18months before I'd even consider ttc, plus 9months pregnancy and a further 6mo with baby in our room so another 3 ish years before it becomes a 'problem'

We had a 4, 2 and baby. The older two shared, the baby shared with us, and we kept a spare room. We felt squished. It was more the downstairs space that was lacking.
We moved, and now have 2 extra rooms downstairs, and the kids have a room each. It makes a big impact on how I feel day-to-day.

We have a fair ish living room 21ft by 8-10ft, as it's not a neat rectangle, plus a dining room sort of room which is generally used as an office come painting/play doh messy table room! We also have a small toilet downstairs. Kitchen is tiny but practical

Another one here who thinks it’s fine. Certainly for a good few years yet.

My two brothers would have killed each other if they had to share past the age of 5. They needed their own space. I did have two cousins though who happily shared even when their sister moved out and one if them could have had their own room. So I'd say luck of the draw as to whether that works. That said it'll be fine when they're very little.

It's just me and 7yo DD in a 3 bed. NDNs have 3 kids though and seem to manage fine I have absolutely no idea how they all fit in

We have 3 in a 3 bed house, it’s pretty normal for siblings to share a room.

I had 3 ds in 5 years, it is great fun!

I don't object to moving but don't feel it's necessary to consider for another few years

It's fine I have 4 in a 3 bed, not ideal now they are nearly 17,15,13 and 6 but just the way it is and how it's going to stay as a single parent

I have the smallest room which fits double bed, wardrobe and set of draws and the biggest to rooms have the B&q dividers in giving each of them there own but small space

I also have four DC in a three bed house. We extended the box room out over that big empty space above the staircase and put a custom built bed into it, other DC in that room has a cabin bed with built in storage. The next bedroom is fairly large and if needed we would have scope to partition it into two smaller rooms, either temporarily or permanently, at a later date. We also have a large garden and a separate dining room which has been given over to the DC, oldest has a TV in there and we have plans to reorganise it and put in a small sofa, mini fridge, etc.

I had three in a three bedroom house for a few years and it was absolutely fine. They were all born in the space of 2.5 years so they all shared a room for a while then the eldest got his own room when he was about five. It worked well for me. We have a five bedroom now they’re older and we had a fourth child.

What is more difficult now than when I was a child is that my DCs have used their bedroom for a hang out space much more than I ever did. Sleep overs, movie nights, are very common. I extended the back of my property and made the front living room a bedroom. Which was relatively cheap compared to a loft extension or a two storey extension.

Normal. I visit a lot of houses in the course of my job. As children get older there is more than one way to give them their own space than just bedrooms. Things I've seen include, the drummer taking over the garage (slept in the smallest bedroom in the house but didn't hang out there), setting up a gaming area downstairs for an older child who shared a room with a much younger one -comfy chair, screen and console, sort of storage unit as well. Lots where kids shared bedrooms but the house has a dining room which was used by different groups of youngsters at different time. I think a separate dining room does a lot for family living! My parents once had a tiny house with a 'lean to' where my brother had the computer (a while back, when there was a family desktop computer!) and spent most of his time there. He has his own bedroom but it wasn't much bigger than his actual bed!
Just avoid doing what I did, which was give birth to a budding artist. The take up ALL the communal spaces.

We have 3 kids in a 3 bedroom -- 2 boys (aged 9 and 6) sharing the larger bedroom and the box room as a nursery. We do have a lot of non-bedroom space though; I think the house was initially two flats so there are two separate living areas. The boys use the (arguably nicer) downstairs and that's where we keep toys, video game consoles, etc. and the bedroom is really just for sleeping. DH and I use the upstairs more, since that living space is closer to the kitchen!

We have a similar sized house by the sounds of it! We are considering a third child and reckon it would be fine having 2 share and 1 in the little room until they are older. I definitely don't think it's enough space for 3 teens! We'd probably start thinking about moving when the oldest is about 8.

We have 3 kids in a 3 bed but the bedrooms are all quite big with the one and only toilet and bathroom being downstairs.

The bedroom situation doesn’t bother me so much (small age gap and same sex siblings so enjoy sharing for now) but the bathroom situation is really getting to me. I’m dreading the thought of 3 teenagers and 2 adults all fighting over 1 toilet in the only bathroom of the house!

I think you’ll be fine in your current set up for a good 5-10 years at least.