Unreasonably irritated that only about 8 people call me by my correct name?

[Imnotcalledthat]

It’s unusual, granted but I didn’t choose it. Still, it isn’t hard to say.

A handful of friends and my sister are the only ones who say it correctly. Everyone else says a similarly spelled but very differently pronounced name.

Imagine if your name was Joan and everyone said Joanne ... it’s that sort of idea.

It doesn’t matter how many times you correct them.

Should I just give in and accept I’m a Joanne to most people?

@3rdchristmaslucky My name is Siobhan and i've never had to give up and let people pronounce it incorrectly. I just explain to them where the sounds come from and then they say it right...

I find it rude if someone can't be bothered to learn how to say your name - i'd be mortified if i found out i'd done that to someone!

I think it's rude in people who spend lots of time with you, colleagues, friends. I have had the same - no one does it now, I have no idea why, but even strangers get it right first time and its not hard. I do wonder why so many people in my youth got it wrong persistently, teachers even!

I have a different name-related frustration. I have a long name which I have never liked, and have gone by a well known diminutive since a teenager. Even my dad switched to calling me by the diminutive because he recognised it mattered to me. A few other family members just will not do it, even when I use the diminutive when referring to myself. Even when they know I don't like the long version. It's like their opinion matters more than mine. About my own name.

I have a pal who can say my name correctly but spells it wrong every single time - every e-mail, card, text. It's not an unusual name or weird spelling. Not sure why it irritates me a bit but it does. I've pointed it out in a jokey way but she still carries on. What's that about?

Some people call me a shortened version of my name i hate it , it's not that I hate shortening just this particular way , I don't identify with it at all . I once had an ex colleague follow me around a shop calling me by this name i didn't turn around because I don't use this name and wouldn't know that it was me she was calling , I must have seemed so rude

I do sometimes have to ask how certain Irish names are pronounced. Siobhan, Saoirse and Naomh and Niamh I know already but I'm still completely thrown by some. Some Scottish too such as Ruaridh needed some explaining as well but there's no excuse to get them wrong once you know.

On that subject though, I do think this is pretty funny especially as my DH is Irish:

People just don't listen or observe properly.
I changed the way I spelled my name when I was a teenager (I'm now in my 40s) and my mum –my MUM! – still uses the old spelling. I sometimes wonder if she's trying to make a point, but I think she's just a bit oblivious.

@WendyImHome

YABU for not reading the OP correctly and making a tit of yourself

Actually, OP says ‘I used to correct people ann but you end up feeling quite rude’.

So she has STOPPED correcting people.

So you should ready correctly and stop making a tit of yourself WENDY.

I feel for you....

I have a girls name as a surname (on marriage).

So something like:

Catherine Jane

the number of people in work who address emails to Jane rather than Catherine is scary.

If they don't take the hint, I start addressing their emails to their surname.

What was even more disturbing was that people who worked with me at the point when I got married did it as well. For years they'd happily call me Catherine when I was Catherine Smith. But the minute I became Catherine Jane, they started calling me Jane.

@onalongsabbatical

onalongsabbatical

YABU for not correcting people
It doesn’t matter how many times you correct them

There's the problem. OP says she corrects people, poster doesn't read opening post, blames OP. PEOPLE DON'T LISTEN OR READ PROPERLY!

OP says she used to correct people so you read properly !!

I get it too but the name people mishear is not like my name at all!

Think Mary being confused for Marion.

My name doesn't have a hyphen in it but the same name commonly does. So at work, despite protestations on my part, I've gained one!

People regularly tell me my name isn't my name- that the name 'always' has a hyphen. It doesn't. I've seen others without it.

And I do have a name that people continually misspell but I pull them up on it!

Tell us the name. Can't be that outing unless you are literally the only one in the country.

I'm 100% with you OP.

I have a foreign name which is more usual to hear now but mine is a foreign spelling and also slightly different pronunciation. I have accepted the anglicised pronunciation as people just can't get their tiny heads around it. But the amount of idiots people that call me the anglicised version that starts with a different fucking letter!

Plus half the world misspells it even after I've emailed or texted including my name. That meme is fab. Going to use it!!!

I think that people are often too sensitive about this kind of thing. I have an unusual surname that people always spell wrong and often mispronounce. But I accept its unusual and many people wont have come across it before. It's not an insult, it's a learning process. If you have a very Irish, Scottish, Welsh name, or even further afield, maybe a little forgiveness is needed when people don't nail it instantly, even after a correction or two. I think this applies if you have an unusual spelling or pronunciation of a common name. If you tell someone you're called Haigh-Lee, you can't really be angry if you receive a message addressed to Hayleigh.

That being said, when it's written down on emails etc. misspelling is not very professional.

I don't get called the wrong name but they constantly spell it wrong and it infuriates me. I am not Lindsay, Lindsey, Lynsay etc I am Lynsey. love the meme @KungFuPandaWorksOut20

I had a school friend called Karen (short a, as has every Karen I've ever known). The HT insisted on calling her Kaaaaren. It was actually quite pass ag.

My DM had a Geordie boss who called her 'pet'. Everyone thought he was calling her Pat, and she became Pat.

She was delighted, her actual name was Gladys.

I am not from the UK. The first time I said Siobhan (at work in Dublin) as it looks "see-o-barn" and my colleagues choked on their laughter, and fell apart. Kind of cemented in my brain, seared in some might say, how to correctly say it.

After that, they'd give me the most Irish names they could find to call, to hear me mash them.
My friends DD is called Iida. Not Lida. Not Lisa. She's fairly used to correcting people now.

Perhaps I'm too chilled out but it would't/doesn't bother me. I've got a not-very-common but perfectly mainstream classic name. Nevertheless, inexplicably all through my life I've often had people call me by a similar but more unusual (American) version of it which has a completely different spelling/sound. I've no idea why, it makes no sense, but I tend to just ignore their error and answer to whatever they call me

I don't think people are being deliberately rude, and I've no doubt that I've accidentally called people to wrong pronunciation of their name at times. I just don't think it's worth the effort of being too bothered by it.

My surname is the same as a very common boys first name. People actually ask me how to spell it. I want to say ffs, how do you think it’s spelled?

My DD's name consists of five letters, okay her name is not English but it's pronounced exactly as it's spelled and it's pretty straightforward.

So why so many people swap the first two letter around and end up with some mangled version of her name, I can't imagine.

When she lived with me I'd answer the phone and it would happen every time when people rang her and were clearly reading her name from a sheet of paper they had in front of them.

Used to irritate me. I can imagine it would get really annoying having to have this all the time.

"Lisa/liese?"

"Sarah/Sara?"

Well, as it begins with "I", I suspect that's unlikely

To be honest, I find it difficult to remember the pronunciation of names unless I see it written down

My father, bless him, never managed to quite get right the names of me / my sister and my mother, let alone those of extended family and friends. Some people just have blocks.