AIBU to wonder if this could be more? Think I’m in love with my best friend

[captainamericassexybeard]

Have name changed for this because my other friend is on here and knows my username and I think I might combust with embarrassment if she came across this and clocked it was me (the wedding details might be outing).

I briefly “dated” a guy as a young teen and then we became really good friends and stayed that way, pretty much best friends ever since - purely platonic.
He’s a very attractive guy but I’ve genuinely never ever felt anything for him other than platonic love. Mutual friends have always said they don’t know why we aren’t together and some of my newer female friends have commented that they think there could be something there, but until recently I’ve always thought it was funny and brushed it off. I would have gone as far as to say we were like brother and sister!

Recently we went to a wedding together as I needed a plus one, and I don’t know what happened but it’s like I’ve suddenly seen him in a new light. Nothing out of the ordinary happened, we had a great night as always when we are out but it’s like something has clicked in my brain and now I can’t stop thinking about him.

We are going to another wedding together on Friday, I’m returning the plus one favour and I’m really ridiculously nervous! I feel like I’m going to act weirdly or something or get drunk and say something and we’ve been friends for nearly 17 years now so I don’t want to ruin it! I’ve been avoiding him all last week because I think I’ll just go red or make it really obvious that something has changed.

I’m mortified at being such a cliche and reading this post back it sounds like the set up
For a VERY bad romcom. I’m a bit beside myself. I don’t know what to do about it, if anything at all, and how on earth I tell if he could like me more than friends (inwardly cringing).
Jesus I’m too old for this shit.

Agree with @IslaMann just concentrate on enjoying the day and having a wonderful time with your friend. Don’t feel any pressure to make something happen at this event as you’ll get another bite at the cherry if you really want this. Just go and have fun!

Good luck op, get out there have a great day and sparkle.

The biggest risks have the greatest rewards.

Good luck for today OP.

Been following this from early on. Lovely thread! Agree with PPs that he definitely likes you. Please be brave!
(Even if nothing happened it's not the end of the world. My male best friend kind of proposed to me and I just did not feel the same way even though we had so much in common I felt like I ought to. I stood my ground and years later we are both married to different people and still good friends. This just to show that there doesn't need to be awkwardness. But it seems obvious that your friend has liked you for years so I'm sure it's not necessary!)

Wow that’s an early wedding. Pace yourself with the alcohol. Good luck I’m sure you’ll look lovely.

Good luck!

Good luck op.....!!!

Oooooooooh! Today's the day. Good luck.

Push for the pact and see how he reacts!! Also, you could, given you're so close, ask him who he was talking about when he said "maybe I have but she doesn't want to marry me" comment. "Do I know her?"
Good luck!

You don't have to do anything.
Enjoy yourself and be yourself. He'll love it. 😊

So exciting!!!! Have a great day x

Good luck OP. Don't get too sozzled and be sick on your frock .

Ooooh try and enjoy the excitement and the buzz. It’s actually something quite fun and special that doesn’t happen all that often. Worse case scanario- you have a lovely fun filled day with your BFF.

OP don't be sick on your frock you'll have to take it off. Or is that your plan @01Frouby

Good luck, OP!

Best of luck today OP. COUPLE of glasses of champagne only to take the edge off, then get the conversation round to reminiscing about school. If you tell him that he was your first crush, if he doesn't sweep you into his arms at that point, then neither of you are ever going to get a better opportunity than that to lay your cards on the table. If he doesn't seem enthusiastic at that point, you can chalk up the crush to 'youthful follies' or similar. Go get him, tiger!

I've just finished binge watching suits so I'm definitely cheering you on!

Hope today works out for you OP

Following with keen interest and wishing u all the best

Your outfit sounds beautiful
Drink very little- until you have resolved this either way or decided to put it off to another time. whatever happens you’ll feel better if you had a clearish head at the time.
Max it up on the normal friendly close physical contact (..this is already low grade flirting: So the signs are good if that’s how you normally are...) then if you get a positive vibe back, just say you need to be honest about something and you are a bit scared what he might say and take it from there. Don’t play any games, whatever the outcome you’ll feel better if you don’t.
Try to relax. your friendship as it used to be is already over now because you like him, so there’s nothing left to lose by being honest and seeing what happens. Better to have loved and lost and all that. Good luck.

I'm so excited for you have a lovely day!

Good luck today OP! I hope the shower situation is fixable or work-roundable

Good luck for today sweets been watching the thread from the start .. if the showers still being a nightmare boil the kettle for a pampering bath xx

Good luck today op!

I hope you have a great time at the wedding catainamericassexybeard. What did yku decide to wear?
I hope the bride and groom / groom and groom / bride and bride have a great day too.