Hypocrites on social media

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I'm sure we all have them on our social media. The people who are preaching to be kind and promote mental health, they also often come online to tell us what a good person they are and their 'good deeds'. I'm not sure if anyone else has noticed that these very people happened to have been the school bullies? And if you see them on the street they continue to glare and ignore you even though just yesterday they were posting about the importance of smiling at strangers as you have no idea the battle they are going through behind closed doors.
One particular person I have in mind who has been preaching on social media since the death of Caroline flack about how words can hurt and to watch what you say before you say it as you have no idea what they person is going through 'if you can't be kind be quiet' yet i searched for her name and flacks in Twitter yday and she has been one of the very many trolls Caroline had. Calling her a 'slag' 'bellend' 'drip' amongst other nasty comments. I don't get it?! Are these people stupid? Or do they think we forget? Do they preach to make themselves feel like better human beings? It's really bugged me! There must be some sort of psychology behind the way they behave?

The girl who was a vile bully to one person in our year group and had a PHD in shit stirring constantly posts anti bullying stuff on her Facebook
The irony is huge

My auntie who is the vilest person I’ve ever known, has been sharing always be kind memes all weekend.

It has to start somewhere though. The change that is. So far all I have seen is people slating people for sharing things about being nice. Maybe there is a lesson for us all.

@recordbox

Those people posting aren't "changing" - they're just using social media to virtue signal and sit eagerly waiting and watching for "that's wonderful hun thank you xx" messages to pile in so they can feel validated.

Those people posting aren't "changing" - they're just using social media to virtue signal and sit eagerly waiting and watching for "that's wonderful hun thank you xx" messages to pile in so they can feel validated.

A perfect example.

So I'm not the only one who noticed this.

100% this! I didn’t notice that a former ‘friend’ was one of these people until she decided that I wasn’t part of her inner circle anymore and she turned this on me! Passive aggressive memes and status that paint her as the victim and the one who has been betrayed and wronged. It’s impossible to fight back against this, I just ignore and refuse to play her game (which in her mind mes me as guilty as if I argued back!)

She was apparently quite the bully at school and it appears that old ‘leopards never change their spots’ cliche is quite true.

The change Record, what change?

@recordbox

A perfect example of what?!

I'm not slating anyone for posting nice things. I'm slating people who do it as a cover for their bullying. Those people do exist. Wife of a certain Premier League English striker comes to mind, constantly posting about "mental health" to distract from bullying behaviour.

I've obviously got this thread wrong. Apologies.

What annoys me is the people who are posting my kettle is on if you need a chat.

I noticed one yesterday this woman doesn't let anyone get a word in edge ways at work. She is a selfish conversation monopoliser who does not shut up. You pause for breath and she interrupts. It's all me me me. I would not go to her to talk about my problems.

These type of people make them worse like your conversations aren't valued.

100% agree with this. One of the schools biggest bullies was all over social media virtue signalling, "I'm always here hun,anytime" posts

So hypercritical and cynical, really annoys me.

100% agree. It’s always the bullies who post endless memes about kindness and anti bullying. Very ironic virtue signalling at its worst.

This...! Old 'friend' posts it's ok to not be ok stuff all the time and I've always listened to her constant dramas (not reciprocal). Her response when I was in dire need of support? You've lost perspective. Errr..... ok thanks for that

There was a girl who bullied me at school and then into college, I even changed courses because it her 'friended me on fb' and she was working for an anti-bullying charity!! Maybe shes changed but rather ironic!! All three people posting 'be kind' memes - I hope you realise they have to carry it through with their actions and that its doesnt mean anything to just say it!

My ex-MIL does this and it does my head in. For months and months now she has been sharing mental health memes, all the "you don't know what is going on behind people's smiles" and yet she ridicules people who suffer with their mental health!

Her son, my ex, is incredibly abusive in all senses but especially psychologically but apparently does no wrong and the vitriol she unleashed on FB against his most recent ex (who also parted from him due to his abuse) was unbelievable.

The scales well and truly fell from my eyes that day and it bugs the hell out of me that she portrays herself as so caring/understanding/lovely on social media and yet is such a nasty bitch

Coleen Rooney tweeted about people not knowing what others are going through blah blah blah. This , after publicly humiliating a very pregnant Rebekah Vardey online which caused people to then go and say absolutely vile things to Vardey. Wether the accusations were true or not Rooney could have contacted Vardey privately and had it out with her but instead chose to do it online and make Vardey a target for some absolutely vile posts. On MN and Twitter it was treated with much hilarity by a lot of people.

Idk, the only people I've seen post the 'everyone you meet is going through a battle you know nothing about' type of shit are either quite vulnerable people with mental health issues of their own or else very sensitive, touchy feely types. I haven't seen it from any bullies/ex bullies.

There was one girl I was terrified of at school who was very into doing it and posted lots about her door always being open, kettle on etc. But then she died (SADS, not suicide) and from what everyone said about her she was a very genuine and very lovely person as an adult. So maybe it's more that people change. Or maybe she was never horrible and I just didn't know her and was easily scared by someone very different to me!

It is broadly true that people who make grand pronouncements about their own or others behaviour are projecting and in denial.

Seriously look out for this. The person who bangs on about how important it is to be generous or how generous they are will be a skinflint who can't face their own truth.

The sort of thing you are talking about is more of the same.

People who are kind just get on with being kind, they don't think about it and don't bang on about how important it is to be kind to each other.

It's fascinating to watch people on threads about CF who profess to feel sorry for her but then proceed to have a go at other posters on the thread. They don't seem to see the irony at all.

Well, you could wait until the next time you see them bullying someone and pull them up and remind them that in the 3rd weekend of Feb they were asking people to "be kind"?

I've done that sort of thing only once, and that person went on a rant and unfriended me. (then sent me a text to say they'd done it because I'm mean) It's not someone I've missed.

I was also thinking this, the people who seem to share this stuff are so often unkind in RL.

Yep, there’s a girl on my friends list posting all this “be kind” stuff and then 10 minutes later she post a passive aggressive meme about mums who go on nights out a lot ,claiming they forget they have kids..
Nice

@Brefugee I do that, not that I am friends with too many people who behave like this. I work in a primary school and because we work very hard on children being kind to one another, it's become second nature for me to say that!

I domt understand the outpouring of grief and certainty she committed suicide because she was being harassed

Wasn't it also maybe because she'd hurt someone and didn't want to see the details of the incident go through the court and papers ?