Hypocrites on social media

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I'm sure we all have them on our social media. The people who are preaching to be kind and promote mental health, they also often come online to tell us what a good person they are and their 'good deeds'. I'm not sure if anyone else has noticed that these very people happened to have been the school bullies? And if you see them on the street they continue to glare and ignore you even though just yesterday they were posting about the importance of smiling at strangers as you have no idea the battle they are going through behind closed doors.
One particular person I have in mind who has been preaching on social media since the death of Caroline flack about how words can hurt and to watch what you say before you say it as you have no idea what they person is going through 'if you can't be kind be quiet' yet i searched for her name and flacks in Twitter yday and she has been one of the very many trolls Caroline had. Calling her a 'slag' 'bellend' 'drip' amongst other nasty comments. I don't get it?! Are these people stupid? Or do they think we forget? Do they preach to make themselves feel like better human beings? It's really bugged me! There must be some sort of psychology behind the way they behave?

That picture thing that is doing the rounds is doing my head in.

"Sorry if I've not tagged you but I chose people who would make it fun"

WTAF.... i.e sorry I didn't tag you but I think you're a bit boring really... totally misses the point of trying to make people feel better about themselves!

I’m honestly tired of hearing it now, I almost feel like posting one that says something like ‘don’t forget to be a twat’ because it’s driving me nuts.

Also school bullies generally don’t change. I was bullied by a girl in secondary school and she just so happened to be at the same event with her child as I was with mine. Her daughter started sniggering at my child’s drawing so I called her out on it. The bully created a bully, go figure.

I agree that a lot of bullies don't change; as adults they bully people in the workplace (my DH is a union rep, so he sees this sort of thing) or they become queen bees at the school gate and continue where they left off at school.

Not all, though, in some cases a child will be acting out because of what's going on at home. I was bullied at school, and I later discovered that the worst bully's mum was dying of cancer. I haven't seen anything of her in many years, but it did teach me that it isn't black and white, as people (including children) are complex.

But I agree with you about the hypocrisy of some people who love to show off how good they are. But again it isn't always true; others post anti-bullying messages because either they went through bullying themselves, or because their child is being bullied (some take their own lives, tragically, so it would be understandable if they want to spread an anti-bullying message.

Obviously, if you know the person is actually a bellend, that's different, we all know at lest one person like that. Some people just love showing off on SM.

I think judging a person on their behaviour at school when they were a teenager is slightly unfair, people mature and grow up and change a lot from what they were as a teen. So I think you are maybe as bad as you are judging someone that by the sounds of it you don't really know anymore.?

I was watching love island last night and whilst the message was heart warming the show then created two occasions for the couples to criticise each other. This feeds twitter and the comments. I think most people have been a hypocrite with these types of message is some form, even conversation.

God I am seriously pissed off with all the post a photo and tag x beautiful women but don't be offended if I don't tag you post.

Not wuite the same but damaging imo

There are A LOT of virtue signalling wankers on SM.

I'm just curious why you are friends with them on social media if they are do horrible?

@JiltedJohnsJulie, I think it's possible to be cynical about someone's social media persona but still like them in other ways so want to preserve the contact. However, I did wonder why someone would be friends, FB or otherwise, with 'the school bully'.

I think it's possible to be cynical about someone's social media persona but still like them in other ways so want to preserve the contact. However, I did wonder why someone would be friends, FB or otherwise, with 'the school bully'. I think that articulates what I was thinking much better than I did

Alot of people use celebrity deaths for attention and clout. They also follow the narrative that is getting the most attention. It was popular to hate CF until she committed suicide. It's the one thing I hate about social media.

They’re now selling T-shirt’s with the slogan on so my fb feed is full of
“I’ve just bought one of these and so should everyone else or you are a horrible person”
Well, you could just donate to the chosen charity without buying a cringy t shirt and then shouting about it on social media for attention .
I don’t think you’re a kind person , I think you are a virtue signalling , attention seeker

I'd bet 57p that the T-shirt shitehawkers are avid fans of Love Island and other twat programmes based on mindless sleb gossip.

Do grown ups still partake in this shite?

How many fucking threads about CF?

I think this age of hypocrisy is inbuilt in the cult of celebrity which in turn reflects the emptiness many people feel in their lives.

Everything is for show, it almost doesn’t matter what you think or feel anymore so long as on the outside you towing the party line. Watching the same hollow tv shows, listening to the same meaningless music, reading about the same non-creative celebrities who are largely famous for being famous. We make our arguments by repeating sound bites, we tow the party line on diversity, in case our real view points are considered diverse. In an age we talk about celebrating differences we only reward people for being the same.

It was popular to hate CF Was it? Mind you the only place I knew her from was Strictly, where she was amazing. How sad to think that vivacious woman took her own life.
I also spent a long time trying to recreate her wavy bob with Ghds, to no avail.
She reappeared on my radar with the court case and I remember thinking watching the news that she looked like someone who was going to break.

The person who bullied me for a year at school is now a mental health nurse. Judging from what she posts on social media, she just as horrible now as she was then.

I’d never heard of Caroline Flack until this week on here. Clearly she had problems, but on the flip side she was being held to account for her actions. Over here there was a basketball player who died recently and you would have thought he was a hero. Never mind the others who died in the same accident, or the fact he was accused of sexual assault several years ago and was never held to account.

yes @ItsAllTheDramaMickIJustLoveIt - I’m going to unfriend the ones that have done this now.

Well, that's social media for you. One of my SILs went through a phase where she posted a lot of very spiritual quotes on FB and she is the most materialistic person I know IRL.

I deactivated my fb account yesterday. I’ve attempted suicide previously and having therapy at the moment to manage my suicidal thoughts. Not every post I’ve seen on SM has been from virtue signallers, or deeply unpleasant deflectors, but I have found them at best facile, and at worst grossly offensive and triggering. I have lots of people who love me and show me kindness, that’s not going to save me from my thoughts. Self-serving memes and chain posts are even less likely to do so. I have has to cut it off as all the posturing is just exacerbating it.

It's just painful. Ran a food collection for homeless and a lot of my colleagues confused genuine homeless to people begging. Couldn't relate drug/alcohol issues as being mental health issues. Now they're posting to pop round theirs for a cup of tea if you're suffering 🤷🏾‍♀️

I was attacked on a public Fb page on Saturday night, by somebody who doesn’t know me at all, because I was trying to be calm about a local situation. I didn’t respond.
On Sunday she changed her profile picture to include the words ‘Be kind’
Oh the irony...