Hypocrites on social media

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I'm sure we all have them on our social media. The people who are preaching to be kind and promote mental health, they also often come online to tell us what a good person they are and their 'good deeds'. I'm not sure if anyone else has noticed that these very people happened to have been the school bullies? And if you see them on the street they continue to glare and ignore you even though just yesterday they were posting about the importance of smiling at strangers as you have no idea the battle they are going through behind closed doors.
One particular person I have in mind who has been preaching on social media since the death of Caroline flack about how words can hurt and to watch what you say before you say it as you have no idea what they person is going through 'if you can't be kind be quiet' yet i searched for her name and flacks in Twitter yday and she has been one of the very many trolls Caroline had. Calling her a 'slag' 'bellend' 'drip' amongst other nasty comments. I don't get it?! Are these people stupid? Or do they think we forget? Do they preach to make themselves feel like better human beings? It's really bugged me! There must be some sort of psychology behind the way they behave?

You're right @TellItLikeItReallyIs kind people don't need to tell other people to be kind or announce how kind they are on social media they just get on with their lives quietly.

Of course we all make mistakes and there are times when we aren't kind, we are human after all. I just think it would have been better for her to have kept her mouth shut yesterday given the content of her tweets about Caroline (and it wasn't just one or two tweets). Instead she insisted on writing a paragraph about how awful it was that she felt she had to end her life because of the abuse she has received on SM and by the press. Ironically calling other people hypocrites. It was just unbelievable to read. She did actually get called out on her hypocrisy by somebody on twitter who screen shot the nasty tweets and then screen shot her 'statement' about how important it is to be kind. She has since deleted her preaches on all SM sites and hopefully she will learn from this.

@bigchris I thought it was probably more that she may be found guilty and be sent to prison but it’s probably all of those things together

it's quite interesting though - some of the absolute wankspangles on SM don't even realise they're being twats.

Which is why i mention it. Sometimes in a PM, sometimes right out there in public

Perhaps she felt a sense of guilt and shame. Who knows. It's just very sad she couldn't see a way through it all.

@FizzyIce very true

this was posted on a website today, a friend forwarded it to me....i'm off to do some research on these losers mentioned, i know mrs meld rum but i'm not familiar with the others

There all saying now that they want to regulate people who sign up to Instagram which is fair enough to stop “trolling”. Tell you what they need to do as well though and that’s regulate the influencers who use it to make money. Make sure they don’t use their kids to make money, pay and declare all to HMRC, are transparent when selling their shit, don’t let them use affiliate links for stuff they haven’t even bought or that they have on a “wish list” and that they are held accountable for ALL their mistakes whether that be racist comments (Lee and Rebecca Meldrum), ending up in PornHub (Rebecca Lamb), being snippy with followers (Kerry Conway) or pimping your kids out wearing skimpy little outfits and fake tanning kids (Ash Reid) or having your kids end up on a peadophiles network of pictures (Brummy Mummy). So yeah let’s regulate members of the Instagram community both those who want to spectate and those who use it to MAKE MONEY!! Oh and speaking of mental health issues if you influencers are saying your mental health is suffering now because of your chosen careers then think on as to how your kids mental health will be when they grow up to realise you lot pimped them out into an online world they didn’t choose!

Agree with that list and the Inghams!

i came across the ginghams while having a nose.....what is that all-out!??

*inghams!!!

Very much the case here. My son has special needs, and has endured the social part of school and travelling on a school bus with kids who ignore him at best or deliberately wind him up. Through being friends of friends with some of their mums i have seen some of their posts and I want to puke at the virtue signalling posts about mental health, being kind, “teenagers go sit with the lonely kid”. They can all fuck the fuck off.

@NewtonPulsifer very well said .
I’m sorry that your son and other children are excluded like this .
Where are they learning it? From parents ? Online ?
Kids aren’t born mean

I agree. I've just cut down my social media 'friends' massively so it's family only. The final straw was people who add you on FB and then walk past you in the street and ignore you. Why did they want to add me in the first place?

There’s some toxic irony all right. Do you know what’s also toxic? The following:

I think after the news about Caroline Flack this is more relevant than ever!
Fix each other's crowns 👑 ladies...don't knock them off 😘💜#girlpower If I tagged you, don't disappoint me. If I didn't tag you, please, no offense. I tried to choose people I thought would make this challenge fun!! Too often, women find it easier to criticize each other instead of building each other up. With all the negativity out there, let's do something positive! 🌟 Upload 1 Picture of yourself... just you!!!! Then tag so many beautiful women to do the same. (FB only allows 50) we will build ourselves up, instead of tearing us apart. 💋💜💋💜
copy and paste.
I was tagged by....

Using someone’s death, by suicide or not, as a reason to post a selfie is fucking low. Not much shocks me but this has even though I feel like it shouldn’t be.

Yup. Many years ago the girl my ex got with after me was absolutely vile to me. She knew I suffered mental health problems and sent me really awful messages saying I was a headcase who nobody would ever love, he never loved me he just felt sorry for me etc etc. She then blocked me so i couldn’t reply, but would randomly unblock me intermittently to send more messages. When I asked him To tell her to leave me alone She then denied it all to him and tried to convince him I was a crazy stalker who was trying to get him back.

A couple of years later she popped up as ‘someone you may know’ on social media and all her posts were about how awful bullying is, be kind to people, trite mental health awareness memes etc - and worse still people commenting in response about how sweet and thoughtful she was to post them. Staggeringly ironic.

I have a few like this on my social media too and find it very hypocritical.

But then, I also wonder if those who were bullies at school were dealing with their own, worse, bullies at home which makes them more acutely aware of it as adults. Or maybe they are just knobs, I don’t know.

I've just seen a post very similar to the one Drama mentioned.

Like the woman killed herself just because she wasn't told enough that she was beautiful, like a woman's qualities are only worth praise if she happens to be nice to look at as well.

Let's ignore the fact that the press and the media and their relentless hounding and cruelty towards people are what causes this and post fucking selfies as if that will fix it.

Fucking morons.

@FizzyIce Thank you.

Not sure whether it’s coming from school bullies, but I’m finding all the #bekind stuff a bit much. I say that tentatively as it does raise awareness of some important issues, but as others have said it feels as though some of it is coming from the same sources as tabloid gossip and bitchy speculation. As in, it’s all part of the same attention seeking social media whirlwind. I don’t know; perhaps the overall message overrides that though.

Completely agree OP, loads of the people I've seen post things like that were in fact school bullies.

Alarmingly I've also noticed that a large proportion of bullies from my school have gone on to be nurses or carers.

This is giving me the rage too. The cretin who last year named and shamed me on social media so she could enjoy the likes and 'OMG hun, you're amazing' posts.
I had to call the police to warn her about harassment. She hasn't the balls to say anything to my face.
Suddenly she's gone all woke and posting #bekind and posting shite about 'I'm trying to prove my door is always open and kettle is always on to anyone who needs to talk'. i need 5 friends to share this'. #suicideawareness
she also shared the crown one too, with a trout pout.

I blocked the virtue-signalling twofaced idiot and her wee charade.
After her lies, I suffered horribly with my mental health. then she's posting that?
Nah. Blocked her before my anger had me typing.

When I see that ‘my door is always open’ post I really want to put it to the test. ‘Er, what are you doing here
‘Well you said....’

@ItsAllTheDramaMickIJustLoveIt I was tagged in that yesterday .
Made me cringe !
I am not a selfie person though , if I’m ever in one my dh is taking it and it doesn’t get loaded onto social media .

They just seem to be for people who like or need the attention

I doubt I’ll get tagged in any @FizzyIce but needless to say I won’t be partaking if I did. By all means, people want to fill fb with endless selfies bloody go for it, you do you* but using someone’s death as an excuse/reason is beyond tacky.

*just know I’ll be hiding your posts or blocking you, depending on my mood.

People change. Even bullies!

I can't go on FB at the moment- I don't think I'd have very many "friends' left if I told some of them a few home truths. Really confusing when you've been on the receiving end of someones unpleasant behaviour and they're painting themselves out to be some sort of Mother Theresa "my kettles always on" figure on SM... absolute bull shit.

There are some real pieces of work around and SM just gives them a platform to extend certain elements of their personality. They can almost create a fake persona and people buy into it. I have a friend who is the 'kind' one. Constant 'be kind' and inspiring quotes on FB, constantly going out of her way to do stuff for people to show she's 'kind, writing Ott comments on peoples pictures etc'... look at me everyone "I"M KIND". She then bitches like hell about everyone for putting her out, slags everyone off, excludes people slyly but then acts all "but I'm kind I'd never do that"... people have just started to catch on. I don't know where they get the energy from... just be right with people!