Not going to nursery.

[angieb89]

I have a two year old and she's never been to nursery. Me and my husband are very lucky to have the flexibility of work so we can share the are. I have my daughter Monday to Wednesday and he has her Thursday and Friday and together as a family on weekends.

I have so many people saying that she is missing out on not going to nursery. But surely if we have hat flexibility it shouldn't be an issue. I'd rather watch my daughter grow up than always be a work and miss important milestones just so we can pay for child care.

Would love for her to nursery but can justify the costs which increases because most nurseries won't allow you to have them there only one day a week!

We have DS at nursery one day a week he loves it, especially as he's likely to be an only I think it's good for him and also school won't be as much of a shock to the system,. Maybe do a day a week once you get her funding at three. It's useful to have a day to do things around the house, get your haircut, food shop, car to the garage, dentist etc, so when you're with her you don't need to run about doing bits and the weekends are fun family time

It’s fine, she can learn the skills she needs at home and once she’s 2.5 can start playgroup. I wouldn’t waste the money

I don’t think it’s an issue at 2, most 2 yr olds aren’t all that interested in playing with other children yet.

I do think it’s useful for children to spend some time in nursery before they start school, but that can wait until they qualify for the 15 free hours when they’re 3. My youngest DC didn’t start nursery until after he was 3, and eligible for the free hours, and he’s not the only one in his nursery who hadn’t been to nursery before.
And at 3 yrs old they’ll be starting to get more interested in playing with other kids so they’ll get more out of nursery then than they would at 2 yrs old.

I don’t think your daughter is missing out. A lot of children don’t go to nursery and are absolutely fine. Some children are home schooled and live on farms and are fine. Don’t overly worry about these things, as long as your child is loved she will be fine! There’s nothing wrong with raising her yourself when she’s so young!

Of course she doesn't need nursery. Most adults never went.

Nursery is not compulsory. She’d be fine if she did go and she’ll be fine not going.

I think that most kids benefit massively from preschool at 3 when their free hours kick in but that coincides with a lot of developmental milestones which mean they stand to gain a lot more pleasure and educational benefit from that setting. But even then there’s plenty of kids who don’t go even then.

Whatever works for your family set up is absolutely okay.

It's very important I believe etiquette have some pre school nursery but at 2 if it's possible your set up is perfect. At 3 she'll get some free hours

My grandmother (who is over 80) still remembers how upset she was when she went to school for the first few times. She'd been with her mum day in day out from birth until she was 5.

For me even if I had the option of keeping our baby home, like in your arrangement, I'd probably send him to nursery anywhere from 1 - 3 days a week.

This isn't a judgement on anyone who keeps their baby away from nursery - but I want to make the transition to school as easy as possible for him. Plus I feel like a little bit of extra socialising and extra exposure to germs will also help the transition into school. Not suggesting I want my baby to get ill, but he'll be exposed to a greater % of new things when he starts school if he hasn't already spent some time in nursery.

My DD probably won't be in nursery until 3 as while I'm not strictly a SAHM in that I work, I do so around her, so I'm there to look after her during the day. We do plenty of classes and play dates with other children etc so I'm not really concerned. When we get her free hours, then she'll go to nursery and use those, but I don't see the point in paying for it when we don't need to currently!

No idea why that changed to etiquette- was meant to say 'to have'

If we could manage what you do and have one of us with her all the time we’d do it in a heart beat. I’m very envious! Enjoy this time with her.

For me it’s not not issue at 2. As long as she is socialising in other ways with other children then I don’t see a problem, however I do believe nursery from 3 has huge benefits to a child’s development and social skills.

Doesn't sound like in your case it's really needed with you both having such flexible working schedules. My two year old started in January, he goes 3 mornings a week and he absolutely loves it but he has picked up every bug under the sun and been off a lot already so that's been a pain

My 2 year old doesn’t miss out.
When the free hours kick in he can go for a few mornings but I don’t particularly feel they need it. Otherwise it would be compulsory. Which it’s not.

As long as you and dh take her to toddler groups etc it's fine

It's the not knowing how to share that comes from never socialising with other kids

My two year old loves playing with others and chats about some of her friends everyday. She'd really be missing out on the socialising side if she didn't go.

Babies/young children don't need nursery.

Some love it, some don't, some don't get a choice as their parents need to keep a roof over their heads.

Your child is only 2, OP. I'm sure you'll find a way of socialising her before she starts school.

It can be good to get some exposure to germs. It just means she might not be off school constantly when she starts (and when you have work this does help).
I worked and DD went to nursery. She really loved it and never wanted to go home.
I knew people who did one day a week, so must be some nurseries who do it?

Totally unnecessary to send her to nursery at her age.

Which is it OP- can’t justify the cost or don’t want her to go? You’ve slightly contradicted yourself.

I think good nurseries are a huge benefit to
Toddlers, My LO will sit and do activities she doesn’t for me at home, she will mimic her peers though.

People always have an opinion on other people's approach to parenting. It's very annoying. There is no right or wrong on this. Just do what works for you. It sounds like your set up works just fine!

I'm a Sahm mum and I sent my eldest to nursery, just two mornings a week, from age 2. Simply because he had a speech delay and I thought mixing with other kids might help. He's 3 now and catching up, although I can't be sure if it was nursery, or just his time to develop. My youngest is 1 and I don't really have any plans to send him until we get the free hours. My point being I don't think he's missing out. By age 3 when they get the free hours they benefit more from play with other kids. I would recommend taking the free hours, but for now you probably would rather spend money on things you actually need rather than childcare that you don't need thanks to your working hours

My daughter is 2 and I have no plans to put her to nursery. I am a SAHM so don't need to. As long as your child is spending some time with other children, like toddler groups, parks, playdates then that's fine.

We have 2-3 groups in Scotland, they start the term after they turn 2, and just go 2 hours either 2 or 3 days a week and you drop them off. Maybe look at something like that if you feel she needs some wee pals

4 of mine started nursery/preschool at 2-2.5 years old. The other one never went. I really wouldn't worry about it at this age.

My older two were both at home until they started preschool aged 3. They both did a term of part time and then went full time. Thankfully we've had family help and I was able to go part time at work.

My youngest is disabled and globally delayed (aged 2) and her SLT thinks nursery will be good for her communication skills so I'm looking at a PT placement.

I've always based it on the child and what they need / what will benefit them / what they can cope with.

Most children go at 3 when they get the free hours. You can send her for some mornings then.