@Bluejeantreefrog - same! I find new people I meet discovering I’m veggie tend to react in one of 2 ways and the response seems generally divided along sex lines
Women - “ohh we/I don’t really eat that much meat, try and have a meat free day at least once a week” since meat free Mondays came in “oh we love meat free Mondays” also “oh there’s some lovely veggie food around now I see it when I’m doing the shopping” tends to be an almost apologetic response
Men - “oh I couldn’t live without bacon/beef/chicken” (a friend who is actually old school friends dad has been “joking” with me about bacon for that 30+ years! He knows I never even liked bacon he knows me really well but he’s actually a lovely chap who has always made sure if I were going out with them to eat that where we were going had good veggie food and if I were eating at theirs he’d chat with me about what I was having. It’s become a sort of “in joke” With us now especially on Facebook he tags me in all his “love of bacon” posts. Some newer friends of mine have sometimes been a bit hmm about that but I explain it’s fine it’s a “thing” we do. I tag him in some veggie posts too)
But they’re also the ones more likely to be really obnoxious - “a bit of gravy won’t hurt” actually for me it would, not long after I turned veggie with labelling not being great then I discovered by accident that red meat & things like gravy and gelatine give me a horrendous upset stomach! “Just have a bit of bacon/chicken/fish” er...no thanks! “But you eat chicken/fish yes?” No I’m vegetarian
And as aforementioned the oral sex “jokes”! They are crossing the line I think and they did get a hard stare on that one and even my ex would pull them up for that. The worst person for it was a friend of ex’s when we first started dating who really didn’t like me - I didn’t know why for ages, turned out to be because I was raised catholic! (He was Protestant northern Irish but I’d personally never done anything to harm him or anyone so he was being a twat!)
Sympathy to the fellow singletons too. I’ve been single 17 years now to all intents and purposes. What’s really weird is that there are people in my circle think I’ve been celibate all that time too! Not sure what that says about me! My mother in particular in the first few years got really stressed about me “needing” to meet someone else! Despite the fact she’s in a miserable, abusive marriage herself! So why she thinks with that history and with the hellish divorce from the nightmare ex and the poor offerings available she thinks I want to rush into another long term relationship I don’t know. I came out as bi a few years back which I think was a shock for her but also seemed to give her hope I’d “settle down” again soon. But I was just happy having fun dating/having casual flings. I don’t think I’m suited to ltr anyway.
@rainbowstardrops thank you. Dd was a bloody disaster as a kid when it came to staying clean/tidy. At first my mum used to blame me. Then she stayed a couple nights and witnessed me getting dd ready for school, plaited hair, clean & tidy uniform, polished shoes, bag sorted etc...and also witnessed dd could literally walk from one end of my living room to another and undo ALL of That, hair frizzed and free, one sock up one down, bag spilling contents, shirt untucked and creased and SOMEHOW some kind of stain appeared from god knows where inc mud when she’d not even been outside yet! It really was quite a feat!
Mum was like 😱 how does she do it?! If I knew that I’d stop her!
Also this was pre Eds dx and people were amazed (as was I) that she could also literally go from sitting to standing and sprain a wrist and she wore through even the most sturdy and expensive shoes approx 3 weekly (flat footed, pronates and trips frequently).
But yes I love that pic as I say it perfectly sums her up at that age.
My dd straightens her hair sometimes but it’s really quite a chore takes about 2 hours and makes her ache so she prefers not to. She plaits it when it’s wet after washing at night and this makes it a little easier to deal with the next day. She usually wears either in one or 2 plaits or a bun for work.
@JosieJasper my dds colouring is completely different from mine so we’ve had comments/questions on that score too inc “is she adopted?” And “is she mixed race?” I’m as I said typical peely wally Scot she’s very dark olive skin and her hair is almost black in colour and with the curls too... so I can see (especially in summer when she tans very dark) why they might think so, still think it’s rude to comment in such a way as to imply she’s not mine.
As it happens my ex (his dads been doing their family tree) does have a great grandparent who originally hailed from Egypt so there’s been some discussion if that’s perhaps where ex and his dads and dds and other dgc and children get their colouring and curly locks from. But his mum is fairer so 2 of the dc are fair like me with dc with dark colouring. Genes are funny things.