To be annoyed they wouldn’t sell the false nails to me?

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Dd (12) and I have just got back from a shopping trip.
We popped into B&M, I purchased a few bits and dd had chosen some body butter and a pack of false nails for herself. She was purchasing them with some pocket money so I made my purchases first and paid up and dd popped her bits in the conveyor belt so she could pay for these bits herself.
The lady at the till looked at dd then called over the manager. I was stood next to dd and asked what the problem was. The manager said she needed proof of ID to show if dd was over 14 (no label in false nails stating this). I said ‘She is 12, is it because there is glue in the pack?’, they said yes and I said I understood, no worries I’ll buy them. The manager came back with ‘No, I can not sell them to you as your daughter is standing with you and we know they are for her’, wtf!! I then said ‘Well, that’s ridiculous but ok. I’ll sent dd back to the car and I’ll go back round, pick up a new pack of nails and pay for them myself’.....’No, we won’t sell them to you today as we know they are for your dd’!!!!!!
WTAF?? I totally understand there must be rules, regulations and policies to safeguard vulnerable people etc but is this not taking it to a completely new level, FFS!!

For those asking about coffee. Guidelines suggest children between 12 and 18 should have no more than 100mg caffeine per day. According to a quick Google search, a large flat white from Costa has 277mg coffee. Why give your kid caffeine? They don’t need it and it’s bad for them.

Another issue we have at my school (aside from the ridiculous false nails) is that children are coming through the school gates with a giant sugary takeaway coffee, given to them by a parent as a bloody treat. Try teaching a 10 year old who has been dosed up on coffee and sugar before 9am and you’ll soon realise why kids shouldn’t drink coffee.....

And yes, I love my daily caffeine intake, but I’m not a child.

'If abiding by the law and keeping my job are a source of amusement to people then carry on I dont give two.'

You dont give two what?

Look, I'm all for abiding by the law but in this instance they were going above and beyond their call of duty. Once the child was out of the shop their responsibility ended. As I said, jobsworths.

do Costa allow 15 year olds to buy de-caff lattes?

"Lol, at the people getting sniffy at 12 year olds with false nails.'

Shameful neglect, one step away from fake tan and HD brows. As long as they don't have coffee though.

@WhoWants2Know It’s not the fact that they’re wearing false nails, it’s the caustic solvents that come with glue on nails. If they’re the kind with the sticky tabs that fall off when you catch them on something, then fine, whatever. Bash on.

The glue in the false nail kits is basically superglue. If they catch their nail on something whilst playing, they can rip their nail off. So if they have glued on nails, they basically have to flounce about, doing nothing too strenuous. Which is a bit shit for a child who should still be running around, making things with their hands, doing sports and playing.

And the glue is a pain to get off and tears layers off your natural nail. Why would you want that for your child?

Look, I'm all for abiding by the law but in this instance they were going above and beyond their call of duty. Once the child was out of the shop their responsibility ended. As I said, jobsworths.

How is it beyond their duty? They refused an underage sale and then refused to serve someone else buying for the underage child. Would you say the same for alcohol which is age restricted under the exact same law?

The whole not allowed to buy alcohol as it might be for your underage teen is ridiculous, as you can legally give your child alcohol from age five.

@Goatinthegardenif the glue is ‘tearing layers off your natural nail’ you’re really doing something wrong! You just soak the false nails off, it’s just a slightly longer process than removing nail varnish. If you rip them off they’ll tear layers off your nails but so will nail varnish if you rip that off rather than remove it properly.

The whole not allowed to buy alcohol as it might be for your underage teen is ridiculous, as you can legally give your child alcohol from age five.

Take it up with the law then. You can give your child alcohol but you cannot be seen to be buying it for them.

It's similar how a teenager can drink certain alcoholic drinks with a pub meal (subject to the restaurant approving) HOWEVER the child is not allowed to order or pay for the alcohol as the adult must do this.

I used to put false nails on my daughter it prevented her from self harming end ripping her eyelashes and eyebrows out she literally couldnt grip with them

If they sold them to you, they’d be breaking the law.

Can't see what all the fuss is about. People under 16 are not allowed to buy products containing solvents. This is not news.

The nails contained a solvent.

It makes no odds what the product in question was - it could be superglue or unicorn nails - it contained a solvent so the cashier was legally bound to refuse the sale. There's a lot I don't particularly like about the laws of this country myself but I still have to abide by them.

@IAmDudley I spend a lot of time around preteen kids. The majority will pick the nails off and damage their nails, if they don’t get caught or pulled on something first. Maybe some children have the patience to wait for an adult to help soak them off for them, but even then you’re asking them to soak their nails in another solvent. It’s not exactly great.

@slipperywhensparticus that’s a fairly rare exception when false nails might be useful. Does show though that they hinder a child’s fine motor skills, and 12 is an age when they should be using their fingers for crafts and other activities.

Look, I'm all for abiding by the law but in this instance they were going above and beyond their call of duty. Once the child was out of the shop their responsibility ended. As I said, jobsworths.

It's not jobsworth to follow the law and not risk a personal fine.

You cannot, legally, sell an age restricted product if you know it's for an underage person (or a person you have asked for ID and they haven't provided it). Doesn't matter if it's booze, knives or glue

I don’t have teens now but interesting about the coffee. That must be since mine were teens.

Coffee before 9am for school. Try those that have drunk a can of red bull on the way to school. Stopping off for a sausage roll or a iced doughnut!

The whole not allowed to buy alcohol as it might be for your underage teen is ridiculous, as you can legally give your child alcohol from age five.

The big neon flashing clue is in your post! You are not legally allowed to buy alcohol for anyone underage thats it simple, nothing to discuss. What you do in your own home is entirely up to you.

Goat in the garden🐐
Do any of yours have that?

Look, I'm all for abiding by the law but in this instance they were going above and beyond their call of duty. Once the child was out of the shop their responsibility ended. As I said, jobsworths.

FFS its not 'call of duty' its their legal responsibility.
Its not thier choice, its a huge deal if a store is caught selling things to underage kids or by proxy. The store can actually lose its license if it is a regular occurance.

Nobody cares what you do at home, when its in the shop it falls under the law and nobody is going to risk their job just to appease a stroppy customer.

I don’t know any 12 year olds that wear false nails. Is this a thing in the UK now? Popping back to the motherland soon. Must pay attention to the pre-teen community...

You dont give two what?

Well I thought it was obvious but as I need to spell it out I dont give to flying fucks.

Absolutely pathetic IMO!

@Bowerbird5 We see plenty of Primary aged kids who are allowed to walk to school alone and are given money to spend. That usually results in them drinking and eating all sorts of crap before school. Luckily, most of them can not buy energy drinks as the retail laws prevent it, but I have known an 8 year old be given them by his dad to ‘wake him up in the morning’.....which explained a lot......

The big neon flashing clue is in your post! You are not legally allowed to buy alcohol for anyone underage thats it simple, nothing to discuss. What you do in your own home is entirely up to you.

No it isn’t the shop assistant won’t sell it because you may give it to your child, at home , to drink .....

My sister was refused a sale of a bottle of wine the other week because the checkout woman had decided she was buying it for her son who was with her, she wasn’t -it was for her! He’s 17 and she’s young looking so can pass for late 20s-30ish so the cashier wouldn’t believe he was her son or why he was shopping with her!! Not entirely sure what my point is other than obviously proxy laws areabit odd in their interpretation sometime!

My 20 year old fashion design student daughter was told that a shop couldn't sell her fabric scissors because she is under 25??! Seriously?!