To think this is NOT good enough?! I am furious!!

[Peanutsaga]

NC’d So dd (8) has a nut allergy and has an epipen that she brings to school. Long story short, a girl in her class brought in a cereal type bar into school with her lunch but it had peanuts and other nuts in it as well as chocolate chips (you know the ones!)
Dd informed me that she saw said girl with the bar and then avoided her for the rest of the day and she could even smell the peanuts. I called into the school to let them know that this had happened but in short I was told, that the school had informed the parents of the no nut policy and sent it out via letter and newsletter, and that there wasn’t much else they can do as they cannot police the lunch boxes every morning. Is that it? I feel really let down and nervous about dd at school now!!

I hope your child is well soon Haud. It’s quite frightening isn’t it .

My son was hospitalised because he’d decided to play with eggs. His throat closed up and as you can imagine having a 3 year old struggling to breath was very frightening.

He had allergy tests at the same time and I was advised not to exclude food products allergic to accept those that could kill him.

Ds is 10, he was born with allergies, so its his normal he's adapt at self management, I'm glad and its positive to see the advise is consistant tbh, I am a firm believer that education must be given to schools and parents so this perceived false sense of security stops, personally I think its dangerous.

Is your son in danger of dying if he’s in the same room as a dog

He doesn't even have to be in the same room as a dog, he can go into anaphylatic shock when someone else has been in direct contcat with a dog that is then in contact with my ds, so the dog doesn't even have to be present.... this is how we became aware of his allergy when he had his 1st AS.

It’s a shame that parents of allergic kids are fighting on here . We all want the same thing - for school to be as safe as possible for our kids. It’s not a case of allergy top trumps. My comments up thread were really in response to some of the crazier comments from posters. The OPs school has taken some precautions. As for “what else can they do?” - I think I’d also expect staff to check kids nearby at lunch weren’t eating her allergens, but this is maybe something it’s worth working with the school to enable rather than getting angry.

My daughter wasn’t at a nut free school. We did rely on lunch staff to keep her safe at primary, and they did. I am extremely grateful to all of them. We relied on them because she was only little, she was a quiet kid who lacked the confidence to speak up, she could read labels well for only some of the years there and she was often distracted and busy with her friends as all kids are. You can’t just make a kid take responsibility for such a serious thing at that age.

I guess it’s easier to ban nuts than dairy or egg as they are pretty easy to avoid. I thank god we don’t have those other allergies too as it must be a nightmare, and I truly empathise. But if you could feasibly have a dairy/egg etc free zone wouldn’t you want it?

Someone asked if we never go on trains/planes/restaurants. Tbh we rarely eat out or go abroad because we are scared. But if we we do we can plan, take precautions and watch her carefully for signs of a reaction. Or we can decide not to take the risk. But these kids have to go to school every day, there’s no choice. As a parent it’s really horrible to know that every lunch break there’s potentially a life threatening situation for your kid. Im sure all allergy parents have this, regardless of the food. It must be difficult for those whose kids don’t have allergies to really understand the anxiety it can cause. But those of us who do deal with it every day would be better off supporting efforts to keep allergic kids safe where it’s feasible to do so.

@Barbarella1

MN deleting it doesn't mean they agree it's libellous, it means they agree it didn't adhere to talk guidelines.

Barbarella1

I disagree, you did lie (on another issue in which your comment was deleted and then tried to play the woe is me card ) and ddcraig is allowed her opinion that she does not beleive you are a lawyer due to the way you've conducted yourself on here... so gloating is just embarrassing yourself tbh.

Anyway I can't be bothered going in circles, you read things that aren't there and claim things that no one has said.

That’s ok Yass I would have taken it further and can afford to do so.

What exactly do you believe was limbless. If Iibellous. I will happily repeat it.

Haud what did I say was a lie.

Warmworm I disagree to a degree with half your post if things calm down, hopefully he can discuss further, I do agree with you're other half tho

I. Do. Not. Believe. You.

You are not OK.

That’s ok Yass I would have taken it further and can afford to do so.

Thanks for keeping us posted on your finances... nothing said on here is meets the threshold for successfully suing someone for libel or anything else. Have a nice day - I'm sure you can afford to with your money! 💰

You’re right I’m not a lawyer. I’m retired.

Yass your talking out of your bottom.

Your means belonging to someone.

You’re means “you are”. I hope that helps barbarella.

I’m surprised a lawyer wouldn’t know the difference.

You're just chatting BS all around. How exactly are you going to track me down considering not even MN have my name?

I am dying to know this.

If you don’t believe me why are you reluctant for admin to prove otherwise.

Because I honestly don't care.
I don't believe you're a lawyer.

MN guideline advise not believing everything you read online.
I don't have to believe you.

Sue her for what...

Defendant - Can I sue this lady because she said my username was not a lawyer when I claimed to be one on Mumsnet

Judge -

Yawn. I don’t really care what you think. Ddraig you don’t Understand the law. Anyway go well, my son and daughter are safe because they follow their consultants advice.