To feel like I've had enough of parenting teenagers

[SimonTheFox]

So so so fed up, upset, down, stressed. Sick sick sick of my life. Just letting it out. Have two teenagers and absolutely sick of the stinking attitudes. One younger one too who I'm trying to shield from the arguments. Feel like I just want to run away!

Oh I feel your pain.
Do you have any friends with similarly aged DC?
The only thing that kept me sane from 12-15 was a massive bitchfest with other mothers whose kids I’d known since before ‘the change’.

I feel your pain, I am on my 4th teen! She is actually a dream so far but the 11 year old is shaping up to be a nightmare.

3 in the teens here, they are lazy and untidy fuckers. Dirty pad hidden in with the clean towels. Cups and plates everywhere dirty.

Eldest moans about working a few anti social hours a week, middle one is a total drama queen.

Youngest is the best of the bunch but he was the baby that broke me.

Still bloody live them though.

Me too! Mine are 14 & 11. The 14 yr old is in the full throes of typical teenager behaviour - answering back, knows everything, argues, hormonal, stroppy etc. It is so hard to deal with, particularly as a single parent. I miss her. Plus the 11 year old copies all the rotten behaviour which is a bloody nightmare as they ALWAYS stick up for each other and gang up against me!! 🙄

Mines an absolute dream, made my dinner tonight, Does his chores, maybe because he’s an only child? Or maybe it’s still to come

It’s soooo not fun. I thought teenagers were meant to be interesting and funny? Mine is a morose, foul mouthed slug. If he is halfway pleasant we are overjoyed.

Yes absolutely I have a DD 14 and life is difficult. I'm worried sick about her and am thinking about giving up my job because of anxiety from worrying about her. I can't focus all my 100% attention on her as have a younger DD to look after too.
Just don't know how things have become so difficult

Can I join? Finding parenting 3 teens much harder and more exhausting than when I had 3 babies/toddlers. Feel like a constant cook/taxi driver, especially as we live rurally and public transport is shite. General attitudes not too bad thankfully...

I have two. They’re ok I suppose but you don’t get much back. We drove back home from school today and no-one said a word. Frankly, I decided to play them at their own game.
I feel sad, and a bit cheated when I think of all the effort it took to get them this far. And I know also, looking at their big cousins, that we are not out of the woods yet.

Battle scarred old veteran here. Survived 2 teens. Ds was lazy always wanting to sleep, a nightmare to get up for school. Some horrible drunken behaviour (R.I.P expensive zebra print living room rug).
Dd was so moody i wanted to kill her or run away. Spent a good few times crying in my car. She kept being excluded from school due to anger issues and behaviour.
They are 32 and 26 now and absolutely lovely, I love spending time with them.
It all got better around 18/19 when they got their first jobs and had to be in the adult world.
Hang in there, there s light at the end of the tunnel.
My friend at work had 2 dds the same age and we would sit in the staff room and moan and drink coffee to delay going home.
We called it the ABH club (Anywhere But Home).
Her 2 have grown up into lovely young women too.

The problem is by the time they are teens, parents are utterly exhausted by years of parenting.
Like parent blue tits at the end of summer.....with all their little feathers hanging out, because raising their brood has nearly killed them.

I have 4 between the ages of 14 and 20 ! eldest is at Uni but whenever he is home things are stressful, Ds2 has just passed his driving test and I worry about him quite a bit.

It’s crazy that people have more than one. Usually by the time you need them when older, they hate you by then anyway.

I’ve got two teenagers and they are a pair of arseholes. Sick to the back teeth of the cheek, moods and general ungratefulness.

I dream of walking out the front door and not returning. That will show em... Probably not notice until there's no food.
Sigh... Its the toughest challenge I've faced.
Single parent here awaiting hip replacement surgery and in constant pain. The fuckers couldn't give a shit.
Yeah all the effort I single handily put in to get this output. Jeez why did I bother.

Me too. I am an older parent and have a 15 and a 16 year old. The 16 year old is slightly better than the 15 year old.
I feel like a cross between a skivvy/door mat and a sergeant major and am sick of lots of things, cleaning the toilet, bad attitude, lack of respect, laziness, entitlement, making a mess, lying about silly things and the fact they both seem to get great pleasure out of winding me up and taking the p* out of me and being menopausal I’m struggling to cope with it at times.

Oh yeah the endless snacks, food shopping, discarded crisp wrappers and dirty crockery.

It gets better and your lovely dc will be returned to you one day all grown up and as lovable and loving as they used to be op!
In the meantime give yourself plenty of breaks from them.
They do love you and care about you.whatever hurtful things they might come out with.

YANBU I am finding life with a 13 and 15 year old intolerable at the minute. Awful. And they smell.

I feel your pain, my ds was a nightmare from 13-15 he's 17 now and lovely.

My dd is 14 and in the swings of teenage hell, although she is easier than ds was at that age.

Hang on in there is does get easier.

I have three Dds aged 14, 16 and 18. It's just so tiring. The worries about friends, the stresses about school, the moods, the arguments it's endless.
However, I do find them very funny and lovely to be around too sometimes. They show me their "hilarious" vines teach me dances in the kitchen. We watch tv shows together (no more peppa pig) So, whenever they are making me tear my hair out I just try to remember the good stuff

Thanks for all the comments. Helps to know I'm not alone. It's so important to have a safe space like this to offload, isn't it?!

Hats off to all you all! Hormones, hey?!😫

@Goinglive That's the thing, DS was lovely until last year, he still has flashes of it, but the sweet little face is often moaning about something now.

As for the mess, they could win prizes for messiness!

Surprisingly I now teach teens and enjoy it. It s just my own I didn't like!