Reported to social services now receiving abuse

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I posted a couple of days ago about needing to report a safeguarding concern about a child. I went to social services and although I know it’s the right thing to help the child I have received some horrible abusive messages. I’m quite worried about running into the family members as they are all local to me and I don’t want to put my children at risk. I feel like this is just the beginning of the repercussions and I am very unsettled. I have no idea what action social services took or what will happen next but I think that when a child is suffering that we don’t have a choice. I’ve been accused of having no loyalty and wanting to be a hero and of getting involved when it’s not my business. As well as lots of other horrible accusations and abuse. I feel quite nervous. I’m posting here just to ask whether other people may have had any experience of this. And because I’m generally very anxious.

No experience but I remember your previous post and fwiw i think you have done the right thing.
I work in a school and if we were to have knowledge of what you do we are duty bound to report to head of safeguarding who will escalate it to SS.
I m sorry you are being intimidated. That s worth a police report especially if you feel your dc are under threat.
Sadly there are cases in the papers all the time where dc die because nobody reports concerns.

Can you speak to your local PCSO ? Just so they are aware ? You did the right thing for the children.

What did you expect? Seriously? No one is going to be thrilled about being reported. Speak to the school?

Was this jack? Sorry if that's not you BUT I did say approach the parent first and now you've put your own family at risk

How do they know it was you? Sorry if you covered that in the previous thread.

Ignore that, just read your last thread!

I'm not sure if I read your last thread. Report intimidating beg3and threats to the police.

Behaviour, not beg3and 🙄

Report to the police. They’re just making things look worse for them.

is there a link to the previous thread? How did they know it was you that reported?

What a terrible situation for you to be in. I would speak to the police about the abuse.

No I don’t know anything about Jack I’m not sure if that was another persons thread. And I had already approached the parent who told me not to get involved. I think the social worker would have mentioned something that only I would have known and therefore it’s clear that it’s me who has reported.

@Grembolina thank you

@mummumumumumumumumumum really sorry that I don’t know how to link threads. It was two days ago.

Yes I know I should expect repercussions. It’s still scary.

Another one encouraging you to report the harassment and abuse to the police.

You need to report to the police, keep a diary of all incidents, dates times and witnesses. I would also contact the social services and ask if your name has been put forward. I would also show them evidence of the attacks, as PP have said it doesn't make them look good. If you have to be at certain places (ie school pick ups), try to arrange alternatives so they don't know where you are going to be. If you felt a child's safety was seriously in the balance you did the right thing. In time it will ease off. Good luck op.

Another one here to just offer my sympathies. You did the right thing and I can't imagine how horrible this situation must be for you and your family.

As PP have said, you really need to keep a record of this and report it to the police if it escalates.

As an outsider who knows nothing about the interactions, I would say they are likely just extremely hurt/scared and are angry with you but wouldn't actually hurt you or your DC. That said, I don't know them or the reasons for why they needed to be reported, so if you genuinely feel that they could harm your family then absolutely report them straight away and don't feel guilty about it.

Either way, keep a record of all interactions from now on.

I read your previous post and I too think you have done the right thing. When it's a young child involved they have no voice and it's only the involvement of people who notice and care who can improve their situation. Shame on those other family members who weren't prepared to put the well being of the child first. I'm sorry you're getting the abuse. I agree with others that you need to report any threats to the police. Keep copies of the abusive messages to show the police and let them know you are concerned about possible repercussions. Well done for taking this action OP. You have been very brave and I hope all works out well for you.

Thank you - I don’t think they would physically harm me or my children but I think it would be mostly abuse and shouting. I am going to mention this to the social worker so that she can be aware. If anything happens in the street I will call the police. It’s a terrible situation because I know a child has suffered hugely and for a very long time.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3818863-I-need-advice-child-needs-her

OP you did the right thing and yes report harassment to the police and social worker.

I think this explains why the advice given above to first approach the parent directly rather than the authorities is wrong. The correct advice is to report your concerns rather than to get involved. It avoids this type of occurrence.

You poor thing That must be incredibly stressful. Your heart was clearly in the right place, and you did the right thing, even if it might not feel like it now .

@Lemon yes if I had not spoken to the parent I could have done it anonymously and then denied it. But the problem is that I had already said to the parent that it needs to be reported and then I shared with the social worker some details that would have made it clear it was me.

@JemimaPuddleCat thank you for linking

And their reaction shows just what brainless scumbags they really are Anyone halfway decent would have their heads down, trying to make things better.

Thanks so much to the people being kind here. I’m shaken.