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Original poster

So many babies in the family now. Just boring.

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RoarerBoringAlice · 10/02/2020 14:32

I know I'm being unreasonable.

But it's how I feel.

I am the eldest of 6 siblings.

My youngest is a young adult.

Ive done the baby bit. My brooding is over and done with.

I had my children earlier than my other siblings, they all started late, I started early.

So they are all in full bloom of their young families.

Being 5 of them all having 3 + kids each it's just seems like an ENDLESS parade of new babies.

All of whom I love of course, its not the babies that bore me but this trend that was not about when I had my kids is ever present, gender reveal parties, baby showers, naming ceremonies...

Arghhh. I have to just smile and sit through the same shit over and over. It's either a boy or a girl. It's not that exciting.

I never felt the need to have this constant attention when I was pregnant.

People visited the baby when it was born.

If you were lucky you got a baby grow and a balloon.

Now it's arranging meals out with decorated tables and games and confetti cannons and it just does my bloody head in.

Of course I would never say this to anyone in real life.

But christ. It's fucking trying to get through over and over again.

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Thymelord · 10/02/2020 14:33

I know how you feel. I agree!

We will be called lots of nasty names though Grin

doadeer · 10/02/2020 14:34

That does sound really intense! No advice.... I'm sure I would feel the same! Just Co cencentrate on the fact you don't have sleepless nights, endless nappies, no free time etc! Enjoy the phase you're at

doadeer · 10/02/2020 14:34

Concentrate *

TheRealShatParp · 10/02/2020 14:36

I’d be bored of it all, too.

MangoFeverDream · 10/02/2020 14:36

YABU it’s boring but presumably you have good relations with your siblings and want to support their growing families. Just smile and drink bubbly and eat cake and socialise with the fam.

formerbabe · 10/02/2020 14:36

God, I'd hate to have a sister like you

CakeandCustard28 · 10/02/2020 14:37

YANBU. I’d be bored shitless too.

IrmaFayLear · 10/02/2020 14:38

I secretly agree with you. Slightly differently for us it's the next generation (ie nephews and nieces) who are breeding to populate every planet in the Solar System.

Blackandgreenteas · 10/02/2020 14:38

I’m the only one in my family with kids and likely to stay that way, but yanbu.

If it suddenly became “all about the kids/ babies” when mine were grown, but your siblings had no interest when yours were little, I’d have little time for it all!

Cyberlibre · 10/02/2020 14:38

Just don't go? My mum doesn't go to baby showers because she lost a baby full term so finds it hard showering with gifts before the baby is born.
I personally love getting together with family so I love an excuse for a party. But I don't particularly love baby showers. I sometimes go and sometimes make my excuses.

Original poster
RoarerBoringAlice · 10/02/2020 14:39

It feels like a competition to buy the nicest gifts and nicest wrapping paper. The quirkiest gender reveal (its sex!). Favours being handed out (aren't they just for weddings??) Such secrecy over names and the BIG NAME ANNOUNCEMENT once born. Sigh.

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RoarerBoringAlice · 10/02/2020 14:40

I can't not go! I couldn't do that. I'm perfectly jolly when there and play along.

Im just taking this opportunity to moan privately and anonymously Grin

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OhDoFluffOffDear · 10/02/2020 14:41

Yanbu.

I'm pregnant at the moment but I find babies and other people's kids utterly boring. I feel like this when there's an endless stream of colleagues bringing their new babies into the office and asking if you want to hold. I feel like saying 'no, why would I?'. But you nod and smile and go along with it all to be polite.

I know others who live and breathe the whole baby thing though so it's not everyone. Some of my friends sit and watch one born every minute etc... Religiously. I've never understood stuff like that.

I don't like being pregnant and don't get me wrong, whilst I love my/DHs kids to death, it's a means to and end for me. I'm not interested beyond my own.

OhDoFluffOffDear · 10/02/2020 14:41

Oh and don't get me started on fucking baby showers.

OhDoFluffOffDear · 10/02/2020 14:42

A colleague of mine called it a 'baby sprinkle' and I nearly vomitted.

gamerchick · 10/02/2020 14:42

It is boring but most self indulgent shit is. It starts with 'we're pregnants' with scan photo a chunk of time after the most important people found out before the magical 12 week mark and goes from there, with smatterings of confetti and babymoons.

Other people's pregnancies are dull. But you can't say owt.

Baaaahhhhh · 10/02/2020 14:44

The sad thing is, my DD2 is the youngest out of all DH & my families, and DH and I are both the youngest in our families. Poor DD2 has missed out on all the family get togethers, which were coming to end by the time she came along, as all the cousins were already going off into the world, and my brothers were retiring. Most of the family forgot her 13th birthday...... I really DO feel sorry for her, but DO understand that in big families, with large age ranges this tends to happen.

Just a moan though........ when I was a teen and young twenties I was expected to, and did, all the parties, presents and babysitting which by the time my DD's came along, everyone else was bored with...... also very sad.

dayowl · 10/02/2020 14:44

I hate it too! It only seems a recent thing that people don’t discuss the babies name until it’s born, it baffles me.

OhDoFluffOffDear · 10/02/2020 14:44

Other people's pregnancies are dull. But you can't say owt

I was actually laughing with DH this morning about how people go on about pregnancy and 'the glow' etc...

I fucking hate it. I'm fat, I'm spotty, my back hurts and I feel like shit. Can't wait for it to be over. They'll be no 'I miss my bump' social media posts from me I can tell you.

Hitchingmyskirt · 10/02/2020 14:45

YANBU. I have a 5 and 3yr old and the whole baby shower/Gender reveal crap is nauseating.

ShuffleHop · 10/02/2020 14:46

I can't say I blame you. I have a young family, but hate the concept of baby showers. And 'gender reveal parties' Hmm. I have however attended the occasional baby shower for close family and I did so with a supportive smile and only a private grimace because I appreciate that 'each to their own' applies here and I care about the people. Even if I think they are barmy or tedious attention seekers sometimes 😄

lostinadream · 10/02/2020 14:47

YANBU but this is the weird self obsessed society in which we live.

I sometimes despair that nothing is private anymore and everything is a big song and dance.

FelicityFebruary · 10/02/2020 14:47

I could not go. Having said that my family seems to have halted with procreation so its all hypothetical really.

Plus I'm so far over the baby stage as to be waiting for the grandparent stage.

I am becoming more "retro" every year. And anti consumer waste. So I would claim a prior engagement but send a wee hand knit bonnet. Done up in a (tasteful) piece of tissue paper!

iheartislesofwight · 10/02/2020 14:48

some people can be total baby bores i just smile, wave and think god you used to so interesting but now it's the fascination with the contents of pfb nappy over dinner. i've had my dc and they are the only ones i care about.

FelicityFebruary · 10/02/2020 14:48

Actual babies in the family like you OP, I'd love!