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AIBU?

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Original poster

So many babies in the family now. Just boring.

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RoarerBoringAlice · 10/02/2020 14:32

I know I'm being unreasonable.

But it's how I feel.

I am the eldest of 6 siblings.

My youngest is a young adult.

Ive done the baby bit. My brooding is over and done with.

I had my children earlier than my other siblings, they all started late, I started early.

So they are all in full bloom of their young families.

Being 5 of them all having 3 + kids each it's just seems like an ENDLESS parade of new babies.

All of whom I love of course, its not the babies that bore me but this trend that was not about when I had my kids is ever present, gender reveal parties, baby showers, naming ceremonies...

Arghhh. I have to just smile and sit through the same shit over and over. It's either a boy or a girl. It's not that exciting.

I never felt the need to have this constant attention when I was pregnant.

People visited the baby when it was born.

If you were lucky you got a baby grow and a balloon.

Now it's arranging meals out with decorated tables and games and confetti cannons and it just does my bloody head in.

Of course I would never say this to anyone in real life.

But christ. It's fucking trying to get through over and over again.

OP posts:

messolini9 · 10/02/2020 17:31

@codenameduchess
(young? Is 30 still young?)

Yes, Dearie.

& hurrah & triple hurrah for the rest of your post.
World's gone bloody mad. So refreshing to see a young'un harping back to the good old days

dementedma · 10/02/2020 17:36

I am very lucky not to have ever been to a baby shower, gender reveal or naming thingy. Thank fuck. We found out what ours were when they were born. They are nie all old enough to have their own kids ( but have more interesting things to do thankfully) and i am fed up of people saying "bet you cant wait to be a granny". Erm,WTF? I'm enjoying the post child years. Why on earth would i want all that again?

MerryDeath · 10/02/2020 17:38

it's not the babies that are boring though (well, they definitely are, i say that sitting here feeding 1mo) it's the egotistic twats who think 'gender reveals' and baby showers are important to them and their experience

ItWillBeBetterinAugust · 10/02/2020 17:41

I also find non religious people having christenings hypocritical and inappropriate. However you don't need a naming ceremony if you're not religious - you just don't have a christening.

Christenings are not naming rituals, they're a ceromony dedicating the baby to the church/ religion/ deity and promising to bring the child up within the faith. The role of godparents is as religious guides.

We didn't have christenings or naming ceremonies - we registered the children's births, using their names, and told people what their names were.

You don't have to have a ritual for your baby to have a name, and a naming ceremony isn't the secular equivalent of a christening unless you're dedicating your baby to the god of social media.

BlueJava · 10/02/2020 17:44

You don't have to go - miss a few! Be busy, have a prior appointment, whatever. I have to say though I've never been to a gender reveal or baby shower or hen do!

AriadnesFilament · 10/02/2020 17:47

I’m with you. Bloody flower walls and 3 tier cakes and party favours and sashes god knows what else.

Foreverros123 · 10/02/2020 17:48

Also went to a gender reveal for the first time last year. What the hell.. so awkward when they popped the balloon and everyone had to cheer. After they did that it went quiet as if they wanted us to leave then.. which I was relieved about. Didnt have a baby shower or gender reveal. Find it very American and expensive

HillAreas · 10/02/2020 17:50

I hear you, OP.

I’m pregnant and just coming to the end of my first maternity leave and dreading going back to work to face all the endless pregnancy chatter and questions. I know people are just being nice but I don’t want to discuss my morning sickness/scans/size of my bump/why I’m not having a baby shower or gender reveal party every bloody day! I’m quite enjoying just being quietly pregnant without any fuss for now. I think maybe people think I WANT to witter on about my own pregnancy, but I really don’t

WingBingo · 10/02/2020 17:52

I blame it on the huns.

ShesGotBetteDavisEyes · 10/02/2020 17:53

ItWillBeBetterInAugust - totally agree - what the hell is that all about?
I recently received an invite to one of my oldest friends ds’s christening - you could’ve knocked me over with a feather! She and her dh are both atheists and as far as I know her two older ones are at a non-faith school and weren’t christened (or if they were I wasn’t invited!) how can you stand in the house of god and go along with the whole ceremony when you don’t even believe in any of it?!
I was brought up in a religious background and was christened - but I chose not to christen my own as dh is an atheist and I don’t think it’s right to ask for gods protection of your child unless you are a practising Christian (or at least believe in god and go to church once in a while!)

Queenundercanvas · 10/02/2020 17:58

Yanbu imo. I'm not at the same stage as you but eldest is almost 12.

A few family members are having babies and I'm so over it. I didn't bother with baby showers and gender reveals.

Mil constantly texts me with updates on sils baby. Inside I'm thinking I literally don't care if sils baby has pooed on the potty/had a tantrum/can point at a fucking cow in a book.

Yes I'm a bitch.

StarUtopia · 10/02/2020 17:59

I'm envious. I have just 2 kids. Would have loved more. Only one sibling and he's unmarried, no kids.

My kids would love cousins.

I can see how it would be boring tho!

Queenundercanvas · 10/02/2020 17:59

Oh yeah I forgot about the endless bon religious people having christenings

AuntieMarys · 10/02/2020 18:00

I have never been to a baby shower and never will. I have a horrible feeling dsd will , but luckily I won't be invited as her mother will be there.

Elbeagle · 10/02/2020 18:01

My DC would love cousins too. Sadly my DB died aged 27 before having children and SIL has a health condition that means having children would be extremely risky.

housinghelp101 · 10/02/2020 18:07

Have only ever heard of gender reveals baby showers/sprinkles (a sprinkle is for subsequent babies, as a big gift is not necessary, just token ones) in tacky youtube families. Never been to one or even heard of anyone having on IRL.

DB and his wife had their first child this year and as they live quite far away I offered to host in my house for them to come and the extended family could meet the baby. I went all out and decorated which gave me so much pleasure, i do love the family getting bigger.

TheLadyAnneNeville · 10/02/2020 18:10

Thank you. I thought it was just me. We don’t even have that many but frankly, only your own babies are the sun moon and stars. To you. It’s an evolution thing. Biological.

loserssaywhat · 10/02/2020 18:12

Yanbu. Honestly baby showers are cringe and I won't even go into gender reveals.
I don't even bother with school mums who have just had babies because I find the ins and outs of how many times the baby woke in the night, what time they went down, what time they woke, when they had a feed and when they had a nappy change absolutely tedious.

I'm sure I was the same when my babies were very young but I'm at a stage in my life where I'm really just not remotely interested in babies.

Personally I'd send a nice gift and card and say you're too busy to attend all the gatherings. You more than likely wont be missed they'll too busy fawning over baby stuff.

MrFumble · 10/02/2020 18:16

Other people's babies are dull. Everyone pretends to be interested out of manners. You're not alone.

NoProblem123 · 10/02/2020 18:24

Complete attention seeking dross.

Alsohuman · 10/02/2020 18:33

I have a horrible feeling that my stepdaughter (who I love to bits) will go for the whole shebang. I’m just going to have to smile through gritted teeth.

PlumsGalore · 10/02/2020 18:41

Absolutely YANBU, I wouldn’t mind but i bet your siblings were deeply uninterested when you had yours.

Mine are twenty something now, thank god mine and DH siblings followed not long behind us.

More than anything i dont get the “gender” reveal party, I also hate the misuse of the word gender but coupled up with a party to celebrate the sex when you could have just waited until the baby was born and the excitement that comes with that, i just don't see the point. I really don't.

I hope for the day when it becomes cute and quirky to not find out the SEX of the child. That was the most exciting part of my births, it really was.

formerbabe · 10/02/2020 18:47

It’s only through mumsnet that I have learnt that a considerable amount of people prefer other baby animals than human baby animals. It’s interesting as I am someone who melts when I see a baby - I love them - whilst I think puppies and kittens are cute but not as cute as human babies

Same. I like baby showers and I'm genuinely excited to meet a friend or relatives new baby.

TheLadyAnneNeville · 10/02/2020 18:53

At what point to they BECOME interesting, do we think?

messolini9 · 10/02/2020 18:58

a naming ceremony isn't the secular equivalent of a christening unless you're dedicating your baby to the god of social media.

Bazinga, @ItWillBeBetterinAugust !

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