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To refuse to send my child to a pirate party

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Mashbocking1 · 08/02/2020 15:03

A nursery friend of my 4 yo DS is having a pirate themed birthday party. I’m planning to decline the invite as I don’t think it’s appropriate for little children, or anyone for that matter, to dress up as a pirate - it’s glorifying and sentimentalising criminal men who raped, robbed and murdered.

FFS, piracy used to carry the death penalty until recently! You wouldn’t let your child go to a Nazi themed party - I can’t see much difference!

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Barnowl25 · 09/02/2020 13:57

Send him as a ballet dancer

lottie360 · 09/02/2020 14:00

Id be very glad that you refused to bring your DC rather than socialise with such a snow flake.

amprev · 09/02/2020 14:06

Yes, don't let your son go. Explain to him fully the reasons. Wait for his friends to ask him in school why he didn't go. Let him tell them the reasons his mummy told him. Wait for the children to mention this to their parents and for them to start giving you a wide berth. Wait for the number of party invitations your child receives dwindle because parents will be wary of how you will interpret their party theme. Then you can post on AIBU about offended you are that your son doesn't receive invitations despite the fact that you invited his friends to his 'insert suitable theme' party. Or, just let him go. Pick your battles OP. YABU.

Noodlenosefraggle · 09/02/2020 14:07

mistake, it was the original sleeping beauty (well, duh) where she was raped when she was in the deep sleep.
Yes iirc she woke up while giving birth to twins. As well as the ugly sisters in Cinderella hacking bits of their feet off so they could fit into the glass slipper and the Little Mermaid spending her life on land feeling as if she was walking on knives just so she could marry a human. Ban Princess parties! Look what happened to Princess Diana!

CaptainButtock · 09/02/2020 14:10

Nazis of the Caribbean

Patte · 09/02/2020 14:16

My friends and I used to play WW2 when I was about 10. Which meant, of course, than one or more of us had to be the Germans. (We took it in turns.) None of us have grown up to be Nazis.

Also, I hope no one ever gives you the board game "Escape from Colditz". Which, incidentally, I believe was made with advice from one of the prisoners who had been there. But someone still has to be the Germans.

NeverGotMyPuppy · 09/02/2020 14:17

The OP gets she's BU
Don't know why you're all parroting each other.

kingkuta · 09/02/2020 14:18

Hilarious

Thefaceofboe · 09/02/2020 14:20

Who are the 2% who voted ‘YANBU’ @MNHQ can you ban them too?

Loverofoldfilms · 09/02/2020 17:41

Are you a junior editor from the Dailymail? Must be a windup in the wake of Laurence Fox's attack on wokeness….

Mrssides · 09/02/2020 17:43

Are you serious!?! Yes, definitely don't go, kids don't want a killjoy there, ruining their fun. Pirates is a very common theme for kids to dress up as, my sons school threw a pirate party at the end of the year, didn't see a single bit of rape or murder going on

csigeek · 09/02/2020 17:43

What?!

Rabblemum · 09/02/2020 17:43

The pirate thing is strange but this is dress up! I encouraged my kids to use their imagination on Halloween and dress as scary clowns, hospital patients (including real equipment for extra scares) and various zombies. A party is where we can have a bit of fantasy and explore the dark side with no harm done.

Oh, I suspect this is a wind up, if so 10 out of 10 for intelligent trolling, like it.

EerieSilence · 09/02/2020 17:43

How do we nominate this thread to Classics? Piss take or not, it's hilarious.

Thislittlepiggywentto · 09/02/2020 17:43

I just accidentally clicked yanbu, oops! Apologies for throwing the vote a teeny tiny bit Grin

Thislittlepiggywentto · 09/02/2020 17:44

@Thefaceofboe noooo mine was accidental! Hopefully the others too?!

Dilovescake21 · 09/02/2020 17:45

You can overthink things sometimes. This is definitely one of those occasions. Make a stand on the really important stuff - climate change, women's rights, ending child poverty and not at the expense of your child's fun. Also it makes you look like a total prat.

Justontherightsideofnormal · 09/02/2020 17:45

I’d maybe clarify if rape and murder are on the agenda before declining the invite.

FaveNumberIs2 · 09/02/2020 17:45

Really?

Think Prince Harry missed that memo!

I doubt the first thing to enter a six year olds head is rape and murder when you mention pirates!

RedRedWines · 09/02/2020 17:46

😂😂

Mittens030869 · 09/02/2020 17:48

Come on, that's daft. By that logic, you shouldn't enjoy who dunnits either because that must mean that we think that murder is funny.

You must have noticed that in any film it's the villain that most people love best, like Croella De Vil.

Poor kid having such a killjoy mum.

tallah · 09/02/2020 17:48

Weirdo

beanii · 09/02/2020 17:49

This cannot be a genuine post surely?!

winniestone37 · 09/02/2020 17:57

Bahhhhh ha ha ha pirates were also activists fighting for the underdog. Educate yourself you loon.

MysteriesOfTheOrganism · 09/02/2020 17:58

Absolutely! Can't have any jolly rogering going on - at least not before the watershed. Shock