To be mad at my DH?

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First time poster, long time lurked so please bear with me.

My DH has been unwell this week, to the point he has been essentially bed bound and sleeping for 5-6 days. This is the poorliest I have ever seen him (together 8 years, married 5) and I do not begrudge him this. However, the events of the last 48 hours have upset me A LOT and I need to know whether or not IBU.

Wednesday: tell DH to call GP or NHS 111 during day while I am at work. Arrive home from work with grumpy 14m old baby, he has not done this. I call, get him OOH appt and basically force him to go. Doctors recommend admitting to hospital for tests, DH refuses to wait for a bed (Not too mad at this, he was advised 6 hour wait).

Thursday: Again doesn't get out of bed all day, DS has cut new tooth so is thoroughly miserable, I am really struggling. Feel forced into the decision to have my DS have his 1st overnight away as DH won't even watch him for 10 minutes so I can shower. Cried my eyes out but sent DS to my parents.
Feel ill myself. No sleep, throwing up, generally exhausted. Cue 1am: DH comes in, lights on, tells me he's called an ambulance for himself and to get up and get dresses. Paramedics come, do tests and recommend hospital and AGAIN DH refuses to go. Both try to get some sleep, I'm working at 8am. DH comes in and wakes me at 5:30am for a cuddle and then tries to start getting frisky, less than 4 hours after paramedics and after I've had no sleep and been sick! I am annoyed, tell him no chance and try to sleep He then gets annoyed at me for ' not checking on him before I left for work ' (Which I did) and pulls the 'if you're mad, it wasn't that long ago that i had paramedics here telling me to go to hospital.' card. Which made it worse.

I have basically been doing everything this last week and, while I appreciate he is poorly, AIBU in thinking he's acted like an arsehole, not only in his treatment of me but also forcing me to make a huge decision re: DS I wasn't quite ready for and not seeming to care about my feelings? (I just got 'How are you?' with no major compassion)

So he's in hospital. Good. Have divorce papers drawn up for when he comes home. What a twat.

@Poohpooh He is absolutely brilliant the rest of the time, our son adores him. He spends a lot of time with him, and helps massively with the day to day running of the house despite working more hours than me.

My parents are very unimpressed with his treatment of me during this and will be letting him know it

You should be letting him know as well.

Not only his treatment of you but the NHS and resources there

But OP he also must be quite scared as its clear he is not very well

He might be properly ill but he’s still being a Dick

He’s a nob to call pramedics and ignore them.

He’s also a tool to say he’s too ill to watch ds whilst you shower but be capable of sex.

You can have a shower without anyone watching your ds. Single parents have to.

Good luck, I hope you all recover soon.

Possibly it was his illness that has made him behave like this , especially if he had a high temperature, he had been quite ill for a long time for a young fit man , even with flu the worst is only 3 or 4 days . I hope you are all better soon x

Of course we care. Thank you for taking the time to update. 💐

I’m sorry he’s been such an arse to you. Maybe it’s out of character but they do say when someone shows you their true colours, believe them.

He sounds like an utter twat and a time waster.

Still an abusive twat.

I find talk of him being brilliant, unbelievable.

Nobody who would waste the time of over stretched emergency services is capable of being anything other than a selfish twat.

Take care OP and take any support your parents can offer you and your poor child.