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To ask if your post birth vagina looks very different?

212 replies

yadayadayesokay · 07/02/2020 17:23

I gave birth 2 years ago and had forceps & an episiotomy. It was very traumatic and nobody examined me afterwards, I didn’t push for anyone to as I didn’t want anyone going near me.

Now I’m due to give birth again and thought I would have a look down there with a mirror, and wow it looks fucking disgusting. Sorry for TMI but while my labia looks the same, everything underneath looks rearranged, swirly and bumpy. It looks like an alien vagina.

Does anyone else look so different afterwards or is this very unusual?

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nocluewhattodoo · 07/02/2020 18:30

I got away with only a graze with DD, it looks no different to how it did before, and still functions as it should thankfully which is what matters. I actually find it easier to orgasm post birth.

I did make the mistake of looking with a mirror a few days post birth, and it was not a pretty sight. Baboons arse shot point blank with a shotgun springs to mind Grin

morrisseysquif · 07/02/2020 18:31

I think you mean your vulva OP and yep, mine is a mess from two lots of stitching akin to being trussed up like a turkey. DP hasn't been near it since!

RZX44 · 07/02/2020 18:33

I havent looked but if I have a feel its like theres a chasm where something used to be. Still seems to work tho.

99problemsandthecatis1 · 07/02/2020 18:33

@Alfr are you medically trained? Because I need to know as I can very definitely see my vagina. My labia are so open its really easy to see it.

SymbollocksInteractionism · 07/02/2020 18:33

Mine looks like a patchwork quilt. It's been sewn together again 3 times!

SharpieInThe · 07/02/2020 18:35

Like a punched lasagne.

If it hurts during sex it's worth seeing someone, not for how it looks, but sex shouldn't hurt.

ChazP · 07/02/2020 18:35

I haven’t got the first clue! Can’t say I’ve ever looked. (Now thinking I’m abnormal for not looking!)

However, given after my 2nd birth the doctor told me that I’d torn right round my clitoris, I’m not holding much hope for things looking pretty down there!

Bluerussian · 07/02/2020 18:35

Mine looks the same as it ever did but I only had one child following an easy labour with no drugs. I had a small episiotomy that was stitched but that healed up alright.

I did make the mistake of looking with a mirror a few days post birth, and it was not a pretty sight. Baboons arse shot point blank with a shotgun springs to mind grin

Brilliant :-).

giggly · 07/02/2020 18:36

Just curious op if you had a wee look before your births and that’s what your comparing too? Or was it possibly disgusting even before your babiesHmm
I had a wee keek post births x 2 and mine looks like a glowing tunnel of wonder sprinkled with fairy dustFlowers.

FoamingAtTheUterus · 07/02/2020 18:37

Two vaginal births.

No.stitches or tearing........still manages to end up looking like a gremlin peeling out of a carrier bag. Hmm

SymbollocksInteractionism · 07/02/2020 18:37

Try not to worry OP. The midwife after my second birth was fab and was meticulous with her stitching. Once it had all healed I could feel the difference from my first birth. It all felt neater and higher again IYSWIM.

mummmy2017 · 07/02/2020 18:40

I was thinking about this last night, by accident ended up with naked attraction on, was at bit shocked at the 5 on view, three had bits on show that I had no idea were not normally covered up.

lilgreen · 07/02/2020 18:40

Yep white episiotomy scar and probably a bit different but hey I’d rather that than a c section scar. So long as it works!Wink

vegvegveg · 07/02/2020 18:41

Mine is browner and maybe looks slightly.....bigger... if you will, 😂 ! My baby was almost 10lb though!

Cineraria · 07/02/2020 18:43

Mine looks very little different, I think, apart from two hairline scars. I had to have an ERPC each time though, so the stitches were done/redone by a surgeon. Both midwives who came home to check me and the baby seemed to think this makes a difference. I had no pain from them either.

Darkstar4855 · 07/02/2020 18:44

It’s vulva, not vagina. The vagina is, by definition, the internal part. Yes, I am medically trained.

Haven’t looked at mine since giving birth but I had an episiotomy and a third degree tear so I imagine there’s a fair amount of scarring.

Bert2e · 07/02/2020 18:45

It's your vulva NOT your vagina, if you can see your vagina then you have had a prolapse and need to see a medical professional. I really wish people would use the correct terminology.

LowcaAndroidow · 07/02/2020 18:45

Funnily enough, my first birth was an episiotomy/forceps nightmare but everything went back to normal afterwards!

Second birth I had an episiotomy and it did leave me a little ragged round the edges afterwards.

Third birth, totally normal, small baby and not so much as a graze and yet it's now a total mess down there Shock But sex is fine and I have no pain or incontinence or anything - I just don't want to look at it Grin

MazDazzle · 07/02/2020 18:46

Whilst I was pregnant mine looked completely different to how it is now. When I I was pg it looked like Frankenstein’s fanjo: dark purple/navy blue and swollen with thick worm like veins. It doesn’t look like that now!

So you might find that after you’ve had this baby things might look a lot different down there.

collywobblescar · 07/02/2020 18:47

Like ready meal lasagne

dontgobaconmyheart · 07/02/2020 18:48

Wasn't going to comment OP but as you say there is pain please request a referral to the womens health physio or gynaecology, so much can be done about this. I haven't given birth but had a rectal and vaginal prolapse nonetheless, painful sex, stress incontinence etc. Womens physio was brilliant, it's just a body part and you do not have to suffer Flowers- if sex is painful don't have it, have the pelvic floor checked by the womens team and have them advise on a plan to help your body get to a place where pain is reduced and you can manage and improve it yourself with relaxation, exercise, lubricants, aids, surgery i suppose if necessary in an extreme case and so on. Lots of help available.

99problemsandthecatis1 · 07/02/2020 18:49

@Darkstar4855 so I stand by my statement. My VAGINA looks different. I can see it with ease now, whereas before I had to part labia and spread the opening to see it. I have both a rectocele and cystocele. My labia, general vulva and perineum areas are also victims of what appears to have been a genocide to my nethers.

SunshineOutdoors · 07/02/2020 18:50

Only clicked on this thread for the vulva/vagina comments. But yes, mine looks awful now

GreyishDays · 07/02/2020 18:51

I really don’t think the entrance to the vagina is the labia. I can see my vagina with a mirror. Not all the way up, obviously.

SallySun123 · 07/02/2020 18:52

NEVER look!! The only thing that should be seen in a mirror is your face (and maybe body depending on the size of a mirror).

I had pain inside that was caused by a little bit of raised scar tissue. No biggie and didn’t need further treatment but was reassuring to go get it check by the GP. Lots of medical professionals are happy to look at your vagina so you don’t have to.